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Well i guess you won't be making HER a quilt anytime soon?
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Good for you! Thankfully I have not met anyone so rude.
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Originally Posted by Jim's Gem
I can't believe the nerve of some people. Reminds me of some of our educators who have never had children telling us how to raise them, cause they are so "educated"
As far as "the cousin", I would have thrown the cousin through the window. I really don't like ignorant people. |
Originally Posted by collady
A young friend who has just started quilting called to see if she and her cousin could come visit, so the cousin could see some of my quilts. I invited them with pleasure. As soon as they arrived, the cousin begin telling me what I had done wrong on one quilt after another. The colors didn't go together. The pattern wasn't right for the fabrics. The binding should have been a different fabric. The poor young quilter was dying in front of my face. She had wanted her cousin to see that there wasn't a specific "correct" way to make a quilt. Instead we were getting a lesson on all the "incorrect" things I was doing.
I am 62 years old and made my first quilt with my grandmother when I was 10. I stood and listened to this 20 something non quilter tell me what I was doing wrong. When she finished, I very politely asked her how many quilts she had made. NONE, she just knew what was wrong with mine. She then made a comment that I probably didn't know how to design. That is when I opened the door to the store room and begin pulling out the evening and performance gowns I had made for my daughter when she was in pageants and completions. All of which I designed and made, hand beading and all. That didn't stop her. She made some smart comment that I had probably used a pattern or bought them and removed the labels. At this point my young friend grabbed her cousin by the arm and tried to drag her out of the house! I told my friend she was welcome back at any time. Then I turned to the cousin and politely told her that: 1. I started making my own clothes at the age of 5 2. I had a degree in costume design 3. I have been designing and sewing more that three times as long as she is old. 4. Rudeness is not a sign of intelligence, it is a sign of ignorance. 5. While her cousin was welcome to return to my home at any time, I hoped that I never had the opportunity to see her again! I then gave my friend a hug and opened the door for the cousin, who left in a huff... I laughed and cried as they went to the car! I hope my friend comes back soon. I called her later and told her I didn't hold the cousin against her. We can't help to whom we happen to be related. |
WoW....the nerve =/
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Originally Posted by Cagey
You are a person of restraint. I probably would have opened the door and booted her out! Tell your friend this is a branch of her family tree she might want to lop off!
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Collady - you were 'grace under fire' applause coming your way!
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You handled that so great. I only hope I would do the same. Otherwise I may be calling for bail money.
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You are certainly a better person than your rude guest is.
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I am so sorry this happened to you! We can choose our friends but sadly cannot choose our family members. I feel for your friend & that she has to be associated with her cousin in front of others. She had to have been so embarrassed! I do think I woud tell her that I did not wish to ever have her cousin visit me in my home. I am finding that more people are the know it all type & can be very hurtful with their choice of words. I try to not have to be around those types as it just ruins my good mood. :D
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You're a better person than I am, that's for sure. My patience would have worn out a lot faster than yours did. Now call your young friend, invite her for a glass of wine (or a cup of coffee) and tell her all about the quilt police. Hope your relationship with her doesn't suffer and hope she continues to quilt and enjoys it.
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I can't believe the nerve of her especially to accuse you of taking off the labels of dresses you made. I would have wanted to shove her out the window, not politely show her to the door!
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You did wonderful. Strange bird.
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You handled this very well. I would NOT have been so nice.
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Empty vessels make the most noise....I admire your tact and restraint, bravo:)
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I will say What goes around will come around. Good for you.
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It is people with a lack of self esteem who put others down in an effort to make themselves feel they have some worth. I'm afraid I would have bust out laughing at her which would have done nothing to improve her self esteem but it would prevent me from clubbing her. I guess I'm not very gracious.
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Good for you!! Your grace is a lost art. I keep finding people raise children to be so nasty and rude nowdays with no respect or tact!
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Wow! Don't u just love know it all's? I'd of been tempted YO smack her! Tempted- wouldn't of but boy o boy!!! Her mama should of to teach her manners!!
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Lucky both you and her cousin had restraint! If I was her cousin she would of been walking home too!!
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You handled that a lot better then I would have, you are one classy lady.
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OMG I wonder if your friend's cousin is my sister-in-law
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Wow, you handled that beautifully! Rudeness comes in all ages and sizes!
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Wow, not only does she have no clue about quilts, but she has no clue about life or about how to treat people. That's the saddest thing of all. I can't imagine she has many friends if she treats people like that. I'm sure all of us have seen quilts we just didn't like. But most of us have the common decency to not say something offensive to someone. If she keeps this up she's going to end up right (in her eyes) and very much alone. Unfortunately, I know one or two people like this, and they're lives always look very sad to me.
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You did handle that well, hearing your background and all I don't think I would have been able to hold my tongue. I hope your friend realizes that her cousin thinks she is a know it all and that you would make a wonderful teacher.
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Wow. That's horrible. It sounds like the girl was jealous of what you could do. She definately has some issues for sure. Even if your work had looked horrible she shouldn't of acted like that. I'm sorry you had to go thru something like that. Don't let it get you down.
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I feel sorry for her. She obviously has a problem she's in denial about.
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I would have asked her for her degree in quilting! AND when she had made xxx number of quilts she could come back and critique mine. AND that she would learn, if she really cared to learn anything, she would already know that there are dozens of different ways to do any technique. Then I would have given her a hug and told her if she EVER expected to have a lot of quilting friends she had best learn how to be more polite.
Next I would have called the young friend, asked to take her out to lunch, and with humor and a laugh, assured her that her cousin would learn soon enough that she wasn't the "quilt police". Then assured her that if she had a quilt that her cousin criticized she could bring it over and I would assure her that whatever she decided to do, IT WAS GOOD!!! |
I would have asked her for her degree in quilting! AND when she had made xxx number of quilts she could come back and critique mine. AND that she would learn, if she really cared to learn anything, she would already know that there are dozens of different ways to do any technique. Then I would have given her a hug and told her if she EVER expected to have a lot of quilting friends she had best learn how to be more polite.
Next I would have called the young friend, asked to take her out to lunch, and with humor and a laugh, assured her that her cousin would learn soon enough that she wasn't the "quilt police". Then assured her that if she had a quilt that her cousin criticized she could bring it over and I would assure her that whatever she decided to do, IT WAS GOOD!!! |
I usually use the term 'amazing' in reference to the wonderful quality and care that was put into making a quilt. But today, I'm using that term as it applies to this young snot because all the four-letter words might be bleeped off the screen! My goodness - can't even fathom it. You showed great restraint.
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Good for you. Sometimes people need to be told off. I hate to see what she would have told you had she known you previously.
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Good for you! She's probably like that in all aspects of her life & just needed to be brought down a few pegs.
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gee can not feature such a snot hope your friend takes lessons from you in how to be a lady and to make quilts
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I think I feel most sorry for your friend that brought her cousin along. I can imagine how mortified she is at her counsins remarks. But I do praise you for your patience and honestly I think as we get older : ) we seem to have more patience. Too bad the counsin really had no idea what she was talking about. Maybe you should have sat her down to the sewing machine and had her show you???? LOL!!!!
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don't you just love the "educated" people????? you were very patient and kinder than I would have been.
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Ugh. She was just a nasty person....some people have NO manners. Good for you for being able to just be nice, when I am sure you wanted to slug her, lol!
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Wow is all I can say. I can't imagine being a guest in someone's home and being so rude. You're a wonderful tolerant person.
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wow! what a story some people just need to grow up
yes, you are right about rudenss is not the sign of intellgence again, what a story |
Wow! You are a saint to let her go on & on!!!! I would have shown her to the door after she said she had never made a quilt. Some people!!!!
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Originally Posted by Buckeye Rose
I am afraid you handled it with much more grace than I ever could have. Well done!
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