I agree with gcathie. I had a pitbull, he was a big baby but he was very destructive! He even ate through my comforter (thank God I didn't quilt then) sheets, mattress pad and mattress. The hole he put in the mattress was as big as a pillow. That is only one of MANY instances of things he destroyed. I'd fix the quilt for my son................ this time! :lol:

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!! Are you for REAL!!!!!!!!!! Yep.. that would be the last time I made anything for someone like that too!!!!!!!!

I know how you feel- but the opposite. I give the quilt with the instruction that I want it used and loved. And if it ever needs repair, it's OK, I'll fix it.

I was one of those Moms that saved it "for good", not realizing the maker was really wanting to be used and seen on the bed. My girls appreciate the hand made quilt and afghan from their godmothers, but they wish they were allowed to use them.

I was a bit miffed recently, I made a really pretty girly girl quilt for my daughter's best friend's little one. I told I expect to see this toddler getting attached to it and wanting to make it her special blankie. Guess what- her Grandmother took it to her house- 2 hours away to put it on a bed that the little girl sleeps in every few months. She wanted to make sure she didn't ruin it. I told daughter they need to get it back- it's Izy's quilt, not her Grandmothers.

Bottom line- once it leaves your hands, no more control. :(

That is why I sew for charity.....so sorry, I know how hurt you must feel...

Wow; a lot of mixed answers on this. But thank you ; I do appreciate all your different comments. I haven't talked to my son yet, but will see him Friday and mention it then. I am sure he was just ashamed about it happening and didn't want to say anything to me ,to hurt my feelings. I was shocked at first, when I saw the quilt; but reading all your comments---it sunk in that it was just a "thing". it can be patched or replaced. The dog is gone now and it wasn't her fault. I never blamed the dog anyways. It's the people that don't think. If he wants me to patch it , I will , just so it doesn't fall apart more .
Elaine

You give a gift, you walk away...simple. If he didn't come carrying that quilt to your door and asked for help w/a big sobbing story...I would have pretended I didn't see it or know about it. Do the same! Even though you have seen it, you are not doing him of any service to run and fix anything he didn't ask for you to fix. Yes, you have much time and pleasure the first round...you giveth...he either taketh and taketh w/good care...or he don't and then he'd not getteth anything more!!... Fixing it will fix it for how long? And, what did he learn? And, what did you learn?:)Might not be what you really want to hear...but, that's where I'd put my foot...on the door to hold it shut!:)Skeat

I'm in the once you give a gift--it's out of your hands crowd. What he does with it--he does with it. It sure doesn't sound like it was on purpose.

I almost only give ragged flannels away--I feel they are the snuggliest of all quilts, but there's less work in them too. :wink:

"I saw that your quilt was damaged. Bring it over and I will put a couple patches on it."

Extend mercy and just love on your son, even when he screws up.

well i'll tell yall a good one too. I made my neighbor lady a basket out of cloth, it had 3 layers of fabric , one layer was embroidered on, and it was the way you sew it together and then use snaps etc that made it a basket. well, anyhow it was very time consuming to make. so here's what she did with that. can u believe she tore it all apart, and used the embroidered piece for a doily on her little table. i was just sick about it and i have not and will not make her anything again. i think she should have brought it back to me and told me she just didn't like it or didn't have any use for it and would i make her a embroidered doily. i definitely would have done that. i'll attach a pic of it.

That is so beautiful made, its really amazing and if i was lucky enough to receive something like this i would have taken very very good care about it and cherish it forever; especially because you can see how much love and work and effort that has gone into making it. ( any idiot(yes even an idiot,lol) should see this has been a very time consuming and lots of work involved.

Again its really pretty