Has quilting made you more or less of a loner?

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03-01-2011, 12:45 PM

#81

katieranch

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Originally Posted by Lv2sew2011

Well, after a friend of 17 years just stop having anything to do with me, I refused to be hurt like that ever again, so now I keep my distance. I won't let people get close to me. So all I have now is my computer, quilting, and other crafts. My sons hardly ever call me or visit. So I guess Internet friends is all I have in my life at this time.

To this day, I have no ideal why my friend stop having anything to do with me, I ask her if I had offended her and she said no, that I had done nothing, but I must of did something to hurt her and she never gave me a chance to say I'm sorry. After 3 years trying and crying to find out what I did, I just gave up.

At that time I had loss a lot of weight and became much smaller than her, but if she could only see me now, I've just about put it all back on from depression.

I've told people about this and they seem to think the weight loss might be the reason she quit having anything to do with me, I just don't know...

But to this day my heart aches, no more close friends for me thank you!

So with that said, I guess I am a loner and just trying to find something to do to fill the void... :-(

So Sorry for your loss, I know what it's like to loose a sister, I lost my sister to drowning in 2009 she was my only sibling...

Your friend sounds very shallow...I don't know her but if she stopped being your friend because you lost weight, she wasn't much of a friend to begin with.

My problem is none of my friends live near by. I moved to Az from CA and we live in the middle of no where, so I have to go a distance to meet friends. I have made some new friends here, I just don't get to see them much!

03-01-2011, 01:45 PM

#82

snorris

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yes i am a loner also.

03-01-2011, 02:24 PM

#83

Grandma Peg

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Sorry for your loss, but the main thing is that she was happy.

03-01-2011, 03:53 PM

#84

ann31039

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Location: Phenix City, Alabama

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i guess i am a loner by nature. but right now i'm away from home and family. working in nc 500 miles from home. just me and my 13 yo son. we're in a tiny camper but i had to bring my machine. sewing is mostly calming for me. i quit when it isn't. i'm just glad the board is here with all you wonderful people. helps with the lonliness.

03-01-2011, 04:08 PM

#85

BobbiSue

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DonnaJean, I am truly sorry about your sister. You have been doing a sweet thing by helping others by sending out her books, etc. Mama will be gone three years this coming May 10th. She passed on Mother's Day. I am the oldest living person in her direct blood line. Only have two of Daddy's sisters living older than I am in his direct blood line.

RE: being a loner... Considering that I am disabled in a wheel chair, I seldom get out of my home in the cold weather. So yes, I guess I have become pretty much a loner except for m y dear husband and my aide....
About all I do now is hand stitching the old fashioned needle and thread way. I also do family genealogy...

03-01-2011, 04:12 PM

#86

MadQuilter

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I am still the same loner that I have always been. Before quilting I had other indoors hobbies, so can't blame that on quilting. I happen to like myself (which is good, because wherever I go - there I am!) My hubby is a loner in his own right, and we both have few but dear friends. No problems here.

Sorry you lost your sister.

03-01-2011, 04:26 PM

#87

fabricfairy

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I have never been so involved in my local area has I have since I have quilted , I teach a litle and have meet some of the most wonderful "older " ladies I would have never talked to before , they re so giving and have such funny life stories to tell . Cathy

03-01-2011, 04:32 PM

#88

PATTIESPEARL

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Location: Mountain View, Oklahoma

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so sorry about the loss of your sister. Quilting has brought more people into my life than I had before. I have been a loner all of my life, but I do love and enjoy people.

03-01-2011, 04:35 PM

#89

jitkaau

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I was a loner before I started quilting. I've never followed or lived by the opinions of others as I have my own life to lead and if I generally try to work toward the common good, quilting is a good way to get you involved with others. I have become more sociable and attend more meetings and get invited to more functions than I ever did before I started quilting. It is a great socialiser and ice - breaker.

03-01-2011, 04:49 PM

#90

Rntraveler

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"This was pre-internet times & quilting became such an obsession that all she did was quilt & work"

I think this could be true of many hobbies... my ex was a "ham" radio operator.. he would be up about 5a...work from 8a to11:30 home for lunch than back to work at 1p and home by 4:30...rest of the time was on the radio.. Didn't go to bed till about 11ish and sometimes later.. I would often wake up during the night and he would be on the radio again..he had trouble taking the trash out... should have left him long ago.

Any hobby can become an obsession and the internet and boards like this one can easily become one. The thing that bother's me to is the lack of exercise and weight gain of so many of us quilter's...I am right there with them and I am worried that the older I get the harder it is to lose.