I was at a guild meeting and saw someone's show and tell put down. It came after lots of "WOW" quilts and a person helping made a hurtful comment. ouch....

That person should be reprimanded and not allowed to help at these functions

:( How sad.... I guess they forgot that there isnt any quilt police...

Woo. Poor fellow quilter! :(

One should always think, what if someone said that to me? I hope the lady does not give up quilting because of someone else's very hurtful words.

Oh gosh, what an awful thing to have happen. Everyone has to start quilting somewhere. I guarantee that my first quilts were not my best work. I truly hope the person who said the hurtful comment realizes she should not have said that.

Not a nice person to openly criticize another's efforts. Everyone's tastes are different.

I am so sorry to hear this. I only hope that other quilters jumped at the chance to make up for this hurtful situation. Remember, we did not learn to walk without stumbling along the way. I know my quilting has improved over the years only with lots of help and encouragement from others.

as the saying goes "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say nothing at all". The quilter was not asking how it looked, just a show and tell. I feel sorry for the quilter. This other person should not be allowed

So sad. Someone who would do that probably does so all the time, no matter what the event. :(

In nursing, there is an old thought that "nurses eat there young". That has never been the case in quilting. She was soooo wrong to do this!!!

IMHO there is always something nice about the worst quilt. Color, fabrics, design, something. We all want a little appreciation for our work.

I'm sorry about what happened to your friend. How rude! That's what so wonderful about this board. People try very hard to be helpful and complimentary!

Oh, that is so sad! Sometimes during show and tell, you can see all the bad sewing, and very obvious mistakes, but those same quilts get great praise and encouragement by the group too! I am so proud of our guild. We do have some world show quality quilters in our group that of course get lots of praise, but even the simplest and most beginning quilt gets attention too.

Isn't it wonderful to be a member of this board "guild" where we don't really have issues like this. :-)

We can each remember, "It's not what you say, but what the hearer perceives you've said, that matters."

Jan in VA

I am so sorry that this happened :(
I hope the person receiving it took it with a grain of salt :D:D:D

Wow, that really shows the class of the person who made the comments. I thought those groups are suppose to offer encouragement to new quilters and people who's skills or equipment may not be up to others level. Poor quilter. But did anyone remind this person that they should be supportive not demeaning?

What a shame. Shame on the person who made the remark. In my quilt group we always have show and tell at each meeting. Of course there are lots of ooo's and aaaa's. There is one lady in our group who does not produce a lot of work for various reeasons, but she brought along a finished quilt that she had been making with lots of help and advice from other members, and when she had finished and brought it for show and tell, she had been working on it for 5 years. This lady got a rousing cheer and applause from us all, as we were so proud of her.

oh my...it takes some of us so long to be able to let others see our quilting...this is so sad.
I like to look at something and see the best, bc I know from my own experience, how hard I have to work at it all.
I should look at all of life with the same consideration. I try. I hope I succeed even more now that I've read this. hugs to our fellow quilting sister or brother.
Maybe they could join this board and find much encouragement!
Thanks for reminding us all...be careful what we say.
It could be us!

This is one reason people don't like to show what they have made. Even if it is a simple block pattern. I'm still learning and tend to stay away from things I'm not comfortable with. We need a guild where only newbies are allowed and have a good time learning from each other. :thumbup:

I use the Thumper rule..."If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all".

I remember a comment from a more experienced quilter when I was madly grabbing up every piece of fabric that might possibly fit my color scheme regarding only using fabrics that would be of heirloom quality. My thought at the time was that may be very well and good, but I'm more concerned about getting something done for a little fellow's birthday than about it lasting forever. So far he still has it and is using it six years later. And he still likes the camo look!

That is so sad. I wonder sometimes what is wrong with people who don't think before they open their big mouths. I hope someone said something to that meany pants to let them know that is not the way to encourage new quilters.

BOO!!! I don't like it when people are unnecessarily rude and hurtful. Tell them their nasty comments are unwelcome.

That is awful. I attend a couple of meetings every month and we have show and tell at both. We have some members that are highly skilled and proficient, and we have some that are not as skilled or experienced.

Never have I heard anyone disparage someone's project...I would be shocked if I ever did. Your title says it all...we need to encourage each other, and it always correct to be kind.

I hope you or several of you spoke to the woman that was criticized and let her know that you appreciated her work. It would be a real shame if she quit participating because of this experience.

How incredibly RUDE! The comment maker probably doesn't even care that she was out of line.

Very, very sad!! I dislike RUDE people immensely. There is absolutely NO excuse for people to think they are better than anyone else, and IMHO that's what RUDE people think they are! Rudeness to me in intolerable! IMHO

-My folks always told us ""If you haven't anything nice to say-Say nothing '

So sorry that happened.

That is so sad, People can be so rude. This is exactly why I don't join groups or post pics. I propbably would'nt be nice lol. That is why I LOVE this board. I can feed my need for sewing and not have to tolerate rudeness .

I hope someone told that person that she was out of line. No one can just cut out fabric and throw it at the machine and create an instant quilt (including her!!). Grrrrrrr.... :hunf:

I hope someone said something to the woman who thinks she is the quilt police. That is just nasty. I can never understand why people feel the need to hurt someone's feelings.
Sue

This is one reason I don't join a guild. Hopefully someone will have a talk with person that was so rude.

Tell her to post here and we'll ooooh and aaaah.

I know that some of my quilts do not fit the taste of many of my fellow guild members. Some of theirs don't suit my taste. I still always, always, always try to find something positive to say about the quilts. It may be the quilting design, the unique color combo, or the way they matched their points. I find that if I look for something good, I like the quilt even if I would never make one like it. We should all do that. Support is why we are in a guild in the first place!

I wouldn't give that person (or their comment) another thought. Don't let ONE bad comment ruin your project or discourage you from quilting. People like that are jealous of your accomplishments and are very insecure about themselves. That's why I will never enter a quilt in a contest or show. They are looking for "bad" things and I don't really care. If I like my quilts I don't care what anyone else thinks of them.

I agree. The nursing profession is way down for more reasons, but one is the fact that "nurses do eat their young".
While that may not be the case in Quilting, Isn't that where the "Quilt Police" come into view.
She was awful to do this.
Evidently, at my quilt group while teaching a class on hand quilting to the group, my friend had a lady stand up and say "No this is how you do it", and took the sewing right out of her hands! These people are out there in about every group, every walk of life.
so sad :(

PEOPLE THIS DAY IN TIME HAVE NO RESPECT FOR THEM SELVES LET ALONE SOME ONE ELSE.THAT IS A SHAME I ALWAYS TRY AND LIFT SOMEONE UP AND INSTEAD OF PUTTING THEM DOWN,BUT I GUESS WE ARE NOT ALIKE.

I very nearly gave up quilting because of a strict and rather nasty police type tutor at my first quilting class. Fortunately I found Kate Woods forum, before it went off line, and the members there were just so helpful and generous that I am now a quilt addict and try to impart my knowledge, in a fun way to anyone who wants to join in my free Patchwork class, the rewards I get is way above monetary values.

Is it possible to take this person on one side and ask her not to be critical?

That is so sad, especially if that was a fairly new person to quilting. Unkind remarks could actually cause her to stop quilting or never show anything again. I hope someone took her aside and reassured her. Her feelings should be the most important thing, the other lady was rude and shows she has no caring for others.