Rude Guild Members/Need Help
05-04-2011, 08:28 PM
#131
Senior Member
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: No. Calif
Posts: 527
Originally Posted by newquilter10
People do this everywhere and it bugs the puddin out of me.
I go to WW when in Texas and I get so upset as I pay good money to go to hear the leader not the twenty side meetings. I keep saying I am going to say something and wish I had the guts to do so. It is so RUDE to be yakking when they are talking.
Good luck!
I go to WW when in Texas and I get so upset as I pay good money to go to hear the leader not the twenty side meetings. I keep saying I am going to say something and wish I had the guts to do so. It is so RUDE to be yakking when they are talking.
Good luck!
05-04-2011, 09:07 PM
#132
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: At my laptop
Posts: 280
I always rely on the standing and not saying a word method. Seems to work pretty well. May I add one more suggestion? A sign posted....Please turn off your cell phones prior to the meeting starting. Then a quick reminder just as we start. Best of luck.
05-04-2011, 09:43 PM
#133
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Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Oceanside, Calif
Posts: 578
Originally Posted by craftybear
Good luck, the other day at our evening guild meeting the President told all of us at the beginning of the meeting to please do not chit chat during the meeting as others can't hear her or our speaker
and if she catches someone chatting she will tell them to leave the meeting.
you might try it
and if she catches someone chatting she will tell them to leave the meeting.
you might try it
Originally Posted by Lena1952
Over the past few years I have noticed a tendency toward rudeness during our meetings. Members talk during a speaker, during the general meeting and not quietly. Several times I have had difficulty hearing what is being said due to the person behind me holding a conversation. As the new Prez of this guild, I need help finding a way to politely handle this situation. Me, I am normally a fairly blunt no nonsense kind of gal but realize tack it needed for this, so please help me tame these beasties nicely.
05-05-2011, 02:25 AM
#134
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Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Florida
Posts: 234
I like this idea.
Originally Posted by Pamela Artman
I would hate to embarrass someone or make anyone feel uncomfortable. Unlike business meetings, people come to a quilt guild to have fun and they can choose not to come again if they are made to feel uncomfortable or have negative attention called to them. If I went to a guild meeting and the speaker called my name or came to stand next to me if I was talking, I'd probably be so embarrassed I would not come back. At the first meeting, you could talk about the "problem" and ask for suggestions so that all the members feel they are a part of the solution. My aunt is a teacher and when her classroom would get noisy, she would turn out the light and when it got quiet, she'd turn it back on and continue talking. Maybe you could make a game out of it. Pass out numbered slips of paper and if someone is talking others could take their paper from them. At the end of the meeting, draw a number and whoever has the paper with that number on it would win a fat quarter or pattern. Just something to make it a fun reminder not to talk when someone else is talking.
05-05-2011, 04:07 AM
#135
Member
Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 83
Originally Posted by sweet
Maybe it might help if you told them at the beginning of the meeting what you expect from them.
05-05-2011, 06:14 AM
#136
Super Member
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Ohio
Posts: 2,148
" If someone is rude enough to be chatting while there is a speaker speaking and others trying to listen, then they have to take the consequence for their actions. If they don't want to be called out and possibly embarrassed, then they should behave, act like an adult and listen quietly like everyone else in the room.[/quote]
I agree!!!!! Others members of the group should give the talkers the "evil eye"
I agree!!!!! Others members of the group should give the talkers the "evil eye"
05-05-2011, 06:53 AM
#137
Member
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 65
We have a group in our guild who do this consistently. They should know better as they include a former pres and others who have held offices. This is really annoying to several of us who manage to sit near them but we usually just shush them.
05-05-2011, 08:15 AM
#138
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Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Charleston, SC
Posts: 1,640
I like everyone's comments. I would like to add that we should all lead by example too. Perhaps when it is getting noisy to ask members to Please be considerate and table the comments until discussion, so others can hear the speaker.
You may have to do this several times at most meetings. It is like training a child to use their manners.
More and more people are becoming irritated at the fact that America has become very rude in many ways. People come to visit me and I note that when we are in public, they come across as demanding to waiters, shop keepers, etc. They bring their screaming children to stores that everyone has to contend with the misbehavior. We represent ourselves in a bad light and need to be more conscious of our behavior toward others.
You may have to do this several times at most meetings. It is like training a child to use their manners.
More and more people are becoming irritated at the fact that America has become very rude in many ways. People come to visit me and I note that when we are in public, they come across as demanding to waiters, shop keepers, etc. They bring their screaming children to stores that everyone has to contend with the misbehavior. We represent ourselves in a bad light and need to be more conscious of our behavior toward others.
05-05-2011, 11:35 AM
#140
Senior Member
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: currently AR Ozarks
Posts: 590
Originally Posted by Pamela Artman
I would hate to embarrass someone or make anyone feel uncomfortable. Unlike business meetings, people come to a quilt guild to have fun and they can choose not to come again if they are made to feel uncomfortable or have negative attention called to them. If I went to a guild meeting and the speaker called my name or came to stand next to me if I was talking, I'd probably be so embarrassed I would not come back. At the first meeting, you could talk about the "problem" and ask for suggestions so that all the members feel they are a part of the solution. My aunt is a teacher and when her classroom would get noisy, she would turn out the light and when it got quiet, she'd turn it back on and continue talking. Maybe you could make a game out of it. Pass out numbered slips of paper and if someone is talking others could take their paper from them. At the end of the meeting, draw a number and whoever has the paper with that number on it would win a fat quarter or pattern. Just something to make it a fun reminder not to talk when someone else is talking.
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