I agree with this. Tell her you paid full price to support your very good friend, and if it's too expensive for her to buy now, perhaps she should wait for it to go on sale!

All of you woman have the right response... honesty is always the best policy and when she said Oh Goody you have it.. I will get it from you.. she was using you. That is not a friend in my eyes either. Sharing is one thing but respect comes first. A true friend would not try to use you to get something that she had no right to in the first place and that was illegal. I say, tell her No and if it does ruin the friendship, she wasn't worth having as a friend. I hate when people do that and say they want or will take my things like they have the right. It is just not respectful or ethical.

I would just say No. It is very hard for me to say and I have been another person who has tried to make the offending person not feel uncomfortable. By doing that I have had bad feelings about myself that are hard to get over. So I am learning to just say No. The more we practice it when we know it is the right thing to say, the better we will get at it. So just say No. She knows she is in the wrong, but wants to make it ok by having you agree with her. Don't!

I have a friend who is very generous with me in every way but every time I take a course of any kind she always asks for the pattern.For years I have said "no the teacher doesn't want us to share her directions". This stops her for a while till she finds I have gone to anoter course. I have told her about courses and financially she is able to do them she just doesn't want to go! I feel bad about this as she is so generous in every other way. I even went so far as to pay and give her a course for a birthday gift and she was a no show!!!

Makes no sense to me either. If a friend asks you to cheat and won't take no for an answer, is this the caliber and integrity of someone you really want for a friend? If you have to lie, or avoid her, or make up excuses to 'save the relationship' what kind of relationship do you have? I know it is always easier said than done but I used to be a people pleaser and believe me, compromising your standards, morals, character and reputation are NOT worth it, ever. If this person doesn't understand No, then it is her problem, not yours. You are doing the right thing, so don't back down.

LOVE this idea! I doubt she's have the guts to ask the designer for a free copy, or ask you for a free copy in front of the designer. Put her on the spot; that's what she did to you, so turn it back on her.

Ditto here!

You can just tell her that the pattern is not meant to be passed around once purchased. If she wants to ask the designer for permission to use yours and she agrees and you agree, then that is another thing.

No, No, No. Plain and simply I agree with np3, love everyones suggestions...Really not fair of her to put you in this very uncomfortable situation, I don't think you owe anyone any apology!!

if all else fails...TELL HER THE DOG ATE IT
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