I will lend a pattern to a friend on most occasions, especially if I know their finances are tight. If they happen to make their own copy of it without my knowledge, I have no guilt. That would be on their conscious not mine. I do try and think good of my friends, so I don't worry about those things.

I’m surprised at the replies in this thread. I had a friend ask me to copy a pattern for her. I told her no but she was welcome to borrow the pattern. I didn’t think that it was wrong to do that. I’m like Grace creates. I like to share and help out friends that aren’t as fortunate as I.

I let a friend use one of my books at class once because she had forgotten to bring hers. I looked over where she and a friend were working and saw her writing in my book; I was furious. I went over and got my book, she said she wasn't finished using it and I told her she through using it because she wrote in it. She didn't think it was a big deal; but to me it was a very big No No. Unfortunately, some of the writing was in ink.

I would have been "upset", too, if someone else wrote in one of my books.

It took me years to allow myself to write in my own books.

When I went to school - back when the dinosaurs still walked the earth - we were assigned books - they were numbered - and we turned them back in at the end of the year. We were not supposed to mark them up - but some of the people did, anyway.

Wow, Aurora .... can't believe that "friend" wrote in your book. I would have been furious. How could someone do that? She should replace the book, but I'm not sure that will happen.

I would have been more furious at her for not realizing how wrong she was by writing in a borrowed book and not caring if you were upset about it. Not someone I would ever acknowledge was in the same room with me again.