Should I make a baby quilt...or not?
02-06-2026, 07:25 AM
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I see you decided to make the quilt. Good for you! Good for dad and baby too! As far as the woman, unfortunately some are like her, but thank the good Lord they aren’t the majority. It will surely please the dad and you can only hope it will soften the heart of the mom. Who knows, it may lead to her wanting advice from you about the baby. Hopefully she is a better mom than the neighbor she has been to you and she was to your husband. Please let us know the outcome. This is like an unfinished story-lol
Best wishes and love you for your ‘wanting to turn the other cheek’ so to speak.
Best wishes and love you for your ‘wanting to turn the other cheek’ so to speak.
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02-06-2026, 08:08 AM
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I would make the quilt too. And she lost a child? I don't begin to understand what is going on with her, but I lost my grown son 5 years ago and I am still "not right" if you know what I mean. Maybe she is just withdrawn anyway but she is still suffering. She knows the future is always uncertain. I would write a Very Generous note about wonderful that they have this lovely baby to cherish and adore and hope the quilt provides a place for tummy time, picnics, etc. That way she knows you know it won't go in the crib and maybe she never thought of the other ideas. I make baby quilts for my cousin's grandchildren. The parents don't really care, but, my cousin is thrilled by them and sends me a picture. After that I have no idea what happens to the quilts but my cousin loves them and that I do it. Also make for my BFF grand nieces and nephews for her, not for them, but they turn out to like them too. So, you are really making it for the Dad and he will understand. Let us know how it all turns out.
02-06-2026, 10:20 AM
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I would make the quilt too. And she lost a child? I don't begin to understand what is going on with her, but I lost my grown son 5 years ago and I am still "not right" if you know what I mean. Maybe she is just withdrawn anyway but she is still suffering. She knows the future is always uncertain. I would write a Very Generous note about wonderful that they have this lovely baby to cherish and adore and hope the quilt provides a place for tummy time, picnics, etc. That way she knows you know it won't go in the crib and maybe she never thought of the other ideas. I make baby quilts for my cousin's grandchildren. The parents don't really care, but, my cousin is thrilled by them and sends me a picture. After that I have no idea what happens to the quilts but my cousin loves them and that I do it. Also make for my BFF grand nieces and nephews for her, not for them, but they turn out to like them too. So, you are really making it for the Dad and he will understand. Let us know how it all turns out.
if you look on second page, the original poster I think retired2pa says his ex-wife had custody of his 4 year old when daughter died. This is second wife’s first baby.
Sometimes I don’t read quite right the first time either. Have a good day!
02-06-2026, 03:43 PM
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stitchnripper, I am so sorry you lost your son. I know most of us wouldn’t be’quite right’ either.
if you look on second page, the original poster I think retired2pa says his ex-wife had custody of his 4 year old when daughter died. This is second wife’s first baby.
Sometimes I don’t read quite right the first time either. Have a good day!
if you look on second page, the original poster I think retired2pa says his ex-wife had custody of his 4 year old when daughter died. This is second wife’s first baby.
Sometimes I don’t read quite right the first time either. Have a good day!
02-07-2026, 08:20 AM
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I would make the quilt too. And she lost a child? I don't begin to understand what is going on with her, but I lost my grown son 5 years ago and I am still "not right" if you know what I mean. Maybe she is just withdrawn anyway but she is still suffering. She knows the future is always uncertain. I would write a Very Generous note about wonderful that they have this lovely baby to cherish and adore and hope the quilt provides a place for tummy time, picnics, etc. That way she knows you know it won't go in the crib and maybe she never thought of the other ideas. I make baby quilts for my cousin's grandchildren. The parents don't really care, but, my cousin is thrilled by them and sends me a picture. After that I have no idea what happens to the quilts but my cousin loves them and that I do it. Also make for my BFF grand nieces and nephews for her, not for them, but they turn out to like them too. So, you are really making it for the Dad and he will understand. Let us know how it all turns out.
I'm so sorry you've been through this. Yes, I do know what you mean. I lost my husband very suddenly in Oct., 2023 and it's been a devastating 2 years. It was bad enough to lose my husband but I can't imagine losing a child. (((HUGS))).
02-07-2026, 11:21 AM
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No, she did not lose a child. Her husband had been married before and it was his daughter.
I'm so sorry you've been through this. Yes, I do know what you mean. I lost my husband very suddenly in Oct., 2023 and it's been a devastating 2 years. It was bad enough to lose my husband but I can't imagine losing a child. (((HUGS))).
I'm so sorry you've been through this. Yes, I do know what you mean. I lost my husband very suddenly in Oct., 2023 and it's been a devastating 2 years. It was bad enough to lose my husband but I can't imagine losing a child. (((HUGS))).
02-08-2026, 12:26 PM
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Any time we make a gift there is the risk that it is unappreciated. Or that we didn't pick the "right" colors or whatever...
I say make them a quilt if you want to, not expecting much in return But you don't know, this might be the thing that turns your non-friendly neighbor into being someone who could appreciate some extra village support from next door. Or not... we just don't know. We can only do us while they do them.
Be aware though that modern baby advice says no blankets in cribs for the first (now couple!) of years, just the blanket sleepers. I say we still need cuddles and covers and other things.
I say make them a quilt if you want to, not expecting much in return But you don't know, this might be the thing that turns your non-friendly neighbor into being someone who could appreciate some extra village support from next door. Or not... we just don't know. We can only do us while they do them.
Be aware though that modern baby advice says no blankets in cribs for the first (now couple!) of years, just the blanket sleepers. I say we still need cuddles and covers and other things.
02-09-2026, 01:33 PM
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I am so glad you decided to make the quilt. No matter what we make for donation quilts or which organization we donate them to for giving, the recipient may or may not appreciate the home made gesture. I would obviously put love and attention into this quilt, but have the mindset of: it is a donation quilt. I am getting ready to make a bunch of baby quilts that I donate to our Womens Health office for the medical assistants to give to pregnant, expecting moms. I have no idea who these go to, and it is up to the recipient if they will enjoy and use it or let their dog lay on it. Just enjoy the process as you make it and gift without expectation.
