Advice please ...?
05-05-2011, 01:21 PM
#41
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Originally Posted by calano1
Originally Posted by calano1
My goodness!! Why did I wait so long before I asked?!?!
A BIG thank you to everyone for your responses ... I really do appreciate it!
I think the people on the Quilting Board are all under-cover psychologists!!!!! :)
Thank you all!
A BIG thank you to everyone for your responses ... I really do appreciate it!
I think the people on the Quilting Board are all under-cover psychologists!!!!! :)
Thank you all!
I think I may have spoken too soon ...
(SOME) of the people on the QB are under-cover psychologists ... :D :D :D :D
Others are just venting ... quite sad actually ...
Nevertheless ... those that did not take it personally and understood the questions gave wonderful advice. THANKS!!!:thumbup: :)
In that case please by all means force quilting on her. :roll:
05-05-2011, 02:48 PM
#42
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How old is she? If she is young, forget it. In years she may come along. If she is older, maybe ask her if she would like to learn. Is she planning the wedding right now, she won't have time. Then there are many people out there that have no quilting/sewing ablities.
05-05-2011, 03:00 PM
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Just like my mom I always sewed........pillows, clothes,curtains, etc. but it took my sister 5 years to get me interested in quilting. What did it for me was that she gave me a cheaters quilt top. It was a lap size that I quilted and bound and then I was hooked. That was 19 years ago.
05-05-2011, 03:41 PM
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Why not ask her if she likes it. Like any relationship, communication is the key. Be honest, tell her you enjoy her sharing your sewing interest and see where it goes. Share the suggestions that you posted about ways for her to learn to quilt and see where it goes.
If she says, I really don't like it. You know and can find other things you can share with her. Sounds like she is a sweet girl.
If she says, I really don't like it. You know and can find other things you can share with her. Sounds like she is a sweet girl.
05-05-2011, 08:48 PM
#45
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(Edited)
Oh dear .... so many misunderstandings ...!!
I did not elaborate in the OP, because I did not think it was needed.
I did indicate that after I gave my FDIL the sewing machine, she sewed little projects on her own initiative.
I neglected to say that we have gone shopping for fabric twice, and that she often indicates that she likes sewing.
But because she is a shy and timid girl, I am quite careful of dominating her into doing what I suggest ...
Besides, my son is quite protective of her .... so he won't stand for it ... :lol:
If you have read the message with an open mind, you would have noticed I said that:
I have been pondering this issue for more than a year ...
AND
I DON'T want to push it ....
I did not think every little detail of our relationship was needed to be known in order for anyone to give me some QUILTING advice ... which is why I posted in Main and not chit-chat.
I was quite flabbergasted when I read some of the posts, but I immediately recognised that these people had some bad experiences and was just trying to warn me.
So ... I am sorry for those of you who have/had trouble with your MIL, but please ... do not jump to conclusions ... not everyone is like your MIL ...
In fact ... contrary to popular belief, some MIL's are quite nice ... :)
Thankfully there were some who understood without having to know all the nitty gritty details.
And THAT is what makes the QB so great!!!
I am writing this one off as good experience ...
Be warned ...
In future my posts will be so elaborate, it may take ages to read!!!!! :):):):)
Oh dear .... so many misunderstandings ...!!
I did not elaborate in the OP, because I did not think it was needed.
I did indicate that after I gave my FDIL the sewing machine, she sewed little projects on her own initiative.
I neglected to say that we have gone shopping for fabric twice, and that she often indicates that she likes sewing.
But because she is a shy and timid girl, I am quite careful of dominating her into doing what I suggest ...
Besides, my son is quite protective of her .... so he won't stand for it ... :lol:
If you have read the message with an open mind, you would have noticed I said that:
I have been pondering this issue for more than a year ...
AND
I DON'T want to push it ....
I did not think every little detail of our relationship was needed to be known in order for anyone to give me some QUILTING advice ... which is why I posted in Main and not chit-chat.
I was quite flabbergasted when I read some of the posts, but I immediately recognised that these people had some bad experiences and was just trying to warn me.
So ... I am sorry for those of you who have/had trouble with your MIL, but please ... do not jump to conclusions ... not everyone is like your MIL ...
In fact ... contrary to popular belief, some MIL's are quite nice ... :)
Thankfully there were some who understood without having to know all the nitty gritty details.
And THAT is what makes the QB so great!!!
I am writing this one off as good experience ...
Be warned ...
In future my posts will be so elaborate, it may take ages to read!!!!! :):):):)
05-05-2011, 08:52 PM
#46
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Nicely stated! Best of luck bonding with DIL and hopefully you guys can have some great crafting days together!
Originally Posted by calano1
Oh dear .... so many misunderstandings ...!!
I did not elaborate in the OP, because I did not think it was needed.
I did indicate that after I gave my FDIL the sewing machine, she sewed little projects on her own initiative.
I neglected to say that we have gone shopping for fabric twice, and that she often indicates that she likes sewing.
But because she is a shy and timid girl, I am quite careful of dominating her into doing what I suggest ...
Besides, my son is quite protective of her .... so he won't stand for it ... :lol:
If you have read the message with an open mind, you would have noticed I said that:
I have been pondering this issue for more than a year ...
AND
I DON'T want to push it ....
I did not think every little detail of our relationship was needed to be known in order for anyone to give me some QUILTING advice ... which is why I posted in Main and not chit-chat.
What is quite ironic, is that those who were so adamant that I don't push my opinion, was forcing THEIR opinions .....:)
I am sorry for those of you who have/had trouble with your MIL, but please ... do not jump to conclusions ... not everyone is like your MIL ...
In fact ... contrary to popular belief, some MIL's are quite nice ...
My DH would have said: Oh get over your own little SELF and stick to the point!
Thankfully there were some who understood without having to know all the nitty gritty details.
And THAT is what makes the QB so great!!!
I am writing this one off as good experience ...
be warned ...
in future my posts will be so elaborate, it may take ages to read!!!!! :):):):)
I did not elaborate in the OP, because I did not think it was needed.
I did indicate that after I gave my FDIL the sewing machine, she sewed little projects on her own initiative.
I neglected to say that we have gone shopping for fabric twice, and that she often indicates that she likes sewing.
But because she is a shy and timid girl, I am quite careful of dominating her into doing what I suggest ...
Besides, my son is quite protective of her .... so he won't stand for it ... :lol:
If you have read the message with an open mind, you would have noticed I said that:
I have been pondering this issue for more than a year ...
AND
I DON'T want to push it ....
I did not think every little detail of our relationship was needed to be known in order for anyone to give me some QUILTING advice ... which is why I posted in Main and not chit-chat.
What is quite ironic, is that those who were so adamant that I don't push my opinion, was forcing THEIR opinions .....:)
I am sorry for those of you who have/had trouble with your MIL, but please ... do not jump to conclusions ... not everyone is like your MIL ...
In fact ... contrary to popular belief, some MIL's are quite nice ...
My DH would have said: Oh get over your own little SELF and stick to the point!
Thankfully there were some who understood without having to know all the nitty gritty details.
And THAT is what makes the QB so great!!!
I am writing this one off as good experience ...
be warned ...
in future my posts will be so elaborate, it may take ages to read!!!!! :):):):)
05-05-2011, 09:39 PM
#47
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I would just give her time and space to see if she likes it. Like others here, I don't think pushing her into quilting or sewing will yield good results and she might end up resenting it. Teach by example: when she sees how much happiness it brings you, she may ask you to teach her some day. Good luck, it sounds like you really care about her.
05-06-2011, 02:56 AM
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Originally Posted by CarrieAnne
I think she either wants to or doesnt. Unfortantly neither my DD or my Mom are into sewing, though Mom used to do it. Nor my Sis, have tried with her, shes just too impatient. I wish I couldve got my DD to like it too!
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