What do you say to requests....
#42
After my step dad passed away I was over at my moms house helping her and my step sister clean out his clothing. My step sister said to just donate all the clothing. I asked if I could take some of the shirts and make a memory quilt for my mom. She said no problem. Her and I are only facebook friends. A couple of years later after I posted a picture of a quilt she put under the posting that I had taken a bunch of her dads clothes to make a quilt and she would like to have that quilt. Told her I made it for my mom and that she was more than welcome to the left over shirts. She than posted she wanted me to make the quilt that she did not do sewing. I than posted send me your address I will ship the left over fabric to you and you can find someone in organ to make the quilt for you. That it would probably run around 300 to 500 dollars to have someone cut up the scraps sew it together and than quilt it. Her response back was Oh never mind, I didn't want one that bad. If she would have said please do send them I will find someone to make it I would have done it for her for nothing because I knew she really wanted one or charged her and given the money to my mom. This was all after I had to pay for her dads funeral because there was no money to pay for it. Not one of the his five kids would give a cent for their dads funeral. All claimed they were broke.
#43
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Saratoga, Arkansas
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I enjoy sewing and quilting. If a family member or close friend wants to pay for the fabric, I'll make them a quilt. After all, most of us make charity quilts, don't we? Even if I did not want to make one for the mother, I'd make it for the kids. (actually, been there, done that)
#44
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Sonoma County, CA
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If I get asked for a quilt that I don't really feel like making, I just think up a crazy price that WOULD motivate me to make the quilt. Usually it's ridiculously high, like $800 for a simple throw, and that (so far) has kept me from having to make anything I wouldn't otherwise want to make!
And if someone DID want to spend $800 for a simple throw...well, I could find a way to be motivated. LOL
And if someone DID want to spend $800 for a simple throw...well, I could find a way to be motivated. LOL
#45
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Saratoga, Arkansas
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You say" I'm sorry, it sounds like a fun project, but I'm just not going to be able to do that." Not, " I'm too busy right now" because it I plays that you MIGHT be someday. When pressed ( as lots of folks do!) you can say " No, really, I already have too much on my plate." Hopefully they'll get the message. If not, change the subject, they don't get any further explanation!
#47
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Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Corpus Christi, Tx.
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I just tell them I make what I make when I want to make it. I don't do requests, take orders, custom work or anything like that at all. I'm not going to make what I like to do in my spare time take me to any kind of a stress booster.
#48
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#49
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Isn't that the way it is.?
After my step dad passed away I was over at my moms house helping her and my step sister clean out his clothing. My step sister said to just donate all the clothing. I asked if I could take some of the shirts and make a memory quilt for my mom. She said no problem. Her and I are only facebook friends. A couple of years later after I posted a picture of a quilt she put under the posting that I had taken a bunch of her dads clothes to make a quilt and she would like to have that quilt. Told her I made it for my mom and that she was more than welcome to the left over shirts. She than posted she wanted me to make the quilt that she did not do sewing. I than posted send me your address I will ship the left over fabric to you and you can find someone in organ to make the quilt for you. That it would probably run around 300 to 500 dollars to have someone cut up the scraps sew it together and than quilt it. Her response back was Oh never mind, I didn't want one that bad. If she would have said please do send them I will find someone to make it I would have done it for her for nothing because I knew she really wanted one or charged her and given the money to my mom. This was all after I had to pay for her dads funeral because there was no money to pay for it. Not one of the his five kids would give a cent for their dads funeral. All claimed they were broke.
#50
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Richmond, VA.
Posts: 348
I like the idea of saying you have so much on your plate, you would never get to it. Suggest she visit her local LQS so she could either take lessons to do it herself or find someone local to do it. I wish I had been introduced to a local quilt shop much earlier. She'll either get the "bug" or get educated about what goes into it. If she gets it or not, if you don't want to do the quilt, don't.
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