I made a lovely lap quilt for my mum and forgot to take pictures of it, when I gave it to her I had planned on taking a picture of her with it. well she was tranfered to her new Nursing home we went to visit her camera on the ready and the quilt is nowhere to be seen.
I will be ringing the Hospital on Monday to see what has happened to it, I just hope they find it or I may just do my quince with them.

Gosh I hope it turns up, I'll be keeping my fingers crossed.

I would ask them in person, its harder for them to lie when you're looking at them ~ plus, they may not be inclined to "look for it" if you're on the phone, but if you're standing there in person, they cannot ignore you. I do hope its found, things like blankets / bedding / clothing gets washed constantly, so I'll be hoping it was just in the wash! :) Let us know!

Sadly, this is a common occurance. When my mom was in a care facility they were careful to tell us to clearly label anything we brought and to not gift her with anything valuable - either $$$$ (US or Aussie) or sentimental. They did their best to keep items straight but other residents had memory or cognitive issues and would decide that mom's new quilt was the one that was on their bed as a child and would remove it to their room. Hope they can track it down for you, and if not, that it is bringing comfort to someone even if that person was not the intended recipient.

Nursing homes are notorious for things disappearing. Ask me how I know. My mother lost quite a few things, one especially we wanted to keep because a cousin made her a lap quilt with a block my aunt had piece before she died. She also lost her favorite robe when someone came in the room and took it right out of the closet.

How sad. I hope it is found soon.

When I had my mon in assited living I bought her a spread they took it and washed it but didn't put it back on her bed needless to say she went into an act had to go and find it. After that they let me wash it.

I made my Gt Aunt a throw for over her legs in the wheel chair...I embroidered her name in 4" letters and her room # on the front of it...it disappeared.
I was visiting and found it on the lap of another lady. I went to the head of the ward. Needless to say, it was returned.
It went missing a couple more times over the 2 years.

Oh I hope it turns up soon. Someone may have it with the laundry or they may have put it in a closet or dresser? I’m sorry this has happened.

So sorry for you that this has happened.

Sad to say though, that this is oft what happens in nursing homes, hospitals and extended care facilities.

As you do not have a picture of it ... I do hope that you had her name permanently on it and quite visible. It's unfortunate that you do not have a picture.

When my DH was in the nursing home for 3 years, his stuff disappeared often. He was casual about it (except for his chocolates) and knew who did it, and often simply rolled his chair there and got his own stuff. There was one older lady who had a habit of going into empty rooms and rummaging through drawers while the owners were watching TV, etc. Every so often the staff would search her chest of drawers and remove all that had other room numbers on them.

The quilt I made for mama stayed with her. But she was in assisted living and not a nursing home. The memory ward of the home had locked doors and restricted access so we did not have to worry about that. Sadly, I got my quilt back a week and a half ago when she passed on to glory. I will cherish it for sure.

SVS this has happened to you. This happens often in nursing homes and they do say to label the item but still there's no guarantee that the item will be returned. I guess it's their way of saying that anything of value is not their responsibility if it's lost, stolen or misplaced. I sincerely hope that you can find it....I feel for you. {{{hugs}}}

Please let us know if they find it. So sorry.

I worked for an assisted living facility and there was a lady (100 years old) and she was always taking whatever she wanted - even when I took the residents shopping!!! I had to keep a close eye on her. Same with her, every so often the staff would have to go check her room.

I do agree with fabric whisperer, go in person if at all possible.

I also made a quilt for my Dad that he took to the nursing home -- GONE after 2 days. Evidently the laundry services at all nursing homes stink. I'm sorry for your loss, and your Mom's. And those who comment here that things are taken by another patient are right - even Dad's toothbrush came up missing!

Hope your label had your name AND Mom's on it! That will help to prove it is yours!

oh so sad. sorry to say this does happen a lot. but the more stink you make about this, it may just "show up". good luck.

Go & search out the laundry room - I found several of Mom's things with her name label missing hanging in lost-and-found in that way. I also did a room search once - closet by closet with a nurse along with me, & turned up some of Mom's things in other resident's rooms. Unfortunately, we also suspect a few of her nicer things "grew legs & walked out the door", accompanied by a staff person.
I certainly hope it comes back where it belongs, or I'd be raising a fuss with the administrator of her former location. You put a lot of love & time into the quilt.
Hoping it returns,
Jan

So sorry you have to go through this. I really hope you get it back! I don't know what a quince is....but, it sounds serious. You go girl!!

Oh, I hope you find it!

I feel so bad for you. I hope it turns up.

Oh...how horrid.
I know this can't replace the quilt, work and love you put into it.
But...they are insured against this kind of things.....

DH's sister had to buy their mom 48 pairs of underwear when she was in the nursing home, they kept disappearing. When another patient was out the staff would go in mom's room and get some.

so sorry to read about this....my heart aches for you as i've been there, done that! i found mom's quilt on the bed of another resident who was in another wing. some nice little old woman loved to go shopping at night. there by the grace of God...

I was going to make a lap quilt for a nursing home facility that a group I belong to paid to have the room furniture set up. Then I began to think.... my quilt in one of their wash loads .... hot hot hot hot water.... decided not to make the quilt for that room. Gave it to my brother in law last night... he loves it.

I am a retired RN Supervisor. I have had new, expensive shoes belonging to a resident come up missing. One night, at 2 AM, a nursing assistant took her shoes off because her feet hurt. I noticed that they were marked inside, very clearly, with the resident's name! That same family bought another pair of SAS shoes, this time marking on the thick rubber sole on the outside of the shoes. Within one week, a repeat performance, shoes are again gone! Less than a week later, another CNA came in to work with new, white SAS shoes. The rubber soles had heavy black magic marker scribbles on them. She claimed that her kids did it to her own new shoes! It was clearly an attempt to disguise the name of the real owner, but was not discernible enough to be legal proof. She got away with this sad, petty crime against a vulnerable elderly lady! Those missing quilts, comforters and robes often go home with unscrupulous staff, along with equipment! I went to a yard sale near our facility and saw a wheel chair for sale that was clearly marked with the facility's name. The seller claimed she "found it" in her yard!!!!

Things tend to 'disappear' in nursing facilities. Aunt Rose 'lost' her cherished wedding ring.

I hope it turns up for you.

So sorry it is lost and I really hope it turns up very soon

Theft is a real problem in nursing homes and other institutions. When we put my MIL in a nursing home for 9 days so that we could go on vacation someone stole her nightgowns. I had made 3 for her that hooked in the back so that I could more easily change her diapers. I made my own pattern too. The 2 I sent with her were stolen. The home offered to reimbursed me but that was no consolation. This is a problem. If you will steal from a nursing home, you will steal anything anywhere. I hope that your quilt is found.

Hope you find it. Sometimes things get mixed up in a nursing home. Especially in the laundry. did you put her name on it anywhere?

Gosh..after reading all these posts, I think I will make it clear in my living will, and to my kids, that I don't want my life "extended" by going to a nursing home/assisted living home....think I would rather die in my own bed. All these stories, and the stories one hears/reads about the abuse of the elderly in these homes....well, think I'll just get onto the next life a little faster...and that's ok by me!! I would be terrified to have "strangers" look after me........and my things!!!

Hope you find it soom. When my mom was in a NH we had to go dowstairs to the laundry room and look through things ourselves to find missing items.

I knitted an afghan for my mother's birthday while she was in a nursing home. When I went to transfer her to a different facility, the afghan was nowhere to be found. I walked up and down the halls, glancing in each room to see if it had gone traveling. Nothing. I went to every nurses' station inquiring where the afghan could be. They checked linen closets, even went to laundry, but no afghan. Strange--it showed up on her bed in the new facility a couple of weeks later! I assume it went home with one of the workers at home #1 and somebody got a guilty conscience. Thank goodness!

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Sadly there are some not so good stories out there.

Gladly there are many good stories to be shared. And families who have been thankful for an interim home for their loved ones and the caring staff who made all their lives easier. Not everyone has the option to stay in their homes, and not every family has the ability to provide in-home care.

Let's not paint all care facilities with one brush stroke.

Remember bad news sells ... and unfortunately, not all the good news stories are shared as far and wide.

My mother was in a wheelchair and has some nice dresses. Two of the nicer ones disappeared from the nursing home. After that I took all her other dresses, a big black permanent marker, and wrote her name in letters 3 inches high on the back of the skirt. None disappeared after that.

so sorry-hope it gets found