lheartsl

i would ask... she what they say...
Thank god for my mom... she lives in the same town.. did't over step, and insisted to take the baby one night to her house, so we could get some sleep!

SewExtremeSeams

I have 11 grandchildren and have been blessed to be at each of their births, except the last two, and helped out afterwards. My Mother always came and if I remember correctly, at times both my Mother and MIL came... they just took turns.

I have heard from others or from young mothers themselves that they don't want their family or siblings in the room for delivery. See, I am blessed because even my DIL wanted me. Those are special moments. There is a way to stay out of their way while you are staying with them. Usually, that type of help is very welcome. I hope it all works out for you. Congratulations on the birth of your grandchild! It is such a blessing to be a Grandma...

shnnn

Just ask. You'll never know otherwise. Me, I didn't want anyone but hubby here, but others are different (and other moms too)

eastermarie

When I had my first baby, my MIL told us at the hospital on the day when we were to come home that she was coming to take care of the baby that she wold feed her and watch her so I could get some rest. I will always remember her for her act of kindness. That was 34 years ago.

Jim's Gem

My first grandbaby was born on the 15th. I got to be there in the delivery room with them. Then after they got out of the hospital I went and spent the days with them. They live in a tiny apartment so I drove 31 miles each way to my parents house for the night. I just got home on Sunday evening. It was wonderful being there to help them out and take care of Isaac while my daughter and her husband got a nap and a little bit of a break in!!!
My daughter asked me to come!

Lisa_wanna_b_quilter

Even if they say no at first, feel them out again a few days after the birth. You never know how things will go. With my first, I was a wreck. I barely touched him for two weeks. If that happens, they will need help. If things go easy (like with my #2), they may not need it.

ladyshuffler

I agree :thumbup: :thumbup:

sall

I would never offer to be at the birth. I personally think that is a time for just the parents, but I did go straight after to do the usual chores and stayed for a week each time. With the 2nd, my daughter asked me to come beforhand so that I could be there to look after no 1 when she had to go to hospital for the birth.

merchjag

absolutely-my son in law is a picu doctor and my daughter is a genetics counselor and they asked my husband and I to come to their house the day they brought my g baby home because they were "scared". I went every weekend and took 2 weeks vacation so I could be there and they could sleep.This after my well educated dughter was sure she could handle everything herself. GO!!! theywill love it!!! and you. :thumbup:

smagruder

I said I want to come but give your mom (DIL's) first chance to be there for the birth and a while afterwards. Maverick was born Jan.18th and I went Feb. 13th I think. It just makes sense to me to have the wife's mom there initially. When I got there, I offered to do the 4 AM feeding so mom could sleep in. Son is in military so gets up early. He would bring Maverick to me at 4 AM and I would feed and hold him until mom got up.... around 7 or 8 AM. I LOVED the time I had alone with my first grandbaby and since I am awake at that time anyway, it was perfect for me. I did ask before his birth what I could do to help. They both really appreciated me being there and taking the early morning shift.