We usually go to my Aunts Christmas Eve and eat lots of food and everyone opens the presents from the other family members. Then Christmas Day my mom and brother come over early in the morning and we all eat a big breakfast that I cooked and then open our presents from each other and watch my kids open their gifts. My brother passed away unexpected 9/20/08, mom didn't come over for Christmas. I told my husband the other day I don't care to do that anymore. Part of that big breakfast was for my brother and he won't be there. I want to do something different from now on. I would like to borrow some of your family traditions. This had been very hard on me and is still hard to talk about.