Courtesy & good manners: lost arts?
07-16-2011, 08:38 PM
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Before I retired from teaching in inner city public school, my students would come and TELL me they FORGOT their pencil. (It was almost always the same students). I kept extra pencils for that reason. I would always say to them, "What are the magic words"? And then they would say. "May I have a pencil, please, Mrs..."? By the end of the semester/year, they got it!!
It's a matter of teaching in a kind way and setting examples and doing them yourself. IMHO.. That is only one of the many examples of manners/civility I tried to teach to my students; some who lived on the streets or were greatly neglected by parents and had few role models.
It's a matter of teaching in a kind way and setting examples and doing them yourself. IMHO.. That is only one of the many examples of manners/civility I tried to teach to my students; some who lived on the streets or were greatly neglected by parents and had few role models.
07-16-2011, 09:30 PM
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Originally Posted by soniboo
Originally Posted by Stitchit123
The real sad thing is they learn this behavior from their parents I live in a 'Mobile Home Park' I hear parents using the F word while screaming at their kids daily.Last night(after midnight) we were sitting out on the porch and some so called mother is screaming at her 6ish son to get his F-n *ss in the house and this kid screams back Shut the F up B***h I was in shock but my brother said You Reap what you Sow-- I just wanted to go wash both of their mouths out with soap or call Childrens Services I talked to the park manager about it today and she said she's called CS about several incidents and they say there is nothing they can do about these kind of complaints.To me this IS child abuse But apparently not by todays standards..Its getting sadder all the time :cry:
07-16-2011, 10:20 PM
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Originally Posted by Helovesme
"Because I can" is the mentality of many many people nowadays. However, just because you CAN doesn't mean you have the right - the right to endanger MY life while driving on the same freeway. Go ahead and endanger your own on an empty freeway somewhere. You're right Hen3rietta - what happen to common courtesy?
07-17-2011, 12:08 AM
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I lived in south Texas for several years, and picked up the yes maam, no maam, yes sir, no sir, habit. Now that I live in Oregon, people look at me funny and ask where I am from! Duh, Oregon!
07-17-2011, 04:35 AM
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I have often reflected on this. I have even found that there are some forums that I cannot stay with because of this problem. I honestly feel, that the beginning of the "generation of rude and unfeeling people" started with the change in entertainment. We use to see family shows where love and respect were the piviting point of the theme. Now it's how funny can you be by showing rudness and it has branched out to terrible bullying. I once told a friend that this is not a sit-com that I will show up in next week and pretend as though last weeks meaness never happened. Hope I didn't sound off too strongly here.
07-17-2011, 05:34 AM
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Originally Posted by SharBear
I think that parents need to be PARENTS - they are so busy trying to be best friends with their children that they fail to teach them right from wrong or good manners.
Have told my two that there will be plenty of time in their lives for us to become adult friends - but for now - I'm your MOTHER and it's my job to teach you what you need to know.
Have told my two that there will be plenty of time in their lives for us to become adult friends - but for now - I'm your MOTHER and it's my job to teach you what you need to know.
07-17-2011, 01:42 PM
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Unfortunately I have a teen granddaug just like that. I sent her a sizeable check for the HS graduation the end of May. No thank you either writter or oral. So when her birthday rolled around the end of June I wrote in her card, since she didn't bother to thank me for the grad gift, I didn't feel inclinded to send her any money for her B-day. She sent me a text saying she hadn't sent out any thank you's as she'd been too "busy".
07-17-2011, 05:04 PM
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07-17-2011, 06:46 PM
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07-17-2011, 07:27 PM
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I just had an out-of-state visitor and she burped at the table. No comment was made. Then my 7 yr old grandson calmly said, "This may be your first day here (name) but when we burp at the table, we say excuse me." He then put his fork down, put his hands on his lap and said, "So we'll just wait for you."
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