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    Ladies advice

    I sew every day and at every second of each. Cleaning, cooking etc is second place. Do you think it would be a good idea to have a quilting break from patchwork and find another hobby or activity? I shop on line and I live alone so no one stops me getting up at 6 in the morning and quilting all day until I fall asleep. I only go out to buy more fabric go to a class or a show.
    I am thinking of making a new year resolution where I have to do something different every day to quilting. Go a walk , use camera or even mix with other people. I have no family so that is no option.
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    Sounds like you already know the answer....don't stop quilting but maybe slot in a swimming/fitness class, do some gardening, join a walking group or photography group or even volunteer your services within your community. Variety is the spice of life and staying in all day isn't doing your body a favour. We all need a bit of exercise, fresh air and Vitamin D. There is a programme advocating this in our community...Act - Belong - Commit...encouraging people to get out and about to improve mental/physical health. It is easy to become isolated, and besides, once you are out and about, you will surely come home inspired to design quilts based on what you encounter around you.

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    I agree that you would probably benefit from being outside and with other folks from time to time. I may not go 'out' every day but I do most days. If only to run a couple of errands. And even though I don't go out daily, when my car is on the fritz and I 'can't' go anywhere, geez, that's the time I want to get out the most!

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    Do they have quilt guilds anywhere close to you or sewing bees? This could give you the time out and let you make new friends. I agree that getting some exercise is a top priority. I struggle with that too, but I am never alone. Sometimes I go walking just to have "yard leave" from retired hubby.
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    The quilt group is evenings which. I don't want go go out at night at all. I do try to go out most days for a couple of hours but I am on my own, I have a psciatiric nurse who is trying to make me join a group but I'm very unsure . I feel I don't want a chat group I want action.
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    Too much of any good thing becomes a burden after a while. I love quilting too, but I think it is good to be out and about among people. If you do choose a separate hobby, be sure it includes others.

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    Quote Originally Posted by toverly View Post
    Too much of any good thing becomes a burden after a while. I love quilting too, but I think it is good to be out and about among people. If you do choose a separate hobby, be sure it includes others.
    I so totally agree with this. Joint a church group, join a reading group at the library, work in a thrift store, almost anything that will give you contact and conversation with another human being. I love quilting and some days sew nearly all day long but I enjoy my church friends and my dining out friends.

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    We all need balance in our lives. If one activity takes over and occupies all of your time, no matter how good the activity is, our life is off kilter or out of focus. We all love quilting or we wouldn't be on this board but it shouldn't be the only reason for your existence. Perhaps you can combine your love of quilting with some community work. Our small stitching group gathers a couple of times a month to make quilts for veterans. It's a way of giving back and connecting with others who share and appreciate our love of fabric and stitching.
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    I agree with others that it is a good idea to have a little more balance and a little more social contact with others. There are so many great volunteer opportunities that would get you out with others, have a little fun with rewarding benefits, the hardest part is finding the right fit for you. Perhaps contact your local United Way to find out about volunteer opportunities. Do you have a local community college that has classes that might be of interest to you? Photography classes might be a great start since you have an interest there. Best wishes to you!

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    We all need some one to talk to. Don`t forget your relatives, and friends. I find doing a little for some in need helps me. What do you do with all of your finished items? Do you like to be out with friends, ask some to have lunch with you. Take a class in a subject you would like to know more about!

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    Why not try a group? You can always quit if it doesn't work out for you. Maybe join and give yourself three months; if you still don't like it after three months, give yourself permission to leave and find something else.

    I do think it is a mistake to isolate yourself. All of us benefit -- physically and emotionally -- from positive interaction with others. They've even found that smiling and saying hello to someone else results in measurable beneficial changes in physiology (that last quite awhile). Something as simple as a daily walk, even if it is the same path every day, and greeting people with a smile and a wave provide great benefits.

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    Maybe in your time out, you'll meet other quilters and can form a small group and make and donate to a good cause. a nursing home or such. good luck and have some fun.
    put off till tomorrow what you can do today, and if you procrastinate long enough, you may never have to do it.

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    Dotty, I can relate to your dilemma. It is hard when you get older, are alone, and don't drive at night, to make yourself do some of the things you used to do in years past.

    Perhaps you could find a friend and make a pact to chat every other day about what new thing you did that day. Set goals for each other to try or do one new thing a week, or one week a month when you don't sew but try a new hobby. As you talk about it with your friend, I'll bet you find it easier and more interesting to DO a new thing.

    I'd commit to being that friend myself, but I have months of several surgeries upcoming and I am still recovering from a torn achilles tendon surgical repair; got enough to focus on for a bit! But you go for it, okay?!!

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    Absolutely! ! Sometimes it's good to take a break from quilting. It gives me more inspiration! I do other crafts as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DOTTYMO View Post
    I sew every day and at every second of each. Cleaning, cooking etc is second place. Do you think it would be a good idea to have a quilting break from patchwork and find another hobby or activity? I shop on line and I live alone so no one stops me getting up at 6 in the morning and quilting all day until I fall asleep. I only go out to buy more fabric go to a class or a show.
    I am thinking of making a new year resolution where I have to do something different every day to quilting. Go a walk , use camera or even mix with other people. I have no family so that is no option.
    I would love a quilt friend don't give up your passion I think add someone'swith it
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    Like many others have mentioned, volunteer or get a part time job that you know you would enjoy. Many good ideas.

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    I read all the really good, insightful suggestions for your quandry and tried to think of a suggestion I hadn't read yet. See about this one, if you will: How about considering blessing yourself by formating your gifts to your enjoyment and what you need?

    You have a number of "gifts." I know because, you see, I have been paying attention when your comments, questions, show and tells appear on the board. How about finding a venue in which you share them? And then combine the "gifts" with whatever level of people or even critter involvement you are comfortable with?

    Trying to explain what I mean is giving me a fit. So, how about personal examples? I am something of a hermit but I need mental and experiential input. From time to time as I have gone through life, I have had to find something to fill that need but the "what" and when and how and how much varied. It started with the birth of our first child. I needed to get out of the house and "do something." (My Irish grandmother used to call it "blowing the stink off.") That time I took a cooking class. Learned to make bread and sauces. Dad got to change diapers with homemade bread for a reward. One of the next times was when our neighborhood association needed a secretary. The children's museum needed a docent. I was the person who pretended to be a pioneer woman in our area of Florida. And then the kids fell in love with the zoo. I docented for the zoo. A Brazilian toad (Pavaroti) and I "grew up" together. I had an armadillo, a Boa Constrictor who was so used to being handled and kept so fed that she couldn't even think about constricting me, a ferret, and a large fish. It went on an on like that. Sewing for a drum corps. Repairing vestments for church. And most recently, a quilt guild. I was crazy to talk to someone who sewed. Now there are quilting classes. Oh, and a cat who needed rescue from abuse. She and I are about back to our "normals."

    You may rest your eyes now; but, how about considering blessing yourself by formating your gifts to your enjoyment and what you need?

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    There, I hope that was clearer.

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    I read all the really good, insightful suggestions for your quandry and tried to think of a suggestion I hadn't read yet. See about this one, if you will: How about considering blessing yourself by formating your gifts to your enjoyment and what you need?

    You have a number of "gifts." I know because, you see, I have been paying attention when your comments, questions, show and tells appear on the board. How about finding a venue in which you share them? And then combine the "gifts" with whatever level of people or even critter involvement you are comfortable with?

    Trying to explain what I mean is giving me a fit. So, how about personal examples? I am something of a hermit but I need mental and experiential input. From time to time as I have gone through life, I have had to find something to fill that need but the "what" and when and how and how much varied. It started with the birth of our first child. I needed to get out of the house and "do something." (My Irish grandmother used to call it "blowing the stink off.") That time I took a cooking class. Learned to make bread and sauces. Dad got to change diapers with homemade bread for a reward. One of the next times was when our neighborhood association needed a secretary. The children's museum needed a docent. I was the person who pretended to be a pioneer woman in our area of Florida. And then the kids fell in love with the zoo. I docented for the zoo. A Brazilian toad (Pavaroti) and I "grew up" together. I had an armadillo, a Boa Constrictor who was so used to being handled and kept so fed that she couldn't even think about constricting me, a ferret, and a large fish. It went on an on like that. Sewing for a drum corps. Repairing vestments for church. And most recently, a quilt guild. I was crazy to talk to someone who sewed. Now there are quilting classes. Oh, and a cat who needed rescue from abuse. She and I are about back to our "normals."

    You may rest your eyes now; but, how about considering blessing yourself by formating your gifts to your enjoyment and what you need?

    Pat



    There, I hope that was clearer. You may laugh at me now.

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    As we get older, it becomes more and more important to stay physically active. Is there a mall or some other shopping center around you? If so, that's a great place to just go walking, on a regular basis. There may even be a walking group, you can join. Become a 'regular' at a cookie stand or coffee shop.
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    Almost all senior centers have sewing groups. Check into them.

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    Don't stop quilting, but maybe do some volunteer work. That would get you out to meet other people. Maybe offer a quilting class at a convalesent home. There are things you could do to help keep you busy, but also include others so you don't get stale.

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    Are you "able"?

    Some of us just don' t have what it takes to get out easily ----

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