bearisgray

Some people are nice. Some aren't.

The older I get, the more respect I have for my MIL (and FIL, too). They did not have an easy life.
The same goes for my parents. They were honest, hard-working people.

I DID get my grundies into serious bunches at times when I was younger - the little pile of sugar on the table looked like a 5000 foot granite mountain at times then. And I did have hissy-fits now and then.

Age has given me a different perspective on a lot of things.

martapr

well said!

Sandra-P

I am so glad for all of you that have and have had good MIL. Mine is not one of them and while I am grateful to her for giving birth to my husband, I wish her the best now that she does not speak to him for getting married. My hope is that she lives a long time to regret what she has tried to do to our marriage.

Greenheron

My MIL saved dishwater to soak dirty clothes, ironed socks and turned bed sheets over to the 'clean' side. God bless her, she had to work like a dog from her pre-teen years; caring for an ailing/dying mother and keeping house and cooking for father and brothers in a home without indoor plumbing. Although employed for all of her adult life, she also found a way to get her teaching certificate in her 30's and taught in rural one-room schools for many years. Which was she, a person with odd ways or a valiant woman?

Peckish

I adore my MIL, she's an absolute hoot. She and I love to get together and swap insults and lies while we play games and drink wine until the wee hours. She's 76 and I hope she lives to be 106, because I missed out on knowing her for the first 25 years of my life and I need to make up for it. I told my husband once that if he ever leaves me, I get his mom in the divorce.

bearisgray

When people had to carry water in and out - I think it made them very much more aware of how much was being used - and for what!

What may be considered "odd" now may have been "standard operating procedure" in that time and that community.

I would consider her valiant.

Did she change her " ways" after she got indoor plumbing?

BellaBoo

I wish I had in laws. DH's parents and my parents died when we were young. We have no older living relatives that we are close to.

Letty

I too read that post about the MIL, and left a message, after all the replies I now feel sympathy for the poor lass that posted it.I see that she has other issues with the lady.Well just bind your time my love, my MIl gave our marriage 6 months, after 25yrs I asked her was she of the same mind! We finished up very close.We all have problems in our lives and don't always share them. Always look for the rainbows and hope that the pot of gold will be where your heart is. Letty x

Caswews

[QUOTE=MadQuilter;6194114]...and some became the men they are in spite of their mother.[/QUOTE

Oh I totally agree here for sure !

BCM

Sometimes to have a good mother in law, one must be a good daughter in law.