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    I need help!! I have a craft / sewing room that I made out of my son's bedroom when he moved out a couple of years ago. It has a nice walk in closet that I have now filled with scrapbooking stash; painting supplies, etc., etc. You name it! I have a nice craft table (that doubles as my sewing table) in the room and more cubicle shelving. My fabric stash is in plastic bins.

    Well........my son has been having financial difficulties and after discussion, we have decided that he should move back in! There goes my craft room! Even though the house is spacious, we have no other empty areas in the house!

    Please give me suggestions on what to do with my stuff!! Do I put things in the walk in attic (not temperature controlled)? What do I do with my craft table???

    I am a quilting newbie but am thoroughly enjoying it and talking to all of you!! (and really enjoy seeing pictures of your sewing rooms!)

    Help!!! :-( :-(

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    so sorry hope things turn for the better with your son

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    Quote Originally Posted by sewwhat85
    so sorry hope things turn for the better with your son
    Thank you! And I saw the pictures of your beautiful sewing room. Congratulations! Would love to come drink coffee with you there!

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    Do you have a guest room? have him stay there if not there is always the sofa!!

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    Sorry your son is having a bad time. :(
    I don't have many suggestions, but does your craft table have folding legs? That might make it easier to find a place for it.
    There may be other things that can move to your attic space that would free up a space for your sewing & crafting supplies.
    Good luck with everything. :lol: :thumbup:

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    I agree with Up North. The perfect place for Son is the couch. Evidently he is of mature age to have lived on his own for two years. It would also be the needed constant reminder that he needs to make further education or better job hunting a priority in his life. In the meantime, the sewing room stays where it is, and used regularly! You'll be doing him the ultimate favor of love. In my opinion, of course. You must love him very much and want to help in any way you possibly can. I would too; being a parent, I totally understand.

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    i agree with up north and texusjunebug ...... tell him you're making him a quilt to take with him when he goes again.

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    Sorry he is having a hard time. So hard for lots of people. My DS was going to move in with some friends too. He has a great job andis a great kid, but NOW his truck is breaking down ALOT. Needs a diffrent one, I am affraid, so I dont think he will be moving out right away.

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    Well what I have done since our granddaughter has been living with us is use the dining room. I have a drop leaf table I use for sewing with the leaf on one side up and when we use the dining room I put the machine under it and put a long table so no one knows it's even there. My fabric is in baskets under that same table and in the drawers of our linen closet. I use the dining room table for cutting. I just make sure I have a table pad on it before I put the cutting mat there. Most of the time when it's just the three of us my sewing is out. We only have a two bedroom so thread and stuff like that is in decorative bins and blended in with books on the bookshelves and I keep an empty wicker basket to put sewing in when there's company.

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    Do you have a basement?

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    Some people around here have been using their bathrooms as sewing rooms!!! Just sayin,,,,if it is big enough!!!LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by ssnare
    Do you have a basement?
    No basement. Our house is all one level, except for two rooms upstairs which are my DH's offices for his company. (Plus the walk in attic)

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    Maybe DH could give up one room?

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    Whatever you do the most keep in baskets you can get to easily, maybe even small projects next to your 'regular' chair to rest in. So if you want to do a lot of scrapbooking keep that handy all the time and pull the sewing machine out on weekends. Keep your cutting stuff handy during the week if you have time to work on projects. If quilting is going to be your thing, keep the machine handy and put the paint and scrapbooking away until the weekend.
    And hey, what guy needs a walk in closet, make you son share the closet! Good luck, and don't give up, he will get back on his feet and you will get 'your space' back.

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    How about the garage to set up as a craft area just so yoU can still do your crafts, if it's to cold or not an option I would take over a corner of the living room if you don't want to use the attic space. I would take over the attic if you can and I mean the whole attic, what an awesome quilting craft area you can create. Good luck to your family.

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    I think you should simply share it with your son. Move enough of your quilting things out to make room for him to sleep and his clothes. If you both agree, maybe it could work...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Texasjunebug
    I agree with Up North. The perfect place for Son is the couch. Evidently he is of mature age to have lived on his own for two years. It would also be the needed constant reminder that he needs to make further education or better job hunting a priority in his life. In the meantime, the sewing room stays where it is, and used regularly! You'll be doing him the ultimate favor of love. In my opinion, of course. You must love him very much and want to help in any way you possibly can. I would too; being a parent, I totally understand.
    I too am a parent of grown sons. The more comfortable you make it, the longer they stay. Keep the feathers in the nest ruffled, in love. Have many reminders of the inconvenience to you. LOL

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    I'll agree here too. Sometimes the best way to help is to not help, if you know what I mean.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Texasjunebug
    I agree with Up North. The perfect place for Son is the couch. Evidently he is of mature age to have lived on his own for two years. It would also be the needed constant reminder that he needs to make further education or better job hunting a priority in his life. In the meantime, the sewing room stays where it is, and used regularly! You'll be doing him the ultimate favor of love. In my opinion, of course. You must love him very much and want to help in any way you possibly can. I would too; being a parent, I totally understand.
    I too am a parent of grown sons. The more comfortable you make it, the longer they stay. Keep the feathers in the nest ruffled, in love. Have many reminders of the inconvenience to you. LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mattee
    I'll agree here too. Sometimes the best way to help is to not help, if you know what I mean.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Texasjunebug
    I agree with Up North. The perfect place for Son is the couch. Evidently he is of mature age to have lived on his own for two years. It would also be the needed constant reminder that he needs to make further education or better job hunting a priority in his life. In the meantime, the sewing room stays where it is, and used regularly! You'll be doing him the ultimate favor of love. In my opinion, of course. You must love him very much and want to help in any way you possibly can. I would too; being a parent, I totally understand.
    I too am a parent of grown sons. The more comfortable you make it, the longer they stay. Keep the feathers in the nest ruffled, in love. Have many reminders of the inconvenience to you. LOL
    I agree, back in 1980 when I came out of the AF I moved back in with my parents. They let me sleep on the pull out sofa in the "den"(my old room)and gave me just enough closet space for essential clothes. It really kept me motivated to get a job and get out. It tool about a month and a half.
    David

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    How about your bedroom? Could you use one corner?
    It would be a nice place for your cave during the day.
    Lots of low plastic totes for under the bed storage.

    How about half of one of your husbands rooms? No sense in you being the only one to sacrifice.

    The couch won't do unless you are only talking about for a week.

    How about a large shelf unit in a corner of the living room?

    How about the dining room? If there are just the three of you use the kitchen for eating.

    Good luck to all of you.

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    I wouldn't make it too easy for your son. It's your room not his. But kids are our joy so you have to try. I would put a bed up in the attic, buy a clothes rack and believe me he will come up with other needed items for up there. he wont' be there much except to sleep anyway. I would rather help my kids pay their rent then have them move back home.

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    keep your room, let him have the couch. You don't want him so comfortable he doesn't ever leave.

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    I think of the situation as not wanting to bring your young adult back into your home as a "dependent child" which they certainly are not. They need to retain their dignity and independence as an adult. The hardest thing I have had to do for my son was to allow him to be a man. I have a tendency to want to be the "fix everything" kind of mom, and logically I know that is not in his best interest.

    It is difficult enough for an adult to "return home because of temporary situations of need." IMO, putting them back in their old room, with the old family schedule (whatever that may have been) reinforces too many dependent memories, and can be a stumbling block for them to advance to the next stage of their life. There's nothing wrong with temporarily returning home for valid reasons. Just bring them back as an adult, and share your life - don't make them feel you are sacrificing for them. That has a way of dumping unintended guilt on them, and impedes their progress and the enjoyment you can have together in the adult-to-adult relationship that you both have earned.

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    What about a bed in the walk-in attic? And his clothes in tubs instead of your fabric in tubs? If the door remains open most of the time, would it stay warm enough for him to sleep in it? The former bedroom is now your room - don't make him too comfy or he won't have the needed incentive to find a way to be on his own again. IMHO the room should stay as your craft room. Good luck with whatever you decide.

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    Could he sleep in one of DH's office rooms? Just a corner maybe. He should be out of there during the day when DH is working.

    And good luck. The conflict is so strong between wanting to help them and hating to give up 'your' space.

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