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Thread: is donating a quilted item really an act of charity?

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    is donating a quilted item really an act of charity?

    Or an excuse/reason to let me indulge more in my hobby/recreation/passion?

    No call on any one else here -

    but sometimes I think a. Food shelf could use the money better than I did when I bought more quilting/sewing supplies.

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    I think it is. I make quilts for foster kids mostly. When they attend this summer camp, they are given a quilt and a pillow case. Some of them arrive at camp with only the clothes on their backs. So this is all anonymously but I like to think that I am giving a child a beautiful quilt that will belong to THEM so at least as they are growing up, they will remember that someone really does care about them.
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    I believe one's personal motives determine whether or not it's truly charity. If one uses charity as an excuse to get rid of items 'not good enough for friends or family,' then it seems more an act of disposal, than charity.
    On the other hand, emotional needs are often overlooked, when people donate food. I believe quilts and other symbols of comfort, help to fill that need.
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    You can drive yourself crazy with that kind of thinking.

    Is it more important to feed someone for a day? Or make them feel warm and loved for a year? Or what about medicine, maybe sick people need help more. If you spend time visiting with the elderly, are you "wasting" time that should be used helping a child learn to read? What about donating cat food to a shelter, is it better to help people? If I have $5 to donate, should I give $1 to five charities, or all $5 to one charity? Do I take care of local people, or help people far away who are worse off? If I have a single mom with five kids on one side and an elderly lady living on food stamps on the other side, which neighbor do I cook extra meals for?

    No one person can take care of everybody and everything that needs help. So we each pick a thing or two or three that resonate with us personally and spend our time/energy/money there and hope all the bases get covered. Personally, I do a mix of things. I donate cash, food, quilts, and physical labor to a variety of places all year 'round. Some focus on the local community at large, some focus on elderly, children, animals, or people who are ill. And I do a walk-a-thon once a year for the local hospice. Some of it is done through my employer, some through my guild, some through community programs, and some on my own.

    I WANT to get involved with the local convalescent hospital, the one my DH's grandmother lived in until she passed away. My FIL has continued to visit with the ladies there even though his mom is now gone, and I think that's wonderful and so I've asked him to find out if they could use some quilts, or maybe some small washable things to serve as bibs, or things like that. It's not a very cheerful place and I'd like to help brighten it up a bit. Maybe even some cheery wall hangings would be welcome - I hope I can do *something* for them.

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    Well said!


    Quote Originally Posted by Sewnoma View Post
    You can drive yourself crazy with that kind of thinking.

    Is it more important to feed someone for a day? Or make them feel warm and loved for a year? Or what about medicine, maybe sick people need help more. If you spend time visiting with the elderly, are you "wasting" time that should be used helping a child learn to read? What about donating cat food to a shelter, is it better to help people? If I have $5 to donate, should I give $1 to five charities, or all $5 to one charity? Do I take care of local people, or help people far away who are worse off? If I have a single mom with five kids on one side and an elderly lady living on food stamps on the other side, which neighbor do I cook extra meals for?

    No one person can take care of everybody and everything that needs help. So we each pick a thing or two or three that resonate with us personally and spend our time/energy/money there and hope all the bases get covered. Personally, I do a mix of things. I donate cash, food, quilts, and physical labor to a variety of places all year 'round. Some focus on the local community at large, some focus on elderly, children, animals, or people who are ill. And I do a walk-a-thon once a year for the local hospice. Some of it is done through my employer, some through my guild, some through community programs, and some on my own.

    I WANT to get involved with the local convalescent hospital, the one my DH's grandmother lived in until she passed away. My FIL has continued to visit with the ladies there even though his mom is now gone, and I think that's wonderful and so I've asked him to find out if they could use some quilts, or maybe some small washable things to serve as bibs, or things like that. It's not a very cheerful place and I'd like to help brighten it up a bit. Maybe even some cheery wall hangings would be welcome - I hope I can do *something* for them.
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    I think making quilts for charity is a WIN-WIN. It makes me happy to make them and hopefully the recipient is happy to get it. It also makes me feel good to give money to other causes---same thing to me.

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    Some one close to me once said "I can't help the whole world but I can help my little corner"! I sincerely believe this and have donated things, quilts, labor, etc, to local places and things.
    Have a great day sewing and remember to "not sweat the small stuff"!!



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    "You can drive yourself crazy with that kind of thinking."

    Totally agree. What's most important is that you give…worrying about how much and to whom and why is unproductive. Do what you can, it's more than enough...
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    Whos to say that the person who rec'd it didn't need something to keep them warm. Maybe the neighbor gave them food. but they had no bedding.
    give what you can. That type of thinking will drive us all crazy.
    put off till tomorrow what you can do today, and if you procrastinate long enough, you may never have to do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fatquarters View Post
    Well said!
    A big Ditto

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    I have never given a quilt that people didnt appreciate! That includes charity. It does my heart good to see a child wrapped in a blanket or dragging one around with them. It provdies them comfort and love. That goes for all ages. Can't get any better than that. I am tired of having to apologize because I did or didn't. I do what I can where I can.

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    I doubt that the reciever of the charitable donation questions the motive of the giver. They, likely, appreciate the act Itself. So what if one gives to get rid of what they can no longer use ......the definition of "charity" is giving to help others.

    We donate to charities in the hope that it benefits others. And, yes, it is often items no longer of use to the giver.

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    It is all about what is in your heart when you give -not so much as what you give. We all have been blessed with a gift and it is up to you how you use it. So if sewing is your gift, then use it for the good and donating quilts is part of that gift. They all don't have to be with fancy stitching -just warm. Donating a gift of warmth not only warms the body but also the soul.

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    Story from last night's guild meeting. We gift charity quilts to various groups and places around town. A young child's quilt was made and given to a local charity. The child was fostered. The child was subsequently diagnosed as having a major, life long, possibly termial illness. Somewhere along the line, the child chose the quilt as "his." Every night that child is held in his foster mother's arms, wrapped in his quilt, and goes to sleep.

    Does the impetus for making the quilt really matter all that much or is the important thing that child, in those arms, wrapped in that quilt? Think about how we all felt knowing one of us participated.

    Choose your answer and then act? No matter what.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sandygirl View Post
    I doubt that the reciever of the charitable donation questions the motive of the giver. They, likely, appreciate the act Itself. So what if one gives to get rid of what they can no longer use ......the definition of "charity" is giving to help others.

    We donate to charities in the hope that it benefits others. And, yes, it is often items no longer of use to the giver.

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    Please don't attempt to twist my words. My words were 'items not good enough for family or friends'.

    No one appreciates being thought of as inferior and only deserving of something no one else wants. True charity involves more than just giving. It involves caring about about the ones, to whom you give. True charity is giving help, without taking away dignity. There's nothing wrong with giving items no longer of use to the giver, as long as they can still be used/worn with dignity by the receiver.
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    Some of my "better/good" things were someone else's castoffs.

    Most items in antique/ thrift shops are castoffs. Someone wnted the space or money more than the particular item.

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    I have donated things that did not turn out quite the way I wanted for a friend. They were clean and serviceable, and I felt OK about the donation.

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    I look at it as a win win situation, sewing keeps me from going totally insane, so If what I make helps someone else, then we both benefit from it!
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    Sewnoma, you have just messed with my head but I love your way of thinking and feel your response was right on. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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    A lot of people that receive your quilts don't have anything or very little. Sometimes having something beautiful and special can uplift a person as much as a hot meal. You enjoy making the quilts so it is a double blessing, for you and the recipient.

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    I have to chime in again. I just made and donted about 13 or so NICU quilts. it's under requests here. also made a full size quilt for REd garnet for a golf outing auction for the Juven. diabetes assoc. that's all donating and going for a good cause. so yes. donating counts. I do it coz I want to help. they are both under requests, and the NICU quilts can be as small as 12 x 12. A block. It can make a difference in a families hardship of a NICU baby.
    put off till tomorrow what you can do today, and if you procrastinate long enough, you may never have to do it.

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    To me, whatever a person gives from the heart is an act of kindness and love.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neesie View Post
    Please don't attempt to twist my words. My words were 'items not good enough for family or friends'.

    No one appreciates being thought of as inferior and only deserving of something no one else wants. True charity involves more than just giving. It involves caring about about the ones, to whom you give. True charity is giving help, without taking away dignity. There's nothing wrong with giving items no longer of use to the giver, as long as they can still be used/worn with dignity by the receiver.
    I agree wholeheartedly, Neesie.

    My 'pet peeve' is hearing someone say: "This quilt is just awful. The fabric is stiff, the points don't match! I don't like it one bit, SO I WILL GIVE IT TO CHARITY." A quilt given to 'charity' should be just as loved as if we were making it for a family member.

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    What size are your quilts for kids? I would like to do the same,but here in Casa grande,Az

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    I have seen that no matter what is donated, the recipients are always grateful and appreciate you thought of them. Every little bit helps.

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