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    Empty Nest

    My baby is leaving :'( He turned 22 on June 28 and on that day he took the Oath of Office and joined the Army. He goes off to basic training on September 25 after that he is off to California for Advanced training. The good part is he is going in as a PFC, gets a $20,000 sign on bonus. ;D His MOS is Cryptographic Linguist. So I am very proud of him because that is a hard test to pass to be accepted for that MOS. But that is not all he is getting married before he goes to basic...just a courthouse marriage. Then before he goes off for advanced training they are going to have the big wedding.
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    Enjoy your quiet. A bit hard to get used to, but in no time at all, you'll start to enjoy your new found freedom. Good luck to your son and his new bride. I met my husband half way thru his Navy career. It was the best time of our lives. Military life is so special. All the friends you meet along the way. Your family is usually so far away, that friends become your extended family. I wish them well.
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    It sounds like you raised a wonderful young man & you should certainly be proud of yourself. I know how it feels to have an empty nest but it's only lonely for a little while. It was pretty easy to get used to having the house to yourself. Besides... it sounds to me like you have a project waiting for you -- a wedding quilt for the happy couple! My DD recently got engaged to a JAG so I'm in the same boat your are! They're in San Diego. Where will your kids be? Please congratulate your DS & DIL for me & thank him for his service.
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    Congratulations, to your son! That's the problem with having kids - they insist on growing up!
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    Good luck to your DS. I married my DH just as he joined the Army. We had a lot of happy and sad years. Sad when we had to be apart. After years or retirement we still stay in touch with some very good friends we made over the years. You will miss him and be sad for awhile but what joy when they come home to visit and bring those wonderful grandchildren that will be coming over the years to come.

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    I cannot even imagine how you feel; having your baby grow up. I took it hard when my son (first) grew up and out; and now I cannot imagine having an "empty nest" as I still have 5 children at home and the youngest is only 5. I'm sure it will take some getting used to; but I can see a positive side of it as well. Please thank you son for me for his service!!!
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    Enjoy your short time as an "empty nester"...they will return with grandchildren and it will be noisy again!! But a good noisy!!

    Best of luck to your son and future DIL. Sounds like you did a great job raising him.

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    God Bless him for his service.
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    Thank him and his wife for his service to our country.

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    Good luck and much happines to your son and future daughter-in-law. I met my husband in Japan. He was there with the AF and I was there with the Dept. of Defense Dependnt School, better known as DODDS. We met at aHalloween party and a year later were married at the Tokyo US Embassy and the Japanes Land Office.

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    It will be 42 years this October for us.

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    Awe! Bittersweet ain't it?! My oldest son just moved away from the area a couple of weeks ago, and I cried like a baby!
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    Congratulations to your son on both of his occasions! I cried when my last son left, and then after a few days, realized I had lots of things to do and could still be his and his brother's Mom. It takes a while, but, you will be fine.

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    Congratulations to you. You are entering a new chapter. My daughter left the Army last August. She liked it, but has two young children. She was deployed to Iraq as a critical care nurse, and doesn't want to be away from the kids again. We were empty nesters, but she is divorcing and has moved in with us. I'm enjoying it but it does keep me hopping,

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    Congrats, just something to get Used to, try Not to Share his MOS in Public Forums or Social Sites. Please dont Take offence... My dh is Army we get briefings as spouses. Really congrats on everything!!!
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    Sounds to me like you did a good job!! You raised an independent, young adult!! You taught him to love his country, his wife to be and you!! How blessed you are !! He will be fine and so will you!! Enjoy his accomplishments. They are as much yours as his!! Still hurts though!! I understand! We all do!

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    darn, we teach our kids to be independent and it turns around and bites us on the butt! all 3 of mine are on the loose! i sure do miss them, but what i miss most of all is the child version of each one. that little person who sat on my lap when i read to them, the cuddles and the kiss good-night. but now i have a granddaughter in texas and i play with her on skype. not quite the same, but still joyful! and the satisfaction that my children will be ok in the world and will make good choices for their future. and i know they still love me!
    sounds like you instilled good values in your son! i wish him well, a happy future with his bride, and thank him for his service to our benefit
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    with grad and undergrad schools looming the same year for both my girls, I was devastated to see them off within weeks of each other. My house went from a wonderfully bustling looney bin to just plain looney!! I was so sad for months - All I can say is that in time, you will learn to do the things that make YOU happy. Mine was quilting and going back to work part time. The empty nest is both a sad place and an inspiring place. Lift yourself up when you feel low by surrounding yourself with your dearest friends, keep busy....have fun and know there is life after children!
    I know I've done a good job with my girls because they have turned out to be the most amazing young women of whom I could not be more proud!

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    Quote Originally Posted by QuiltingCrazie View Post
    Congrats, just something to get Used to, try Not to Share his MOS in Public Forums or Social Sites. Please dont Take offence... My dh is Army we get briefings as spouses. Really congrats on everything!!!
    Thanks for telling me this...that is just something I had not considered.
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    Thank your son for his service.
    It is hard to see them go but it is great when you realize they can be independent. All 4 of mine are so much their own person. They don't need me to get along on their own and they actually go to each other with their problems more than to hubby and I which I think is good. Law of averages is that we will die before they will and then they will have each other. We do see all of them on a regular basis and have a good time together. They have all thanked us for being great parents. What more could you want?

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    Don't think of it as empty nest, think of it as another room to store fabric!!!

    Congrats on your success of raising a good responsible citizen!!!! And congrats on the marriage! Thank him for us for his time in the service.
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    Wow Missi! Now you can catch up on working on all of those postage stamp squares you have from hosting those swaps!

    Those babies do have a way of growing up on us.

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