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    Oh, I need patience and support. My mominlaw called from 600 miles away. She was totally hysterical about a bat in the house. Now, it has happened before when Dad was alive and they never called the exterminator to resolve the issues. She now says she cannot sleep in the house and is going to get an apartment today. (totally irrational but not much I can do but try and talk to her.)

    She wants to sleep in the car in this 90 degree weather. Cannot get her to go to a hotel or call a relative. This is why I wanted her to move here to be near her only!!! child. Just what can we do from 12 hours away.

    Oh, well, rant over. I ended up telling her she was a strong and competent woman and would make the right decision for today. Then told her son to call her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetana3
    Oh, I need patience and support. My mominlaw called from 600 miles away. She was totally hysterical about a bat in the house. Now, it has happened before when Dad was alive and they never called the exterminator to resolve the issues. She now says she cannot sleep in the house and is going to get an apartment today. (totally irrational but not much I can do but try and talk to her.)

    She wants to sleep in the car in this 90 degree weather. Cannot get her to go to a hotel or call a relative. This is why I wanted her to move here to be near her only!!! child. Just what can we do from 12 hours away.

    Oh, well, rant over. I ended up telling her she was a strong and competent woman and would make the right decision for today. Then told her son to call her.

    How frustrating! Do you know anyone in her area that you can call that would be able to calm her and help direct her toward finding a solution (ie call an exterminator!)? Hopefully, she will listen to her son, though sometimes I think I can talk to my MIL easier than DH. lol

    Good luck!

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    This is a tough situation. Many times if you open the top sash of a window the bat will often find its own way out. We have had a bat in the house 3 times. One time we caught it in a towel and put it outside, another time it was a victim to one of my cats. Cat jumped straight up 6 feet and brought it down. Poor bat did not survive. 3rd time we again caught it in a towel after trying the window thing. It did fly toward the window but landed on the curtains and just sat there so we did the towel thing again. Does she have any neighbors she can call on for help?

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    In addition to all this, she needs to find out how it got in the house and try to be sure it doesn't happen again.

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    I like what you told her. Poor thing sounds really scared. Hard to reason with someone when they are like that though.
    Hope it gets resolved !

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    Is there a relaltive or friend who lives nearby her who can be there to help her with the situation? Maybe you or your hubby can contact them and tell them what is happening.
    Then someone needs to take care of the bats and find out how they are getting in.

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    Thanks everyone. She did call an exterminator and I checked the web for info. Bad time of year to try and get rid of them. I think they are in the eaves and getting in thru the attic. I hears skittering while I was sleeping up there.

    So she needs to stuff a towel under the door to the upstairs. But right now she needs to calm down a little. Her son will need to call her several times. At least her neighbor helped in the middle of the night.

    If she was here, this would be resolved quickly and easily. But 600 miles away is kind of difficult. My husband almost killed himself trying to help and take care of his father during his last two months.

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    my girl friend near Houston called the police for a small bat in her atrium. turned out it had Rabies and her cat had played with it.

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    Oh, well, rant over. I ended up telling her she was a strong and competent woman and would make the right decision for today. Then told her son to call her.[/quote]


    You made the right decision.

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    Sounds like you did the right thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetana3
    Thanks everyone. She did call an exterminator and I checked the web for info. Bad time of year to try and get rid of them. I think they are in the eaves and getting in thru the attic. I hears skittering while I was sleeping up there.

    So she needs to stuff a towel under the door to the upstairs. But right now she needs to calm down a little. Her son will need to call her several times. At least her neighbor helped in the middle of the night.

    If she was here, this would be resolved quickly and easily. But 600 miles away is kind of difficult. My husband almost killed himself trying to help and take care of his father during his last two months.
    Yikes... I would have a hard time sleeping there too... If I were her I would be most happy that my DIL and DS wanted me to move closer.

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    Mom had one in her house shortly after we lost dad. She first tried to beat the crap out of it with a broom then picked up the cat, litterbox and came to my house for the night... 2 am in her nightgown! It was hanging on the pine wall in the kitchen when I got there to get rid of it for her. She didn't appreciate it much when I told the bat I was sorry "grammy" was trying to beat it with the broom!

    If you haven't guessed, I'm the one who rescues everyone here from bats, mice, snakes, spiders, and anything else that makes other girls run screaming!

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    Been there. I know what you go through.

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    she needs to call an exterminator..

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    Does she have a fireplace? My boyfriends parents occasionally get a bat in their house that comes through the fireplace. Maybe if she keeps the flue closed they can't get in. This is what my boyfriends parents do.

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    What about calling her church?

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    She seriously needs to get this problem taken care of. The guano from the bats (poo) is extremely toxic and carries all kinds of illnesses. It will pile up in the attic and can become so heavy it will cause the ceiling to cave in.

    Can you call an exterminator in her area and have them check it out and you deal with the situation long distance? Sounds like she needs "Billy the Exterminator".

    http://www.aetv.com/billy-the-exterminator/

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    Mom got in touch with an exterminator and he will be out Monday.

    We suggested she get in touch with a local catholic church but are pretty sure she will not do it. This is the first time in her whole 79 year life she is alone. She married at 17 and never spent any time apart during her whole 60+ year marriage.

    She will need to work thru some of these issues and has never ever really listened to her son. (who is a very nice person and always!! willing to help) I cannot understand why she does not listen to a son who is the first one in the whole family to graduate high school and then college and work as a corporate executive for his whole career. She does not realize or care that her "I dont want to burden you with my problems" is more of a burden to him than just helping her.

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    My husband turns on all the lights on in the house and opens the kitchen door and they will fly out. When we let the dogs back in sometimes one will get in. My brothers when were little would use a tennis racket or badmitten racket to kill them. I know you are not suppose to kill them because they eat more than their weight in bugs. This was 45 years ago and they were killed.

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    I will pray for patience for you. Did she call for support or did she want you to go rescue her? Let your DH deal with her, and definitely have her call an exterminator. If she won't, maybe a friend could recommend one and you could do it for her.

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    I hate Bats and Snakes, Bat in house goes out in a body bag, snakes in yard better out run the mower! If they get in the ditch or the farmers field they are safe unless they come back. Sorry just how I am.

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    Poor bats have gotten a (mostly) bad rap. They do not suck our blood, they eat insects like mosquitos. They fly around inside, because they are confused. We live in a really old house, and will usually get a bat in the house every so often. We have found that if we just stay quiet, the bat will land on the curtain, and then we can wrap it in a towel and take it outside again. My youngest granddaughter was terrified of the bat, until we explained that he was lost, and looking for a way out to go home again.

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    Why can't your DH call an exterminator in her town set up the appointment. He could tell her to act rationally or be considered not fit to live alone which leads to being put in a home. That will make her furious and but I bet she will think before she acts so stupid next time. Unless she does need to be in a home. LOL.

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    I used to work in a school for mentally ill children. One day we heard an awful screaming coming from one of the classrooms. We all ran there thought someone was being killed. All of the students had run from the classroom and the teacher was under her desk screaming hysterically. There was a bat in the room. ( it is a really old building, built in 1907) We put a sheet over her and got her out of the room. She was so hysterical we thought we were going to have to call an ambulance. It took almost an hour to calm her down. I went in and opened all the windows. I ended up catching it in a sheet. We all laughed about it for years.

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    a bat got in our house a while back and it was night so we cut off all the lights and just had an outside light on. we opened the door to stay open and it went right on out. it came from the attic down by the chimney i think. they had chewed through the wire on the ends where the louver type things were on the house and so we had to reinforce and put stronger wire there. it has to be done probably in the spring while they are gone or while most are gone. i have read that if they aren't gone, you would need to hang a sheet way done where they could get out but couldn't get back in and then reinforce the wire. i am glad we didn't have to do that.

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