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    Workshop Jitters

    I have just returned from attending my fifth workshop where I was yet again unable to do anything correctly due to my nerves. Once I got home I sat down and redid the sewing perfectly. Is it just me or is this a common problem? I am scheduled to go on another retreat in September and am seriously considering cancelling it as I am unable to relax and enjoy myself. Does anybody have any suggestions as to how I can overcome my problem - without resorting to alcohol which would calm the nerves but play havoc with the sewing.

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    I was talking to a friend yesterday who is an experienced quilter. Last Saturday at a class she attended she was upset because she got into such a mess went home and did it beautifully. One problem she has is wanting to visually see each section,and the chatter level. She will keep going because she enjoys the company and a change of scene. Keep going take a deep breadth and try to relax. Sit near the front if possible and always close to the teacher. Learn how to shut out other noise and watch the action. They are fun you meet many exciting people and make new friends. Many of use work in small sewing areas with no live chatter, tv or radio maybe but nothing to distract or perhaps a question to answer. I hate the chatter and switch off I have seen people plug in the earphones with a nano.
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    i don't sign up for classes so might not know what i'm talking about.
    i assume, though, that the primary reason a person would sign up for a workshop is to learn something.
    so, i would further assume that the person didn't know already how to do whatever was going to be taught.
    soooo ... the next stop on the logic train ride is that most participants will not be wowzer experts in that subject/technique right off the bat. mistakes are to be expected. disasters not at all out of the ordinary.

    were you comparing your own results to everybody else's and worried that yours did not measure up? pish tosh, m'dear. you are you. they are them. you wouldn't have plunked down the cash for the class if you were already an expert. don't be so hard on yourself. chillaaaaaaaaaaaaax.

    since you were able to sit down and do it to your satisfaction once you got back to the privacy and quiet of your own home i would say you accomplished the main mission, which was to learn something new.

    take practice fabrics to the next workshop so gafarbles won't matter as much.
    don't demand instant expertise and perfection of yourself.
    don't worry about how your results compare to anybody else's.
    don't be afraid to ask questions of the teacher and of other students who you think seem to have caught on more quickly than you think you have. questions are great icebreakers. you might start with a question and end with some new friends.

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    I agree with PatriceJ (love the "pish tosh" btw ).
    The whole object is to learn something and you seem to have accomplished that.
    There is just something about being in a group of fellow quilters that makes your sewing skills go out the window - no matter how confident you are.
    As a new quilter, I try to go to a class every month or two and I never get as much done as I think I'm going to (as well as never having everything I need, despite being a very organised person). I think just by being in a learning environment we create a lot of our own pressure, invariably needlessly.
    I think if you were to talk to other students they would feel pretty much the same. Relax and try to enjoy.
    Where is your retreat btw?
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    Quote Originally Posted by apiarist View Post
    I have just returned from attending my fifth workshop where I was yet again unable to do anything correctly due to my nerves. Once I got home I sat down and redid the sewing perfectly. Is it just me or is this a common problem? I am scheduled to go on another retreat in September and am seriously considering cancelling it as I am unable to relax and enjoy myself. Does anybody have any suggestions as to how I can overcome my problem - without resorting to alcohol which would calm the nerves but play havoc with the sewing.
    No, alcohol is not the answer! I have a problem keeping up and doing good work at sit and sew workshops. I much prefer attending workshops that have demos and lot of handouts with instructions and ideas. I can do my sit and sew at home.
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    While I do enjoy the occasional glass of wine, in a new class where I'm going to learn some technique I don't already know, it can be hard. But, taking a breath, reminding yourself this is new and just giving up on the "shoulda, coulda, woulda" does help. In Ellis' words, don't "MUSTerbate." (No offense intended, it is his term for giving yourself a break).
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    I like to do serious sewing alone and I know I cut and sew better alone with no distractions so I don't expect to get anything done in a workshop or class. I may sew just one block the whole day and I'm fine with that. When I stopped thinking I need to sew a lot to get my money's worth, I enjoy it much better and do better sewing. I have met some wonderful quilters in the workshops and some real weirdos too. LOL
    Last edited by BellaBoo; 01-18-2013 at 06:23 AM.
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    Just an idea..sign up for a class that looks overly simple,with a technique you already know. Have a cup of herbal tea,and do it. It will likely get you over the jitters. BTW..everyone worries about their own stuff,so don't be sel conscious about your's.

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    I know that I don't cut well in the company of others. Also I want to listen to my MP3 player at times in order to focus on other than all the chatter, even though I know the chatter is helpful.

    Perhaps having a friend who understands your work mode go with you would be a big help. She could let you know when to pay attention.

    Also, if like me you don't cut well in the company of others, ask the presenter/teacher for cutting directions before hand after explaining this to her. I always promise not to reveal to others what she tells me about the cutting. It has worked so far.
    Have fun quilting! If it isn't fun, you will miss a lot.
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    You took away knowledge. You did learn what you intended to learn in the class, that is good. It just took some processing and thinking. Each one of us learns differently. In a class environment there are alot of distractions, and for me, the fear of looking like a klutz quilter makes my comprehension go out the window. In a class I always sew pieces together wrong, and I feel intimidated by the skills of the other quilters.
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    I have only taken one class. I was very nervous also. I also fear looking like a klutz quilter! It was really an experience for me! Made me relieze that I am pretty shy . I did have fun and learn. Have been trying to get myself to go to another! Guess we just need to step out of the box!!!

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    Heck, I show off my crocked block right along with the best. I know I can do better so having sewn something that isn't my best at a workshop is okay with me. I don't get intimidated by better quilters but I do admire their skill.
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    Had this problem when I took my first workshop. I mentioned it to a very dear friend who had been around the block(pun intended) a few times who told me just to relax, workshops arent a test, they are supposed to be fun. Once I realized she was right the workshop experience totaly changed for me.
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    I agree with you. I have stopped taking workshops, etc. because I am always behind. Then, I have to wait until the instructor is free to help me; and then I am more behind! She moves on to the next step and I am still struggling with the first one. It is great to be in the company of others and learn new techniques but thank God, I get that from my quilting guild and also quilting retreats. I find them much more relaxing and informative and I can work at my own pace. Good luck with whatever you decide.

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    As in all group settings where you (me) think we are going to be judged we get nervous and feel inferior to what others can do.

    NO FEAR HERE! I made a choice to not care about what othesr think about my work. The more mistakes I make in the class the funnier I got and the more fun I have. I do go to classes to learn, not be perfect. If I make a mistake, well, duh! I'm learning.

    Many years ago I attended a class by Nancy Halpren. I never finished the project because I couldn't draw a straight line around a template, nor could I keep a sharp point on the pencil I was using. I was told I was unteachable and look at me now. I think I make rather nice quilts, Some are a little wonky, some stranges colors and funky quilting. I love them and have no fear of what any one wants to say.

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    Over the years I have learned that quilters are so affriad of their own work and it not being up to 'standards'.

    I just love the doing, mistakes and all!
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    Quote Originally Posted by ube quilting View Post
    NO FEAR HERE!
    I just love the doing, mistakes and all!

    You are my kind of classmate!
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    I agree we all learn differently and some of us take long than others......I would still go and consider alcohol to relax and have fun!

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    I hate sit n sews...I'm with everyone thats says I can do that at home.I love the comraderie,chit chat,laughs,and just hob-nobbing with other quilters.I am happy if I can come away with 1 new method or idea..it makes it all worth it!

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    Who does everything perfectly the first time? Very few of us and definitely not me...You are just getting the mistakes out of the way so you can do it right the next time. I make at least one error on every quilt and I still enjoy quilting.

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    I love taking classes....yep, sometimes I mess something up big time but I don't let it get to me. Take your time and don't worry about keeping up with the others....there are probably people of all skill levels in the class.

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    Thank you all for your advice. I shall take it all on board and hopefully enjoy myself more at the next workshop. I just wish that I lived in the States rather than Scotland as you seem to have a greater choice of fabrics, sewing machine suppliers and not least of all teaching venues in abundance. We have the scenery, but have to travel great distances in order to get sewing supplies and tutorials.

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    Re: Workshop Jitters;
    I attended a craft and quilting "chat and do" morning every week for about eight months. About 100 people attended,doing different crafts at tables around the hall. Although a couple of my friends attended and I met some lovely ladies and learned a few quilting - and life - tips I never felt relaxed. Due to the noisy chatter I was unable to keep up with the conversation around our table, or consentrate on my project. It was one of my very few opportunities to socialise, and it was a friendly gathering, but the stress was not worth it and I gave up.

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    Hi. I feel your pain. I use to get upset because I wasn't as fast as some but now I just take good notes and work at my own pace. If I don't complete the task I finish it at home. It's more about the socialization. Don't let the pressure of the moment rob you of the joy of being with others.

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    Don't worry-I find that I never relax properly when I'm with other folks doing projects.

    Tell yourself that you can do it and do it when you get home.Good luck!
    Liz Fairlie

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    When I go to any type of group sewing or craft class, I mostly listen and watch and learn. I don't do much actual sewing. It just seems to be a personal style thing.

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