rhueluna

Don't feel bad. It took my husband years of quilt shows, seeing what really goes into it, watching how impressed others are to finally see what an art it really is. They are ignorant of what you are doing so they fail to understand. Smart remarks aren't nice though, and I understand how you feel. I get comments like that all the time. Some say, why do you want to sit there and sew that one stitch at a time when you can go buy one? Or.....Oh thats nice. Or......thats a nice blanket, and some that never have made anything think you are wasting your time. You also have to watch who you give the finished quilts to depending on how much work you put into them because they just don't have a clue what goes into it. Watch for the comments you get when you show someone to know who really cares if you put all that work into it or not.

Marlys

That sounds like my house! I will show my husband a finished quilt and his standard answer is "That's nice". There have only been a couple of quilts when he has said "Wow, I like that". But I decided that it is OK. I will continue whether he likes it or not. But I don't let my feelings get hurt. Life is too short for that!

cjomomma

I must have been in an emotional mood because I don't get my feelings hurt too often. I generally brush it off and go on with what I was doing. These last couple of days I have been on a emotional roller coaster. I feel better today tho. I know menopause can cause mood swings but I thought it was anger that it caused. I am doing good today. Thank you all for your support.
Carrie

dljennings

we were at the dinner table & i was talking w/ddil about the omigosh quilt i am working on & ds said "ooh, wave the flags" and made motions with his hands like he was waving little flags @ the 4rh of july parade. and dh was dumb enough to laugh...out loud

i was a little hurt, but he really didn't mean anything nasty by it...

however, when dh wanted me to look @ the dry stack stone wall he has been working on for over a year....i waved my imaginary flags..

when ds wanted to show me the new chrome he put on his motorcycle, same thing...

now we laugh & wave flags alot!

sewbusy

oh honey cool your jets!! he is a man and will have forgotten all about what he said by morning. I suggest you do the same.

Elizabeth-Liz

Don't have the DH anymore, but I have the Brother. He can hurt my feelings so quick about my quilts,crochet or just about anything I do, even my rescuing animals. But then he will help me pick colors, he is great at that, when I sell something he is so proud, and will brag on me to his friends and our family, but not to me, no way. I am his crazy lunatic sister that does not have a brain in her head. I know he loves me and is proud of me, but sometimes it is hard to take it when he puts me down to my face.

cjomomma

It is done and over with. Dh realized to error of his ways and apologized for it.

rita222

put up with all their faults-----mine passed years ago and I wish he was here to say things like that to me.there are many nice things they say too.

Nanjun

I am sorry you are hurt and some husbands are that way.
I learned a loooong time ago not to go to bed angry.

amorerm

Does he have a hobby or interest?? Next time he comes to you...Say, "Oh Yeah, that's nice darling". Watch the look on his face. Don't say it angry.

I won't explain my current situation but lots of time to think and wondered why people react the way they do and don't consider my feelings. I've figured out it's because I'm always excited about them and their interests and then they show no interest in mine. I've always been the giver in my life. So...I decided to react to them "in kind". If they ask why I said it like that, I say, "We'll that's how I thought I was suppose to react. It's the reaction I get from you. Isn't it the right reaction?" They're starting to understand.