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    a yiddish proverb (i'll try to spell it phonetically, and do it wrong):

    vee kenst nisht tansin et tsvay chaniniss mit ayneh tuchiss.

    interpretation:

    we cannot dance at two weddings with one backside (you can't be at two places t once)..

    spelled badly, i know.

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    I've made my decision to go ahead with my plans to go out of town. Sent an email to my DIL ...no problem. :) :)

    I worry too much! Thanks for all of the advice. Y'all are great.

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    have a wonderful weekend. bring back something special for him.

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    I would go. You have had plans for a year so don't change them.

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    I think that all the advice that has already been given is good. Send or take a lovely gift before the day and explain that you have long standing plans, are sad about missing the party.... but you won't be there. 2nd birthdays are not remembered by the children and the parents should be adult enough to understand.

    Go, have a good time on you pre-booked engagement!

    Hugs

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    GO Girl, Go Girl, and have fun! The two year old won't know that you are not there. Her parents might give you grief but the child won't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by QuiltnCowgirl
    My thought is that your plans have been made long before the invitation was received. Therefore, your husband should graciously represent both of you at his grandson's party, supportively explaining that you had a trip planned a year ahead that could not be cancelled. And, you should make plans to do something just from you to the grandson as a token gesture of good-will.

    Just what I would do...take what works for you & leave the rest.
    Ditto

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    Feel your pain but growing up with no grandparents I swear I will never miss a special day with my grand children and so far I've kept that promise. GS is 10 Emily 8. But you have to do what you feel is right for you

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    Assuming you live in same town as grandson or close enough to visit, go spend some time with him and take him a gift. At 2 he will not remember if you were at his party until he is older and sees pictures. Maybe next year you can get a heads up from family if they plan something or just make sure you do notplan to go somewhere that week. God have fun and do not worry about your grandson. Take care.
    Linda

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    Quote Originally Posted by QuiltnCowgirl
    My thought is that your plans have been made long before the invitation was received. Therefore, your husband should graciously represent both of you at his grandson's party, supportively explaining that you had a trip planned a year ahead that could not be cancelled. And, you should make plans to do something just from you to the grandson as a token gesture of good-will.

    Just what I would do...take what works for you & leave the rest.

    I agree with Cowgirl!

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    i would go on my trip , it was planned a long time ago (and it does sound like more fun) and have hubby explain this to the host she should understand

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    Me either! Please tell me how as this would be very convenient :)

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    Quote Originally Posted by carolynbb
    You haven't figured out how to be two places at once??
    Sorry, I meant to put this here, but it got farther along.

    I can't be in two places at the same time either. If you know how please tell me. It could be very beneficial> :)

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    Early or late birthdays are wonderful.....keeps the party going for days! I am sure his parents will understand :-D

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    Of course it would time that way. You have had the plans for a year. If it would be hard to delay, if you would lose your downpayments. Is there some reason they cannot change the day or have a small celebration with you later or earlier. they are just going to have to understand.

    We didn't have my son's birthday party on his birthday. I actually had it on a Saturday instead of the traditional Sunday this year and will continue to do that because his best friend would get a late start driving 3 1/2 hours home. I decided there was no reason I couldn't be a little more mindful of her schedule. She has never complained over the years.

    Oh good luck. I hope they are understanding. Tell them the truth. Maybe they will help you arrive at a solution

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    spend a evening with him take a gift and call it a day

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    I agree with some of the others I think since you had previous plans you need to keep those. I'm not sure if your husband is going? If he is not going I would ask him if he could go to the party. If he can't, I would make sure the gift gets to the parents prior to the party. I'm sure they will understand. :):):)

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    Quote Originally Posted by LindaaJR
    Assuming you live in same town as grandson or close enough to visit, go spend some time with him and take him a gift. At 2 he will not remember if you were at his party until he is older and sees pictures. Maybe next year you can get a heads up from family if they plan something or just make sure you do notplan to go somewhere that week. God have fun and do not worry about your grandson. Take care.
    Linda
    Just reread what I typed. I meant "go and have fun and do not worry about your grandson". Just talked to my daughter who is a grandmother and she said "go on trip" before I totally finished telling her your problem. I have missed a few of my great grandchildren's parties because their parents insist on the huge parties for their children with adults and children attending. I am not that fond of crowds when the child has noidea what is going on. Take care.
    Linda

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    Go on your trip.There is never any way to please everybody.

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    I have 16 grandchildren with #17 on the way. Despite my best intentions it is physically and financially impossible to attend everyone's birthday every year. Although I love them dearly, Gramma and Grampa do have a life and we do make plans that sometimes conflict with plans our children and grandchildren make. (one of them was born on our anniversary!) We do the best we can to make sure they all get phone calls, cards, gifts/money, and we try to do something with each one at least once a year....hopefully the parents will understand.

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    Send your regrets and plan a get together with grandson when you get back. Birthdays are a season, not a day ;-)

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