How have you all delt with a child growing up?
06-23-2010, 04:37 AM
#21
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Originally Posted by watterstide
Originally Posted by Janetlmt
My son is 30 and lives about 5 miles away. He calls me every single day. My daughter lives about 25 miles away is married and has a child..she calls every day. I see them both a lot. I was a very protective parent with them. I knew they had to go out into the world and be themselves. Each had jobs at 15 and they both saved and bought a car. I actually had no problem with them moving on. Both of them have grown into fine adults. Our son is going into business for himself..our daughter is a nurse. As parents we all go thru their growing pains..we just need to guide them and let them make their own choices.
Mine are all grown and gone too..the oldest loves me more now than she ever did.she hated me all through her teen years, i was to strict.she is 33,expecting her 2nd baby. I think it is because she is a mom,she is a teacher with a masters. growing up opens thier eyes.she lives local.
My middle child is also a girl..she is 31, single,no kids.she is my "wanderer". she has always been indepentent. she has lived in Chicago,New York,and now florida. she has no problem picking up and moving on. she is happy and content. she calls almost every day.
My baby boy is going to be 29 this year. he loves his mom, always has been close to me. he is my tenderhearted child. he is in the service and says it is the best thing he ever did. he lives in texas with his wife and 2 kids.
I miss them, but they are living thier own lives,just like i raised them. i think with my husband and God, we did pretty darn good.
we were not without troubles, or friction. but they always came back to "home". sometimes it tested our patience..but they came back to what they were taught.
we helped them,only when they were helping themselves. they had jobs, saved for used cars..if they worked, we helped them with thier insurance, we paid half..so long as they were working and taking care of business.
when they were growing up, we never just gave them things..they earned them.they didn't have tv's in thier rooms,one computer in the main room.no dating until they were 16.no shopping mall time with thier friends,unless they had money to spend. no matter how old they got to be, my house ,my rules. curfews were fully enforced, it may not be right, but it was the way we did things.
i was married,then a single parent, then married again. the usual issues with all.
I am so proud of them all..and myself too!
06-23-2010, 04:59 AM
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OH YES!!!! Can't believe mine has graduated and now going off to college. Cried for 2 days before graduation and day of. I only have 1 so its always been a 1 chance thing and wer're very close. Have not been ready to cut this thread though!! :cry:
Have realized that I've raised a good person that will do well in life. He knows his own mind but, will always NEED his mom!! So hard!!!
{{{{HUGS}}}}
Have realized that I've raised a good person that will do well in life. He knows his own mind but, will always NEED his mom!! So hard!!!
{{{{HUGS}}}}
06-23-2010, 05:03 AM
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Originally Posted by cjomomma
My Dd is 16, give me a minute as I sigh. At 16 came a boyfriend, a very nice young man and I hope he stays around. Then came the drivers permit and learning to drive. Today I took her around today to pick up applications, looking for a job. This is happening way to quick for me. She is my only daughter, we also have 2 sons. Is it normal to feel like I need to hold on to her longer and not let her grow up?
06-23-2010, 07:25 AM
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I had a rough time with my babies growing up. I just LOVED having babies, and being with them. My 'baby' is now 23!!! I still call him my baby! My other 3 are married and the two oldest have 3 children each. My son and his wife are expecting #4 (just found out), and my youngest daughter that got married last Oct. is expecting!!! That makes grandchild #8!! So...I didn't want my babies to grow up, but having grandbabies is AWESOME! :)
06-23-2010, 07:41 AM
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Thank you all for your support. My Dd is a good kid. She plans on staying with us til she graduates college, we have a nice university right here in town, so she won't be leaving any time soon. I want all of them to go I just didn't expect 16 to come so soon for the oldest one. I will probably be a grandma my the time little man Is old enough to move out so I still have many years before all of them are gone. Yes I am a very strike mom and they understand why. Thank you again.
06-24-2010, 08:24 AM
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I was looking forward for my two children(girls) to grow up and be independent. They both had valid driver's license at age 14, their own car at age 16. Back then there were hardship license for 14 year olds which was easy to get. Both stayed home all during their college years. To me those were the best years. I was beginning to think they were never going to leave the nest. DH spoiled them too much! LOL.
They are happy, kind, hardworking and interesting people who once were my babies.
They are happy, kind, hardworking and interesting people who once were my babies.
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