I recently saw a lovely quilt made by one our church members. I asked the person who made it if she would mind telling me the name of the pattern, but she refused. Why are people like that.

She may have had a bad day. it is plain rudeness which seems to be in the air at times.

Maybe, they want to feel like they have done something special and it won't be if others make it too. I had a friend that was a wonderful cook and would bring samples for me to try, but she would guard her recipes. She made a tasty appetizer made with spinach and puff pastry that I would have loved to have the recipe. She felt a need to be the only one to make them.

That's not like a quilter at all. Unless it is her own pattern, there isn't any reason not to share the name of the pattern with you.

Sounds like she was having a bad day, I'm sorry that happened to you. {{{hugs}}}

You know her. I don't. Why do you think?

Jealous and prideful and fearful that you will make one like hers? Maybe she doesn't know the pattern name or she forgot, and she was ashamed to admit that? Maybe just cranky? Maybe she had a bad day? Could be a lot of reasons.

I would suggest you taking out your cell phone, snap a photo and post it here. You'd have the pattern name in an hour or two.

I have no idea. I've given up trying to figure anybody out!
Some people are that way with recipes also.
I like spreading the love! :D

I would suggest you taking out your cell phone, snap a photo and post it here. You'd have the pattern name in an hour or two.[/quote]
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This seems to be the only way to get the pattern. But where IS that quilt? In her home? In some place that's public enough so that you could snap a picture without offending her?

Inquiring minds want to know. (I'll never admit that I'm just plain nosey!!)

I knew a woman once that made a special dessert. I asked for the recipe and she wouldn't share. I googled the ingredients and found the recipe on allrecipes.com I made that dessert and altered it a bit. She tried it and loved it and said I made it better than her! I only wanted the recipe, not to "steal" anything she did.

As far as a pattern goes, I don't know why this lady wouldn't share. My dear mil had a friend like that and I couldn't understand the big secret. Probably she was just in a bad mood. I am sorry though.

Maybe you can describe it here. There are so many knowledgable people here who seem to come up with the answers to the most elusive problems or requests. Good luck.

Some people are just that way unfortunately. You will come across that pattern again one day. :D:D:D

I don't get it either. If someone asked me about a quilt I made I'd be so happy to talk about quilting to someone I'd probably never shut up about it.

Me too!

Hahahahaha, me too!!!!! And I would be supremely flattered!!! :thumbup:

I will gladly share everything I know with who ever asks...because I figure it will enrich the other person as much as me.

It's a shame she wasn't flattered that you asked for the pattern. You obviously liked the quilt enough to ask for the pattern, which means that she must have done a beautiful job. Not sure why she didn't see that as a compliment.

If you describe it maybe we could help with the name?

My gosh. Even if you made the very same quilt, I am sure you would not use the very same fabric. I try to share the names of all my patterns with people. It would have flattered me to think she thought it was pretty enough to want to make one. I have gave the name of my Avatar and the designer to anyone that asked.

Me three! None of my friends quilt except one and we are separated by over 1000 miles.

This is my answer too! Nobody I know quilts...at least, nobody I know in real life. My "imaginary friends in the magic box" as my husband calls my internet friends, are the only people I talk to about quilting.

The quilt has gone to one of our shut-ins. Maybe if I visit the person, she would let me take a picture. The reason I wanted the pattern is that it looks easy and I am still in that easy stage----that is why i wanted the name.This person does beautiful work . So I w ill see what I can do

I guess it takes all kinds! I would be Happy if someone liked my quilt enough to want to know the pattern!

Good Thinking! If you could take a pic and post it here I am sure someone will come up with the name......

I do hope that you're able to visit the "shut-in" person and take a pic of it. There's so many knowledgeable people on this board that you'll have the answer in NO time. I'll be bookmarking this post to follow it for later on.

Sad they keep the joy of sharing out of their life.

I agree just plain sad!

hmm....who knows. Even if i copy a quilt - the size of the pieces can be different, the color choices are different...

And like others have indicated - i always LOVE to tell the story behind a quilt i've made - especially if it is an old(er) quilt that i'm finishing.

Love that advice!! I love this site!! Always get an answer that makes perfect sense and solves the problem!! More than one way to skin a cat?? Thanks!!

People...they come in all shapes .. sizes... and Attitudes..Ha Ha... Lol

It might be she made the quilt and made a mistake throughout the entire quilt - and thus does not want to give the name of it as it is now a whole different quilt! Just did not want you to know she made a mistake - ????? Just a guess - unless she is a person who just has a bad-hair day occasionally. Anything is possible - If she is secretive otherwise in other things, it is something that she is carrying over into her quilting as well... if not, my guess is what I stated above.. unless she is like I say - having a bad-hair day.

If you can kind of sketch it out and send the sketch in, maybe someone here can figure it out. good luck.

Maybe this is one of those "God works in mysterious ways" things. This is giving you an opportunity to visit a shut-in!

I was going to use the pattern to make a quilt for my daughter who does not even live around here. So, like you all have said the colors would be different etc.

I am going to ask the person one more time and if she does not respond then I will go to plan B and take a picture. Maybe she was over whelmed with the holidays.

Seems to me that christians should be willing to share! Shame on her!

Am thinking the exact same thing. I don't get it...I'd be complemented!

Hi grannypat,
I am jsut a few miles away from you in Dayton.
Do you have any good quilt shops in Springfield.

She was just being mean and stingy -- quite unlike most quilters who would have gladly told you the name of the pattern, where she got it, where she got her fabric, who quilted it, who she made it for, who quilted it, etc. until you were tired of talking about it...or maybe she was just having a VERY bad day... :D

I consider it an compliment when someone asks for a recipe etc. Just a difference in people I guess.

oops. I consider it a compliment when someone asks for a recipe etc. Just a difference in people I guess.

I love to share my patterns and designs and my quilting technique. I don't believe I've met a quilter that won't share. Like someone else said, maybe she was having a bad day.

Sometimes it is because they don't know and don't want to appear 'dumb'.
Sometimes it is because they feel insecure and this is their power game that they play.
Sometimes it is because they are immature, silly or nasty.
In all cases, I would just shake the dust from my feet and move on - they are not worth wasting time on.

Church lady? Did she have blue hair? (OK I'm over 60 so I can say this: maybe she forgot the name of the pattern and did'nt want to let on she couldn't remember! lol!) I would just whip out a paper and pencil and draw up a little picture of a block and figure it out - or, maybe that's what she did, whipped out a paper and pencil and copied something she saw so she really didn't have a name other than "the borrowed block". share t