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Thread: My sister...feeling out of sorts???

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    Do you want to be able to say "I made her a quilt and I have done all I can to keep the family together", or do you want to be able to say "I made her a quilt I thought she would love"? Obviously she doesn't love/like flowers on fabric. Why would you use it? To spite her? It would be better to replace it with a solid than use a fabric you know she has already said she doesn't like. Where is the love in that? If the cost of the fabric is really the issue then sell the floral fabric and save up for the replacement fabric. People love quilts because of how the finished product looks, not because of the hours that was put into them - otherwise we would all cherish the child made products in the stores. What could be made more dearly than the labor of a child? It's a hard world.

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    just make it a rail fence and if she asks why, say "they have fences in the Country"....

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    Quote Originally Posted by TanyaLynn
    Do you want to be able to say "I made her a quilt and I have done all I can to keep the family together", or do you want to be able to say "I made her a quilt I thought she would love"? Obviously she doesn't love/like flowers on fabric. Why would you use it? To spite her? It would be better to replace it with a solid than use a fabric you know she has already said she doesn't like. Where is the love in that? If the cost of the fabric is really the issue then sell the floral fabric and save up for the replacement fabric. People love quilts because of how the finished product looks, not because of the hours that was put into them - otherwise we would all cherish the child made products in the stores. What could be made more dearly than the labor of a child? It's a hard world.
    I did not choose the flowers to spit her, I had asked on 3 seperate occasions, her ideas, what would she be interested in, colors, items, I wanted to have it personal to her likes. She first asked me at the time, if I could make skulls. I said I would look around for fabric. She told me, wait a minute, make it half country and half skulls. I said, I don't think that would look too well together. She said her boyfriend liked skulls. I told her well the quilt I was planning is one for you. I looked and looked and could not find anything I thought would suit my sister. I called and asked her again. She told me, well I like red, black and white. I said ok, that gives me something better to go on. I did not know what her view of country was, and when I asked her she was vague. I told her when we went across country to visit with our grandchildren, and I was near a quilt shop. I would look into something with red, black, and white, after a few hours in the quilt shop, DH put together this fabric. When I got home, I told her about it and everything was ok. When I sent her pictures, that is when she started tossing around about cowboys, horses, cowboy boots and things like that. I am making this quilt, because I love both my sisters and don't like to treat one better then the other. I know, no matter what fabric I chose, she would not be happy with it, she would always ask me to get something different. I've decided to make her the quilt. It's being made with both love from my heart and my love for making her a beautiful quilt. I don't think that making a quilt is anything to keep our family together. I don't think it ever will be, the 3 of us are separated by many miles.

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    Aren't flowers country?

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    if you need her to be happy with the quilt that is something that may not happen. If it is sufficient for you to be happy with the quilt and the act of giving, then go for it.

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    if you need her to be happy with the quilt that is something that may not happen. If it is sufficient for you to be happy with the quilt and the act of giving, then go for it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by j
    Tell her to buy the material and then perhaps she will get a feel for what it costs, let alone working on it time. Then you will have only spent time on it and if she doesn't like it. Its her fault. == J
    I agree that you could ask her to go to her LQS and check out what they have. Maybe she would find something she really likes and get a clue about today's prices.

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    Flowers grow in the country. That is country enough.

    Make it, but make it last. Take your sweet 'country' time.

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    Good luck on the quilt. I sincerely hope you enjoy making the quilt and I sincerely hope she likes it also. I understand you are making it with very good intentions. Perhaps she will receive it in the spirit that it is given. Please let us know how things turn out.

    I have a relative that would not use a hand made quilt if it was the wrong style or color to match her decorating unless the weather turned very cold and the furnace malfunctioned. So of course I would not put my time into the wrong style and color because it would be useless.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EagarBeez
    You think I should still make it??
    NO!!! Since she hasn't liked any of your picks, tell her if she wants a quilt she should go buy the material she likes, and then you will make something from it. Give her a yardage amount to buy for the size she wants.

    Why work on something that is going to be received in such a manner it will hurt your feelings and ruin your pleasure in the giving. If she is, as DH says, critical of everything you do, you need to pull up your big girl panties and just say NO. No one can take advantage of you without your permission.

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