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Thread: I want to be a good person...

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    Question I want to be a good person...

    This is a what would you do question. My family makes a big deal out of holidays. We are all busy and somewhat spread out but always get together for holidays so it is our special time together and we go big or go home. Last year DS was dating a lady that seemed perfectly lovely (although I knew she was not "the one") and has no family to speak of to be with at the holidays. About 3 weeks I find out DS (bless his sweet little heart) assumed that girlfriend would be with us on Christmas Eve and wake up at our place Christmas morning. I have no general problem with this however they had not been dating a year yet and he didn't ask, he just informed (gulp, slow burn, get over it, no one should be alone on the Christmas...).

    Well, I'm not about to have someone sit there and watch us open presents without being able to participate. So DH and I went shopping for gifts and I made a stocking for her. I put a lot of work into the stocking, velvet, lace, applique sparkles and it was really perfect for her personality. It was a fun weekend and all, fast forward to July of this year...

    DS and girlfriend are both renting rooms in the same house (Ah Huh, sure, Mama didn't raise any fools). On Thursday everything was "fabulous" on Friday girlfriend turned into a heinous b&[email protected] and broke up with son and continued to be horrible. Son vacates house (even though they were his friends and he lived there first) because situation is so hostile. Come to find out heinous B had become involved with one of the other roommates in which case DS dogged a bullet and it is better to know now than later. Fast forward again to this Christmas...

    I have this very lovely, well made and gorgeous red velvet stocking with girlfriend's name satin stitched on sattin. It's not like I can take the name off without damaging the fabric. Here is the big question.

    Would you:
    A) Mail it to Heinous B because what else would you do with it?
    B) Assume that someone with the same name will find it and send it to Goodwill
    C) Send a call out to a forum like ours and send it free to a good home (it was made with love and should have a good home)?
    D) any other bright ideas?

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    My vote is to put it on the forum here. I believe you put work into it and all of us here know and appecreciate the work. Option 1 does not sound feasible as she may not appreciate your time and effort. Send it here!!

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    I'm sure there are ladies here with the same name and would be proud to own that stocking. I vote for Oction C.
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    I'd go the send to a good home on the board direction. Sorry your DS had to go thru this at Christmas.

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    If it is a common name, donate it. Maybe the Goodwill, local church who helps needy, here on the board or any charitable organization. While you are at it, if you have a local Dollar store, stop buy and spend a few bucks and drop in a few inexpensive items. They always have a great selection of candies, crackers, nuts and neat little trinkets. You will feel wonderful and never know, you may just make someone's Christmas spectacular and your lovely work will be appreciated!

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    I vote for C...you know the members here would truly appreciate receiving such a beautifully made stocking....
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    I would say that you should exercise the option of B or C, I certainly wouldn't send it to her because she probably wouldn't appreciate the time, effort and expense in making what sounds like a beautiful stocking. But as you say, best that your son find out now rather than later.

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    I vote for C. The name isn't Sandra, is it??

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    I would give it to the DS to keep as a reminder #1. to listen to his mom (women have a forwarn about these things #2 as a remiinder to himself not to be SO STUPID the next time. I sure she was giving him signals but he just did not want to see them.
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    I like B or C of those options, but there is also, maybe, the option of setting it aside and putting fabric with another name over hers at a later date. I definitely would not send it to her. I might sell it on Ebay.
    BTW Congrats on having a son who is smart enough to remove himself from a toxic situation, not doing the stubborn, I was here first #.

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    Yes post it here and someone with that name or who has a friend or family member with that name will love to get it.
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    I need to take a picture to post but I'll probably post it here. Anyone named Carissa?

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    Not a name you see much!!!

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    With the amount of people on this forum I would post it on here first and see if there are any takers, after that I'd do the Goodwill. I'm sorry your son had to go through something like that especially this close to the holidays, I hope the rest of your holiday's are brighter.

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    There is no way in he(double hockey sticks) that I would give it to THAT girl. B or C or sell it anywhere or maybe try to take the whole cuff off and put another one on

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    B or C, for sure!

    "A" seems catty. Don't " stoop to her level", if you know what I mean.

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    Her son is hurting enough. If my parents did this to me when I broke up with a guy, I would have felt like they were rubbing my nose in it.

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    Find someone with the same name on the forum, and send it to them. They would have a real appreciation for it, because they would know what it takes to make one, and they know it was made with love.

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    I'd wait six months before doing anything with it. You never know what will happen in six months.
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    I saw donate it to good will some nice person would love it for what its worth

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    Option C - sell it on this Board or on ebay
    You could also inquire at the local Womens' Shelter if anyone has the name and if yes, donate it there

    Your son dodged a bullet - Good Christmas present for both of you

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    Me too, for Option C

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    or sell it on Etsy. Sounds like a very pretty stocking.

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    Can't you cut out the piece with her name on it?
    (I wouldnt put anything over it because you just never know when someone might discover that there was someone else's name on there and that could be really hurtful)
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    Whew! I thought maybe the name was b*&$h. I know lots of those but no Carissa. A stocking is waaay cheaper than a
    divorce so you really aren't out as much as you could have been with a dil and maybe gchlidren to be fought over. And don't tell son you were right, he doesn't want to hear it.

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