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Thread: Problem: Expected quilts

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    I have a problem with people now expecting me to make quilts as gifts for babies, weddings, etc. These people are mostly people I work with. I started this myself and now I don't know how to get out of it. I spend so much time quilting for other people, I don't have time to quilt just for enjoyment or heaven forbid, make something for myself!

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    You should start charging them for your time and materials. Or tell them that you have too many orders...

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    I have the same problem, so I'm making some quick baby quilts out of panels to satisfy the people that I am not real close to. I also made some fleece baby blankets with crocheted edging which went real fast. I can give those sets to the ones that I don't want to invest quilting time into.

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    You should merely state that you have several orders waiting, and with the increased costs of fabrics, threads, you are also going to have to increase what you charge to make quilts for others.........You may want to have a "cost" sheet printed up just for occasions like this..........show them what it would cost for a basic quilt in crib, twin, full size.........

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    That is a problem, isn't it? I would just be honest and say that you are overwhelmed and feeling a little burnt out. People understand.

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    Why is it that we have such a hard time saying one of the shortest sentences in the English language? "NO." Seems like it should be easy, right? But it's so difficult for so many of us.

    Instead of saying "No," I say, "Oh I wish i could, but..." and then I state why. "I don't have the time, or I don't have the money" are my usual reasons. And I don't mean excuses, I mean REASONS. Life is short. Spend your time and energy wisely!

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    I've dug myself into the same hole, but with my family. It's not that they have expressed they "want" a quilt, I have this "ought to" feeling about it. This is the only gift I give, I just wish I was faster at it. I don't seem to be both fast and good, and I won't give something I'm not proud of.

    I have so many "to do" quilts that I feel overwhelmed and now I'm avoiding the sewing room. This has got to stop!

    If people suggest that you make them quilts, tell them the cost of LQS fabric and a one year minimum to make. My nephew asked if I would make him a "simple king sized quilt". He said he would buy the materials. I told him it would be a minimum of $400, he said he would "shop" elsewhere. I want to make him one, but on my schedule.

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    So there is someone out there feeling exactly like I am. Isn't it funny how it makes us feel better knowing we aren't alone. My quilt to do list is quite long as well. Thanks for all of the responses.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DebFowler
    I have a problem with people now expecting me to make quilts as gifts for babies, weddings, etc. These people are mostly people I work with. I started this myself and now I don't know how to get out of it. I spend so much time quilting for other people, I don't have time to quilt just for enjoyment or heaven forbid, make something for myself!
    I read this as people are expected Deb to GIVE THEM gifts of quilts (instead of another gift).

    For that I don't have any answers.

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    Non-quilters rarely know how much time and money is involved in making a quilt. You can always tell them that you already have a lengthy list of projects to make so you are unable to take on anymore.
    I think many of us take on so many requests that we rarely make anything for ourselves or have time to explore new techniques. Just be firm, kind, but firm. ;)

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    I feel for you, so often people who do not sew or quilt or paint in my case, do not know how much time effort and expense go into these things, they think you can just conjour them up!! I think I would start saying sorry but you have a list as long as your arm and can not take any more orders right now, they will soon get the message, if it all becomes too much and is no longer enjoyable, there is no point to it I feel, that is MHO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by quiltinghere
    Quote Originally Posted by DebFowler
    I have a problem with people now expecting me to make quilts as gifts for babies, weddings, etc. These people are mostly people I work with. I started this myself and now I don't know how to get out of it. I spend so much time quilting for other people, I don't have time to quilt just for enjoyment or heaven forbid, make something for myself!
    I read this as people are expected Deb to GIVE THEM gifts of quilts (instead of another gift).

    For that I don't have any answers.
    Ditto

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    I started giving quilts for wedding gifts to the young people (friends of my kids) at church who are getting married. I think everyone now knows and hopes that they will get one too.
    It is probably an expectation, but maybe they are just hoping that I will make one for them.

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    I'm getting tired of people putting in special orders such as, a sports quilt, a horse quilt, a princess quilt, etc.
    There are so many quilts I WANT to make that I'm quickly getting to the point of take it or leave it...no more special orders (I'm supposed to be doing this for fun. relaxation, and spiritual time). Maybe I'm being too selfish?? Forgive me.

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    Deb, you said that you have no time to make anything for you or learn new techniques. It doesn't make sense to start charging them. You STILL won't have time for you. You need to firmly learn to say no. When you aren't working you should be able to have time to enjoy this wonderful art for the happiness it brings you. Sounds like it's turned into a job and that isn't good.
    When I don't want to do something I don't think of a million excuses anymore. I just nicely say " I'm sorry but I can't".
    It's a very freeing feeling once you do it a couple of times.
    Now go make something for you!! :D

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    My SIL asked me to make another I-spy quilt for her friends new grandbaby,she pays me for the material,of course.
    i asked for when?..she said Christmas. that is not so bad..

    if i were you, i would just say no, i can't do it. as for me, i could not afford to keep pumping them out as gifts..

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    Not enough hours in the day at times, If I give someone from work try to do it out of the sight of others, and I ask them not to make a big deal out of it. Don't want to hurt feelings, but sometimes toooo many babys. They get the hint when recieve somthing different. If ask have said before ya'll have too many bb's, but in a nice way.
    I'd rather give to someone who I thinks a cool person than from obligation. :)

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    When the project is not fun, then it becomes WORK. Remember WORK is a 4 letter word. Just say no. These people that keep asking or expecting quilts most likely don't appreciate the time, effort and money that goes into one.

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    I would just not do it! If you need to, buy a gift. Nothing needs to be said unless they say something, then just tell them you didn't have the money or the time or whatever reason you choose.

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    I only make quilts I want to make. I have made quilts for babies (not many) and I am sure some people has hoped I made them one too, but if I don't feel like it, I will not do it. If it costs me a friendship, I didn't have one to begin with. Only one have I made a quilt for someone just because I made one before for one of her grand kids. This woman called me from SC while on vacation asking if I would do it if she got the fabric, gave me no deadline to finish, and paid me very well for making an extremely simple quilt (just a panel in the center and a border).

    I have a bunch of finished quilts and if I have to give a gift that I feel is quilt worthy, I go through them and select one.

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    Never mind friends and relatives.....I had a perfect stranger ask me to make one from bags that come with some whiskey called Royal Crown, or Crown Royal. Something like that. I was not interested. I had a tough time telling him, but next time someone asks for one, it will be easier.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RevPam
    I'm getting tired of people putting in special orders such as, a sports quilt, a horse quilt, a princess quilt, etc.
    There are so many quilts I WANT to make that I'm quickly getting to the point of take it or leave it...no more special orders (I'm supposed to be doing this for fun. relaxation, and spiritual time). Maybe I'm being too selfish?? Forgive me.
    You are NOT NOT NOT being selfish in wanting to do something for yourself.

    Maybe you can ask the person, "Are you placing an order for a quilt? We can discuss approximate costs, etc. at such and such a time."

    That should send them running for the hills.

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    I give most of my quilts away, I pick who will get one. Sis in law asked me to make her one for her upstairs sitting room, she has 2 already, I said I would. She's the only one to ever ask me to make one.

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    Bearisgray- I burst out laughing at what you said !!
    As the late, great George Carlin would have said "What hills??
    What hills is she talking about"???
    LOL :D:D
    Great response too!!!

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    I had this happen at work too, only I was knitting baby afghans.......first pregnant one, I knitted her a baby blankie......then second one is pregnant and I did a ssecond one.......wouldnt you know, there were 9 pregnancies before every one stopped having them.... I dont think I have done a baby knitted afghan since then, and may never do another .....

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