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scaroca 01-25-2011 05:17 AM

I made my daughter 4 quilts for her newborn baby. Her favorite is the one I used a panel. The other 3 were pieced. go figure. So don't be discouraged by using a panel they are cherished too.

Dianne Lenore 01-25-2011 05:22 AM

I'm sure if her husband is deployed it could affect her attitude in general. What was your response to her question, and how did she take that. Did she show any understanding after you explained?

Linda Loo 01-25-2011 05:25 AM

UGH!! Why on earth would anyone say things like that?? Hmmm maybe there was no "filter" engaged when the mouth flew open? Hopefully it wasn't meant to hurt. As many here have said, that little one won't care one bit that that quilt wasn't made of hundreds of tiny pieces, he will just know that picture is his friend 'Mater and it will make him smile. Bet it winds up being one of those that gets drug around for years. I wonder if Mom wants a quilt herself? Maybe her comments we're an awkward way to request one. ;-)

duckydo 01-25-2011 05:25 AM

I think I would ask her what is a "Real Quilt"? Your grandson will love it. Some people just don't think before they speak. I see nothing wrong with using a panel.

CarrieAnne 01-25-2011 05:25 AM

Hugs! He will love it!

mammab 01-25-2011 05:29 AM

I love panels, I guess because I like a lot of wildlife and scenic themes. I do not think panels are crappy. They can require a good deal of detailed work. I have done several window pane oriental panels and they do require patience and precision. I am sorry she feels that way, but would not worry about it . I am sure your grandson will love it.

supergma 01-25-2011 05:38 AM

Your DGS will love the quilt. Kids really like the panel quilts. Sorry your daughter hurt your feelings. She just misplaced her manners that day.

Mattee 01-25-2011 05:40 AM

She probably didn't mean anything by it; she may just not know any better. A lot of non-quilters think a quilt needs to be pieced in order to be a quilt. I have a good friend who thanked me for making her daughter a "real quilt" because she had received so many pannel quilts that had just been birthed, with no piecing. She didn't dislike them, but to her, she didn't know what to call them, since it needs to be pieced to be a quilt. I would rather assume that it was nothing but an unintended blunder due to ignorance of our craft than rude or mean-spirited.

I'm sure he'll love the quilt.

marybs 01-25-2011 05:46 AM

Not sure what she was thinking or what she thinks you have made? Just wait until she sees it and wait till she sees how thrilled your grandson is going to be! He is going to soooo love that quilt!

Nolee 01-25-2011 06:21 AM


Originally Posted by montanajan
Sounds like a very nice quilt. Though I'd never say it, I'd be tempted to tell her it IS a real quilt & someone else would appreciate it, thank you very much!! Maybe she is just stressed right now. The world on the back is a thoughtful gesture as a Daddy reminder.
Give it to him anyway & don't apologize for anything - it is supposed to be the love that matters, not the pattern, panel, how many hours it took you to get nice borders.
Sometimes we simply have to 'bite our tongue' & smile - be a better person than she was in this situation.

Give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn't mean it, didn't think first or just was stressed. I guess it depends how she treats you the rest of the time. The above advice is excellent. Long after that little boy is grown up and becomes a man, long after that "Tomater" doesn't turn him on any longer, he is going to remember Gramma's gift and treasure it and perhaps pass it along to a future son. Think of it that way. Love is all that matters and you are demonstrating your love for HIM in a quilt no one else will ever have. Feel good about doing this, and don't worry about what anyone else says AND be sure to send us a picture when you are done. :)


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