First, I want to thank everyone on their comments.
Second, I posted the event as a rant, not seeking anything except a vent to allow my steam to escape.
Third, I received a call from my young friend this morning. She wanted to apologize for her cousin again. (Totally not necessary.) Then she told me the cousin had gone home to Florida early (Sorry all you who live in Florida.) She told my friend that she hoped that the friend would not have anything to do with me. I was rude to her! She was only trying to help me get better, because I was too old to know what I was doing. And besides, she could buy nice quilts at Wal-Mart and home-made stuff was just junk in her mind!

I am still laughing!

Oh, yes, my friend told me that the cousin was supposed to have been getting married the first of November, but the young man broke it off! (Smart fellow.)

I ache for the cousin. She is going to be so unhappy all of her life.

If she had said the things to me that she said to you, she would have known what rude is. And we wonder why he broke off the wedding... NOT
I feel bad for your friend though, she can't choose her relatives.

Very smart fellow!!

The young lady sounds SOOO unhappy. Perhaps she has other issues that are clouding her perception and hopefully she will be able to see the light as her life progresses.

I'm still shaking my head in disbelief.

That woman does not have a clue , nor does she realize should should buy a clue.
That being said ... I would have been in the clue business and given her the first one free.

Well, that girl is a piece of work! It's so sad that politeness, manners and respect for your elders is no longer taught. Sadly, she will go on thinking everyone else has a problem and not realize she is the problem.

Well put. I agree totally.

You know, the cousin actually sounds as if she has a mental illness. Sounds like some women I have known with untreated bipolar disorder.

I am so taken back by the whole affair. Your friend does have a choice and that is not to be like her cousin. Yor friend more than likely came to you for some support. Her time with her cousin was probably dreadful and she needed some one to stand up to her. Negative, critical people wear on the ones around them. My heart goes out to her and you. your friend probably needs your friendship more than ever now.

I agree with all the comments made here! A sad thing to admit but one of my grandaughters acts just like this rude young lady. She has caused all of our family a world of misery. I think they have mental health issues.

I must have missed the original post and the comments made. Let her buy her "better" quilts at WalMart. We know the quality of theirs and we know she will be buying one anybody can buy just like hers. Yours are unique and one of a kinds.

how old was this cousin? goodness, talk about knowing it all! One day she will get a wake up call.

Usually Walmart quilt don't make it past the first washing.

Arrogance may be humbled, ill-manners corrected but there's no cure for 'jest stupud.'

20 something, non-quilter...

This is the original topic posted.
http://www.quiltingboard.com/t-162013-1.htm

I had a DIL just like her. She is no longer part of the family, thank goodness. She is now 52, miserable, alone, and few friends. Those friends pity her more than like her, and feel she is mentally ill. DS's siblings asked him what took him so long to get out of that marriage. His reply was that he was protecting the kids and trying to keep their lives normal. They try not to spend much time with their mother when they're home.

"If you cant be a postive influence be a horrible warning" Everyone has a postive roll in this life, unfortunately this gals was the postively horrible side of influence. But still she has a purpose. I'm sure you gained lots of insight from this young lady that had nothing to do with quilting. Now isnt it wonderful that she popped into your life and helped you out! LOL...I can say that because she's didnt visit me!

I didn't see the original post but I get the gist of it.
WOW!!
Glad you're laughing though. People can be so weird!

oh my.. what a funny story.. it keeps on giving !

I did hear the police sirens in the back ground ! :)

Wow, just went and read the original post. Wow! The girl has some nerve. I hate to say this but for some young people it is just the way they were raised or not raised. I'm sorry you had to suffer her stupidity and arrogance but glad your not mad at your friend.
Like they say you can't pick your relatives.

I wonder if the hypercritical young lady actually has Asberger's syndrome, a personality diagnosis on the autistic spectrum. Those I am very familiar with can only see things from their point of view, with absolutely no social filter on their speech. Generally very intelligent as in book smart, scoring well on Mensa superintelligent tests, but socially inept. Much of their "expertise" comes from books and computer searches, but unable to critically evaluate junk from truth. They cannot understand why their criticisms aren't well received because they are never wrong and are merely pointing out how smart they are.

I am glad your friend has someone who understands how difficult her cousin is, and you are able to help her thorough her embarrassment. Your tact was amazing! I'm afraid my fuse is quite a bit shorter.

I do not understand why the young woman thought it was her place to make suggestions about an artist's work...and what ever happened to keeping one's mouth shut unless one has something positive to say?

I have a problem with people, especially children, believing that being nasty is their right!

You have that right! I have had potential clients tell me my work is too expensive and they can get professionally done quilts for a better price there!

Sorry you had to deal with the rudeness. Don't waste another thought on it.

I never give a second thought to people that act like jerks. I've told many to leave my home over the years including relatives. I had to have the police escort my BIL out when I told him to go, my DH was not home and he believed I had no right to tell him to leave. I put a restraint order on him the next day. That shook him up I would do that and my DH 'let' me. LOL. He was scared to death his boss would find out. I was told he isn't the caveman jerk as he use to be, which no one cares, SIL divorced him.

You might want to suggest to your friend if her cousin ever does get married, your friend should remember to get a Walmart quilt for her and not make her one.

Now you can shake your head, chuckle, and say "what an idiot". Maybe someday she'll learn.

Boy, that's the gift that keeps on giving. I am laughing with you.

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You were far nicer to her than I would have been.

I have a SIl like this she thinks she knows everything about everything but what she spouts makes no sense at all. I think she is really a deeply insecure person and this is how it comes out. Sometime someone will let this young woman know whats what and maybe she will still be willing to change her attitude.

You know I thought of the aspergers or bipolar thing myself while reading the original post. Having said that I still wouldn't have put up with her "opinions" without saying something.

She might have a mental issue, or she might just be a brat!

As I said before The apple does not fall far from the tree. Just be glad you don't have to their family reunion.

I have an ex-husband that is a self-proclaimed expert on everything. After 9 months of him trying to teach me, (planting gradens, re-pot plants, cooking, cleaning, etc...) HE gave up. I asked him to go on down the road. (He had a nursing license but could not find work that he was willing to drive too. I lived in the country about 50 miles to big city.) I love to learn things I do not know but "re-potting plants! I had been gardening for 35 yrs and they have grown just fine.

That's what I was thinking. She will be repeatedly disappointed and unable to see that she's the common denominator in her experiences. That really is the definition of tragedy.

I know that she was rude and crude. Did anyone think about praying for this young lady? Prayer can change alot of people and alot of things. She sounds like she really needs prayer in her life.

I am still shocked at the first post, now following it up, I am equally shocked. Sadly this poor thing has no clue, I just hope she enjoys all her Wal Mart quilts. I am certain the cousin will never make her one : )

Did the cousin get her ugly self back to Florida of her own will, or was she run out of town? I can just imagine her being escorted (by motorcade) to the airport, by the authorities, and being told never to return!.....well heck, it is fun to imagine sometimes! I am so glad you stood up to her rudeness and spoke your mind. She can talk it up all she wants to, but one thing she learned on this trip, is that she can't come into your home and insult you..............and that is a good thing!
:)

This situation mirrors our son's previous marriage to a tee!!!
A more miserable person I have never known, and one who makes everyone else miserable around her. She comes from a family that has the same characteristics. I wonder if it is an inherited mental illness.
Anyway our family is much happier without her and our grown grandchildren seem to come to us when they need love and guidance. At least that is rewarding!!

Sure gives special meaning to - you can pick your friends, but not your relatives...