I suspect he's retired and feels like he's lost control of everything. This is his way of gaining control subconsciously. I would suggest he work on the garage or something for a man cave. But then again I don't know him. Is it possible to give him an assignment that he can do totally on his own?

When he starts to take over again, simply smile and tell him that while he is re-doing YOUR room, you'll be adding a femimine tough to HIS workplace (mancave). hehe

Thanks, everybody. You've given me some good ideas. I think I'll use a few of them and make sure I get what I want. Glad I'm not the only one who has had this problem. Thanks alot. Connie

I understand completely.
My DH wanted to get busy and start remodieling my sewing area. He even drew up plans for the wall unit. It doesn't even come close to what I need or want except it takes up the whole wall from side to side and floor to ceilling. Told him I was still undecided as to what I reallly needed, appreciate his plan, and maybe we should sit down together to figure it out, and that I was in no hurry to get the project done. He was ok with that.
Let him know in a gentle loving way but firmly that this is your room and he needs to listen to what YOU need in there. If he refuses, simply tell him you have changed your mind and use it once again as a bedroom. If he asks why, tell him you would not enjoy working in your dream room where none of your dreams came true. He will want to please you.

Lol...I can just imagine this happening in our house. We hope to re-do our kitchen one day and I just KNOW this is going to be a problem...lol. AT the moment I don't have that big of a sewing room for him to 'play' with...lol

Ha, I had that problem with mine about building a house. So we wound up buying a big mobile home instead. I know what you are talking about and wish I had something to help you with.

The ideas posted above are all good ideas. I have no experience in this area, but just wanted to wish you good luck in getting the room you want without much conflict with DH.

Please let us know how this is resolved and then PICTURES of the finished room. :)

when we remodeled out kitchen we had hired a contractor. He had certain ideas that did not fit my plan. I told him it was MY kitchen and he would do it MY way or it was the hightway. LOL I got my kitchen.

Good luck. Its pitiful how we have to dance around these guys. If I said this to mine he would just most likely go off in a huff and that woud be the end of it. I do agree with the reply about talking to a friend within his hearing about what I would like and make it look like his idea.

Explain in detail why each part of your project needs to be a certain way. Like why the ironing board needs to be near the sewing machine and cutting table. How each color of fabric needs its own space. How rulers need to be easy to find. All the different threads and how to separate them.
Start telling him how to rearrange his garage to your specifications if that dosnt work.