Just wanted to give you a great big hug!

If you send him a certified letter (return receipt requested) and request that he return your Xbox immediately or send you the money, you can take a copy of that letter and the return receipt he signed to your local police department and file charges with them for "theft by conversion." A visit by the police, handcuffs, booking photos, etc., will get his attention (and hopefully your Xbox back). I had a former roommate move out and take some of my stuff when she left. Needless to say, I gave the police her work address to pick her up.

the first 3 people aren't worth worrying about. those relationships were doomed anyway, because they were jerks. the 3rd, see above or get with your brother and take him to small claims court. he either sold the stuff or gave it to someone else. the 'jerk'.

That sounds like a plan.

I would try to stop thinking in negative ways & turn it into a positive. We have to learn as we evolve or else we're not growing! I, too, have been hurt & felt abandoned by friends who suddenly walked out of my life with no explanation. Then I heard the expression "A Reason or A Season" -- meaning that people come into your life -- some may only pass thru briefly, some may stay awhile or a lifetime, but they're there to teach you something about yourself or to fulfill some other purpose (maybe known only to God). But if we can learn from these experiences & change our negative behaviors, we may become who we were meant to be. You obviously have a generous heart, so find a good cause for your quilts to go to, until someone truly proves themselves to be "quilt-worthy"! Good Luck!

Quilted dove said it all. I agree with her 100%

I would suggest you start making your quilts to please yourself & not targeted to others. Let them pile up til you find somebody who truly deserves your loving stitches.

Have you been watching me? I have the same problem sometimes.

You could make everyone on this forum a quilt and we would cherish them along with your friendship.

Let me add my agreement with this post.

It's not the quilts that are cursed....
We all could probably find one or two of our own that ended up in a less than favorable situation.

Your love will always be in any quilt you make because it seems that you also love to make them and give them with heartfelt meaning. As "the quilteddove" said..countinue to make them...and I might diviate from "the quilteddove" by suggesting that your next quilt be given to a charity, nursing home, police department or even the fire department closest to you...they always like having something to wrap victims in.
Chin up, deep breath, smile...it's hard to be down in the dumps with a smile on your face.

Bless you for sharing.

V, my advice (not that you asked for advice) is that you love yourself first. Do some things just for yourself, whether it is making a quilt, getting a pedicure, or taking a class that you have always wanted to take. It doesn't matter what, as long as you feel good about it. And make it a regular gig.

Let the losers and takers fend for themselves. Waste no time on 'what their problem' is. It's THEIR problem; you will be too busy enjoying the new quality in your life.

Never fear being alone. If you are comfortable in your own company, more people like that will be drawn to you. ( And frankly, being alone is far superior to being with people who suck the life out of you.)

You are worth receiving all of life's gifts. Accept the good; ignore those not worthy of you.

Very well said!! And true. Especially the "suck the life out of you" people. And we all know who they are!! Drift away from them and learn how to take care of YOU!!

Maybe you are just picking out the wrong kind of friends. I would also wait a long time before deciding to make a quilt for someone. That way you can see if they are going to stick around.

I'm so sorry you have had these experiences. I haven't read all the posts so maybe this has been suggested. Could you finish the Slipknot quilt and sell it, making up the money for the Xbox? But don't stop tryingto get the money from the jerk. Sounds like theft. Do you feel like taking him to small claims court?

An additional thought:
Do you remember the Bazooka Joe comics that came in the bubble gum? They would have funny words of wisdom at the bottom. One said "if you give someone $20 and never see them again, consider it a good investment". You might already be at that point, but if you're not, consider looking at it that you really don't want those people in your life and now they're gone. And I agree with what others were saying to make some quilts for charity (or certain family members that you may want out of your life :twisted: :twisted: ) and trust that they're going to people who will appreciate them and appreciate you :D

You gotta kiss alot of frogs before you find a prince. You are just weeding out the frogs.. Just wait a long long time before you make a quilt for them. It will get better I promise, Been there done that.

I think this is what you should be doing. Just make some quilts for you. They may or may not find homes with someone else. :-)

Those people who suck the life out of your are what we call emotional vampires! Stay far,very far from them. They can suck much happiness from our every day life. Don't let them!

So do I! I'd like to add one more comment for you - after a long, hard and abusive marriage for 31 years and the disappointments with some friendships and family members - I finally figured it out - the only change I could make was with myself - you cannot control or change anyone else. So, that is what I did - and I look at life differently now. And yes, there are still those "things" that happen, but just know that it is not you. Hunter's Grammy

I never really thought of raffling off a quilt. Actually I think I'm just going to rip out the label, finish the quilt, and give it to my brother. Might give the label to that jerk to say "There is a quilt to go with this, but you're no way deserving of this. You only get the label because it has your name on it".

Send me the money? Screw that. I gave him enough chances to pay for it. And for $100 with two controllers and $60 worth of games...practically a steal (no pun intended). No. That SOB can buy his own Xbox somewhere else, which if he buys new will cost twice as much, not come with games, and come with only one controller.

Oh, I got an invoice from PayPal that lists all the Kittie shirts I bought, where I bought them from, when I bought them, and how much they cost. Maybe that will help. The XBox is one thing (I can always replace it). The materials for my quilt (some which are almost irreplaceable, rare, and cost me quite a bit) is another.

Take the guy with the Xbox to small claims court. They will make him pay or return it. If he returns it broken, take him back to small claims. He needs to learn to no do stuff like that to folks.

Taking him to small claims court won't get the X-Box back even if you get a judgement in your favor. All that gets is a judgement which he will never pay off. There is no criminal penalty involved. That may be your only recourse if the police won't do anything but all it will do is cost you more money and get a judgement that isn't worth the paper it's printed on. It will show up on his credit record but that's all.

Heh heh heh, I like it!

I'm so sorry to hear how people have treated you. I have met some jerks also but don't stop believing there are good people out there! You have a generous heart. It would be fulfilling for you to give quilts to a homeless shelter or children going through foster care. I think the 'Linus project' could use some blankets. I'm not sure how to contact them. Maybe you could google Linus blankets or something.

God brings people in our lives for a reason, if only for a season. just live and learn. You are appreciated by a great many, we just dont have the quilts. ((((HUGS)))))

I wouldn't even give him the label. Lets him know you were thinking about him. Personally, I would get more satisfaction out of burning it, but that's just me. Your mileage may vary.

ditto

I agree. Burn it and get him/it out of your system.

Keep the label and throw darts at it. :)

make quilts for the Linus Project. Check your local childrens hospital. They will surely be appreciated.

I read this a long time ago and its helped me a lot in situations like yours, take it to heart and smile and keep making those quilts !!


“Reason, Season, Lifetime”
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

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Do you have any members of your birth family alive? In my old age and in dealing with a life changing illness that will never get better for me,(Kidney Failure) I have found that my birth family are more loyal than any of my friends, but it was hard to accept at first.

I also agree with thequilteddove.
that is a very nice and heart felt response!!!
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Look, even if the accusation about your brother were true, it is irrelevant to the jerk's actions. Ignore the irrelevant stuff.
And stop threatening him with the cops. I don't believe in threats. I believe in action. So do it or don't do it. Threats just give him time to get his story straight.

Well, you are obviously nice to make all these wonderful quilts for these people. My best advice to you would be - just pick better friends in the future. Keep in mind that when you surround yourself with good people, it will make you feel that much better. Better luck in the future and I also agree about quilting for charity making you feel really blessed. I make several quilts each year for our group and we send them to needy babies throughout our state.