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Mousie 06-13-2009 08:32 AM

I have been active on this board about nine months. I have scooted around, put my stamp here and there, confessed to being a conumdrum kid, multiple medical disorders, and a quirky quilter, lol.
First...about the multiple medical disorders...they were ALL inherited.
Do I take medications, yes. Do I have some side effects, yes.
Do I have diagnosed ADHD, YES!!!
There, I said it, and if you want to turn back now, feel free...bc I want to hear from anybody that wants to share their own experience with it, whether they have it, they suspect they have it, just curious, or know someone that does have it.
There are many good books out there, and one of the very best is
"Driven To Distraction", by Edward Hallowell and John oops, sorry John, can't recall right this moment. This is enough to type in, if you want to read a funny, informative book, about real life cases, and learn what ADHD really is.
There are 11 different kinds, (going by this book, here), and I have the mixed type with ocd behaviors.
As a child, I was the wallflower, blending into whatever insignificant, boring, sure-to-bepassed-over-without-so-much-as-a-glance,...thing, I could manage to hide behind.
Camoflage was my sanctuary. Don't even look at me! I would turn red down to my toes, :oops: and upon appearing as if I would burst into tears,(which was highly likely)...many kind souls, would turn away and leave me be.
I struggled all thru my childhood, had extreme low self-esteem, made very good grades, and was invited to be part of the BETA club in high school, and was the first to turn them down! oh, teachers came out of the woodwork! you need to come out of your shell...develop your personality...yada, yada, yada,...even some of the students tried to encourage me...nope, couldn't hog tie me and drag me in there,....so, between the anxiety of letting ppl down, the fear, that their begging/pleading wouldn't stop, and school becoming harder, home being chaos, the easiest thing to do, was quit trying so hard.
Now, your probably wondering how I made such good grades in the first place, and did so well, albeit I was a social washout...bc, I had the kind of a.d.d. (a nick...it has been decided that ADHD fits all, even if they are a couch potato type)...I had such extreme anxiety about getting into trouble, or being embarrassed that I developed many o.c.d. behaviors, very early in life, to cope, and push myself with. I hyperfocused.
Hyperfocusing has saved my sanity. We all do it sometimes. Add-ers, cannot do it on demand, but they can do it, especially when they are highly interested in something...hence, the kids that can play video games for hours, but cannot get their room clean.
It is not bc, they choose, to pay attention to the games, and choose to ignore their mothers pleas/warnings/threats...their is much anxiety that causes rapid thoughts etc. and the more they get negative feedback, the worse the noise/anxiety/jumbled goobledy gosh, in their heads. They have no control over this mess.
At 27 years old, I developed my first ulcer, and went to counseling for help. No one knew a thimble full about add back then, so it wasn't even mentioned.
As my file grew, it wouldn't be mentioned, in the same sentence with my name, until I began asking at age 43! I knew my youngest daughter had it. I told all of her teachers, who could not see it. There was no help, of any kind, that I knew anything about, so she never took anything.
She had a hard time. We had a bit of a hard time, although, when I was finally diagnosed and started reading up, I had done many, many things, spot on :wink: :D :!:
One of my descriptions of it, to my doctor, was it's like I get a traffic jam in my head,...or, sometimes it's like standing in a movie theater with 5-6 movies playing, and your standing in the hallway, and all the doors are open, and you are hearing/seeing all of them at once!
I sent for a video tape about adhd...and in the first ten seconds of the film...guess what...they opened with a big, fat, blurry, traffic jam on a super speedway...they had photographed the inside of my head!!!
I didn't get paid for that, LOL!!!
Before meds, I had a recurrng nightmare, for years and years, of being behind the wheel of a car with no brakes....(anxiety/out of control/no control...waiting for the other shoe to drop!)
So, having said all of this, and feeling quite refreshed, bc I am who I am...love me, or don't, I can't change, and don't want to.
Let me say, before I close, I am not advocating that all ppl with add. need meds. On the contrary. I think they should only be taken by those that can't cope otherwise, and should only be prescribed by professionals educated in ADHD.
It is very important they have this background, as it looks a lot like other things. Some ppl do outgrow it, and some that have it as adults, learn to cope with it. I had to have medicine, and it is not a cure all, but borrowing what someone said on a previous post...compare life WITH meds and side effects, to life WITH OUT meds, and the consequences/side effects of that!
I will take the former and be gosh darn glad of it.
It has changed my whole life for the better, and made me able to be who I always was.
I was trapped inside, a body, and couldn't get out, dissociating, and my social world was full of 'others' in my head. Unless you have some kind of very severe moral or mental issue going on, this is caused by the anxiety.
I was completely introverted and my lonely, prison of a world, was between my ears.
Medication, for me, let me open the door and walk into the sunshine, and say - Hi, there all you lucky people, here I am!!! :D

kwhite 06-13-2009 08:40 AM

Congrats quiltcrazy. Good decision. Bravo!!!!

Mousie 06-13-2009 08:50 AM


Originally Posted by kwhite
Congrats quiltcrazy. Good decision. Bravo!!!!

thank you, kw, and I have to say, if it wasn't for the other post, and your coming right out, and saying, "I have it.", I would probably still be wondering if ppl would still like me if they knew. :XD:
People that are your real friends, will accept you as you are, whether you have a.d.d., brown hair, blonde hair, blue eyed or brown...
we are quilters, and like many things,
I are a quilter and like many ppl! and quilts! :wink:

Esqmommy 06-13-2009 08:56 AM

Coming out and being so open has probably helped more people than you can imagine. I think you're very brave and obviously a wonderful person. I'm happy to hear things are going well for you now!

Ninnie 06-13-2009 08:59 AM

Way To Go C!!!!

You look real good up there on that soapbox!!

I am truly proud to call you my friend! :D :D :D


CB

Mousie 06-13-2009 09:07 AM


Originally Posted by Esqmommy
Coming out and being so open has probably helped more people than you can imagine. I think you're very brave and obviously a wonderful person. I'm happy to hear things are going well for you now!

thank you so much Esqmommy! blzzrdqueen is to be commended for her post, before mine. She talked about her daughter etc. and as I read replies, just became obvious to me, that I was still 'hiding' in the corner, even though, I am no longer a shy person.
It is so good to hear such nice comments, and yes, things are good these days. I'm still married to the same wonderful guy, 32 years this month! :D

Mousie 06-13-2009 09:09 AM


Originally Posted by Ninnie
Way To Go C!!!!

You look real good up there on that soapbox!!

I am truly proud to call you my friend! :D :D :D


CB

Oh, thank you, Ninnie!!! you showed me how, first! was an inspiration, and I am truly proud to call you my friend!!! hugs 4 tht! :wink: C

Butterflyspain 06-13-2009 09:18 AM

I think you are a wonderful person and I donīt care if you are bright green with spots on. You have made me laugh on many occasions with your quick wit and wonderful sense of humour.

Take a bow friend you didnīt need to tell anyone, if people canīt accept someone because they think they are better than you, let me tell them no one in this world is perfect.

Off soapbox now.

Hugs Elle x


Bill'sBonBon 06-13-2009 09:19 AM


Originally Posted by quiltncrazy

Originally Posted by kwhite
Congrats quiltcrazy. Good decision. Bravo!!!!

thank you, kw, and I have to say, if it wasn't for the other post, and your coming right out, and saying, "I have it.", I would probably still be wondering if ppl would still like me if they knew. :XD:
People that are your real friends, will accept you as you are, whether you have a.d.d., brown hair, blonde hair, blue eyed or brown...
we are quilters, and like many things,
I are a quilter and like many ppl! and quilts! :wink:

AWWW quiltcrazy, ADD,ADHD,Bipolar Runs in both sides of my my Childrens family.. I have self diagnosed myself as Mildly ADD. My Husband is Bipolar,Oldest DD is Bipolar, her oldest son is very ADD, middle son is Bipolar. Her Baby son who is now 21 I believe is somewhere inbetween like me. I have worked with children when I was a Paraprof. that was on meds and off meds. ADD,ADHD,BiPolar are very misunderstood people. Most people think people with BiPolar are crazy. You had better be careful about that person He or she is Bipolar and you know what they can do, Kill their kids,hurt you or themselves in a rage. I have watch faces turn red,when this is told to me about someone and I say well Bill is BiPolar and we have been married a long,long time I am still here,His DDs and Grndkids,GrtGrndkids love him. He hasn't beaten anyone,harassed anyone. He does have his moments but He knows and we both deal with it. So HURRAY!!!!!! you go Girl.
BillsBonBon

Mousie 06-13-2009 09:25 AM


Originally Posted by Butterflyspain
I think you are a wonderful person and I donīt care if you are bright green with spots on. You have made me laugh on many occasions with your quick wit and wonderful sense of humour.

Take a bow friend you didnīt need to tell anyone, if people canīt accept someone because they think they are better than you, let me tell them no one in this world is perfect.

Off soapbox now.

Hugs Elle x

I LOVE YOU TOO, ELLE! :D

Mousie 06-13-2009 09:35 AM


Originally Posted by Bill'sBonBon

Originally Posted by quiltncrazy

Originally Posted by kwhite
Congrats quiltcrazy. Good decision. Bravo!!!!

thank you, kw, and I have to say, if it wasn't for the other post, and your coming right out, and saying, "I have it.", I would probably still be wondering if ppl would still like me if they knew. :XD:
People that are your real friends, will accept you as you are, whether you have a.d.d., brown hair, blonde hair, blue eyed or brown...
we are quilters, and like many things,
I are a quilter and like many ppl! and quilts! :wink:

AWWW quiltcrazy, ADD,ADHD,Bipolar Runs in both sides of my my Childrens family.. I have self diagnosed myself as Mildly ADD. My Husband is Bipolar,Oldest DD is Bipolar, her oldest son is very ADD, middle son is Bipolar. Her Baby son who is now 21 I believe is somewhere inbetween like me. I have worked with children when I was a Paraprof. that was on meds and off meds. ADD,ADHD,BiPolar are very misunderstood people. Most people think people with BiPolar are crazy. You had better be careful about that person He or she is Bipolar and you know what they can do, Kill their kids,hurt you or themselves in a rage. I have watch faces turn red,when this is told to me about someone and I say well Bill is BiPolar and we have been married a long,long time I am still here,His DDs and Grndkids,GrtGrndkids love him. He hasn't beaten anyone,harassed anyone. He does have his moments but He knows and we both deal with it. So HURRAY!!!!!! you go Girl.
BillsBonBon

I was misdiagnosed for years as a hypomanic and believed it. I couldn't find myself in books, etc. and felt i didn't even belong to 'my own group'!
So, I know what you mean. ppl do talk, out of ignorance/uneducated.
You don't hear about the traits, like, - kind, sensitive, warm hearted, intelligent...etc. that 99.99% also have.
Patti Duke wrote a book called, "A Brilliant Madness", bc of her manic depression.
I'm not saying we are so much smarter, nicer, etc. than anyone else, but what we have to cope with and manage these other things, well, once in a while it doesn't hurt to give yourself a little pat on the back.
We all struggle with something, I'm just glad there are coping mechanisms available. Your hubby has a wonderful wife. hope he is doing better, and you too, bonnie. hugs.

ksusan 06-13-2009 09:50 AM

You are a loving, caring person and I am blessed that your shared this. I always look for your postings :D You have helped so many people by being on this board and educating us on this subject. Having worked in community mental health for a decade, I know that you are a treasure!

amma 06-13-2009 10:08 AM

Well my friend, that was sure a mouthful :wink: I am proud to call you a friend, proud that you have come this far and you are continuing to do whatever it takes to make you feel better, and proud that you can stand up and say "I like me" and very proud that you took a deep breath and said what you felt in your heart!

Mental illness/disease in any form is so misunderstood...I think it is ignorance that makes people speak out of turn, scares them, and news shows/papers sensationalizing only makes it worse. I hope that as more good information is made available to the public, peoples attitudes will change and acceptanceand understanding will be the rule.

I have suffered from depression/anxiety/panic attacks since I was a child...no one knew anything about it back then. I started counseling as an adult and met people in group sessions who pretty much covered the gambit. Most were close to my age, and all had suffered at the cruelties of others.

People need to know and understand we are all individuals...bi-polar does not mean violence, Prozac does not mean suicide. As individuals we are all in a different place mentally, medications work differently on each individual, treatment plans vary, but the bottom line is whatever our problem is, it does not define us as a person :wink: I long for the day when mental illness's can be discussed as openly and honestly as an appendiix, gall bladder or any other medical issue...

kwhite 06-13-2009 10:19 AM

Toldyaso Quiltcrazy!!!! :D

Rhonda 06-13-2009 11:46 AM

QC I want you to know that people like you help people like me and my daughter learn how to cope with ADHD. I and my DD Sara ran our own daycare and we had 3 ADHD kids. Through daycare I took classes on ADHD and saw my husband and my one son in the sympton list. \
Sara now has three kids two have ADHD and we had some background in this so it may have helped but it is still hard on all of us to deal with at times. One DGS(8)Zach is autistic and ADHD one DGS (10)Joey has OCD and ADHD and TICS and may have ausbergers(not diagnosed). Joey(10) has had a lot of the issues you talk about. He has a hard time dealing with people. He is inappropriate behavior some times and has a hard time understanding people's personal space as well. He talks alot about his dreams which are usually strange and he is a deep thinker and spends alot of time in book learning. He reads the encyclopedias. He is beginning to be able to make friends some but his friends make fun of him.

I use to think meds were wrong but now we can not cope with either boy without meds. They take the edge off and allow them to be able to cope in the real world. Zach off meds is a nightmare!! He never stops and does dangerous things and is so miserable and he never sleeps without meds because autistic people's body does not make enough melatonin to tell the body to sleep.

We hear all the time from people that if you would only discipline that child more he would behave in public! And I hear well lmy child would never behave lilke that I can tell you that!!!

I don't like constantly explaining he is autistic because a lot of the behavior is really ADHD but I find myself defending him all the time to people when it really isn't any of their business unless he gets in their faces.

It isn't easy to be differant in this world. A lot of people assume he is retarded which is so far from the truth!! We spend a lot of time trying to out think him!! He is very high IQ and is a natural problem solver. If he wants to do something he can figure out how to get what he wants before you even know he is doing the forbidden activity!!

I applaud you for learning to cope so well in a world that is less than supportive!! You will always have all the support we can give here on the board!

My youngest son also struggled through school and I believe he has ADD and possibly ausbergers but he doesn't want to talk about it. He is what I always called my black and white kid. There are no grays in his world. Things are either right or wrong! And he will tell you about it!! He is 31 now married with twin sons and doing great so I am happy that he has learned to cope. He has dyxlexia also tho he denies it.
He tends to ignore what he doesn't want to deal with. So it doesn't exist!

Keep up the good work and enjoy your life to the fullest QC!!! I fully understand the struggle you go through!!

I also have really enjoyed your company on the board!!


butterflywing 06-13-2009 12:04 PM

brave mouse, i wish there was a way to clap for you via computer.

bearisgray 06-13-2009 12:14 PM

Ow, wow.

And I thought my problems were big. (They are still annoying, though)

Mousie 06-13-2009 02:12 PM


Originally Posted by ksusan
You are a loving, caring person and I am blessed that your shared this. I always look for your postings :D You have helped so many people by being on this board and educating us on this subject. Having worked in community mental health for a decade, I know that you are a treasure!

wow, I actually clamped my hand over my mouth...that is high praise, right there,...thank you. I just wrote a message to someone and I let them know, that I was going to add it to this post. I am going to do it separately, in hopes that more will see it. Thank you for saying that, you have no idea what it means to me, or, maybe you do :wink:

Mousie 06-13-2009 02:15 PM


Originally Posted by amma
Well my friend, that was sure a mouthful :wink: I am proud to call you a friend, proud that you have come this far and you are continuing to do whatever it takes to make you feel better, and proud that you can stand up and say "I like me" and very proud that you took a deep breath and said what you felt in your heart!

Mental illness/disease in any form is so misunderstood...I think it is ignorance that makes people speak out of turn, scares them, and news shows/papers sensationalizing only makes it worse. I hope that as more good information is made available to the public, peoples attitudes will change and acceptanceand understanding will be the rule.

I have suffered from depression/anxiety/panic attacks since I was a child...no one knew anything about it back then. I started counseling as an adult and met people in group sessions who pretty much covered the gambit. Most were close to my age, and all had suffered at the cruelties of others.

People need to know and understand we are all individuals...bi-polar does not mean violence, Prozac does not mean suicide. As individuals we are all in a different place mentally, medications work differently on each individual, treatment plans vary, but the bottom line is whatever our problem is, it does not define us as a person :wink: I long for the day when mental illness's can be discussed as openly and honestly as an appendiix, gall bladder or any other medical issue...

Amma, I wish I had a smiley that showed applauding, bc I would give you a standing ovation for that!
Man, do you get it!!!!!!! :XD:

Mousie 06-13-2009 02:17 PM

IN THE HOPES, THAT THOSE THAT READ THIS POST, i AM ADDING SOMETHING. THIS IS A MESSAGE/REPLY I WROTE BY PM TO SOMEONE, AND I LET THEM KNOW, I WAS GOING TO PUT IT HERE:

actually, if you haven't already seen it, I have a new post topic on board about it all.
I pm'd blizzardqueen and told her I was going to do it. I just had more to say, and did not want to hijack her post.
I did not exactly want to say, look at me, look at me... there must be millions with adhd. I guess I am just tired of this dx still getting all the fallout that it does. I want to stand up and say, "don't volunteer to walk in someone else's shoes...you don't know where their journey has taken them." We all have our stuff, and I guess this is my pet peeve, lol.
For all the children out there, and uneducated parents struggling with undiagnosed children, I want to be at least one voice. thanks, QC

Mousie 06-13-2009 02:29 PM


Originally Posted by Rhonda
QC I want you to know that people like you help people like me and my daughter learn how to cope with ADHD. I and my DD Sara ran our own daycare and we had 3 ADHD kids. Through daycare I took classes on ADHD and saw my husband and my one son in the sympton list. \
Sara now has three kids two have ADHD and we had some background in this so it may have helped but it is still hard on all of us to deal with at times. One DGS(8)Zach is autistic and ADHD one DGS (10)Joey has OCD and ADHD and TICS and may have ausbergers(not diagnosed). Joey(10) has had a lot of the issues you talk about. He has a hard time dealing with people. He is inappropriate behavior some times and has a hard time understanding people's personal space as well. He talks alot about his dreams which are usually strange and he is a deep thinker and spends alot of time in book learning. He reads the encyclopedias. He is beginning to be able to make friends some but his friends make fun of him.

I use to think meds were wrong but now we can not cope with either boy without meds. They take the edge off and allow them to be able to cope in the real world. Zach off meds is a nightmare!! He never stops and does dangerous things and is so miserable and he never sleeps without meds because autistic people's body does not make enough melatonin to tell the body to sleep.

We hear all the time from people that if you would only discipline that child more he would behave in public! And I hear well lmy child would never behave lilke that I can tell you that!!!

I don't like constantly explaining he is autistic because a lot of the behavior is really ADHD but I find myself defending him all the time to people when it really isn't any of their business unless he gets in their faces.

It isn't easy to be differant in this world. A lot of people assume he is retarded which is so far from the truth!! We spend a lot of time trying to out think him!! He is very high IQ and is a natural problem solver. If he wants to do something he can figure out how to get what he wants before you even know he is doing the forbidden activity!!

I applaud you for learning to cope so well in a world that is less than supportive!! You will always have all the support we can give here on the board!

My youngest son also struggled through school and I believe he has ADD and possibly ausbergers but he doesn't want to talk about it. He is what I always called my black and white kid. There are no grays in his world. Things are either right or wrong! And he will tell you about it!! He is 31 now married with twin sons and doing great so I am happy that he has learned to cope. He has dyxlexia also tho he denies it.
He tends to ignore what he doesn't want to deal with. So it doesn't exist!

Keep up the good work and enjoy your life to the fullest QC!!! I fully understand the struggle you go through!!

I also have really enjoyed your company on the board!!

Wow, Rhonda, you touched on so many things, I want to respond to, but hubby is waiting right now. I will probably come back and talk about some of it later.
I know there are a lot of ppl out there, with what I have, and like me, have looked and found many coping strategies. I found mine, bc I am also a christian. I am not going to apologize to anyone for saying that, nor am I going to preach about it. I know it is ok, to say that here, bc you are christian too.
I just don't want to feel like I have an albatross around my neck anymore. I also, don't want anyone else to feel that way, especially the children. I am speaking up, for the little girl in me, that never got to. :D

Mousie 06-13-2009 02:34 PM


Originally Posted by butterflywing
brave mouse, i wish there was a way to clap for you via computer.

Butterflywing...
(oh, QC is using B's whole name, must be sincere! :wink: )
I love you, and I would applaud you for being who you are, and who you are to me...right back! :thumbup:

Mousie 06-13-2009 02:41 PM


Originally Posted by bearisgray
Ow, wow.

And I thought my problems were big. (They are still annoying, though)

I read a book a few years back, by a Dr. Viktor Frankl, about his experience in the concentration camps. They took his manuscript that was just about ready to be published, right before he went there.
During the years he was imprisoned, he collected tiny scraps of paper, and re-wrote the whole thing. This is one of the things he said about
human suffering
(I will have to paraphrase due to memory being just a bit foggy):

In each individual, suffering fills them up, like gas fills a vessel. You can't compare one kind of suffering to another...it's all painful.
Thanks for your support by responding. Even if I never know, if one parent re-thinks this disorder, or one person goes for help, then I have managed to pay it forward. :D



QuiltMania 06-13-2009 02:46 PM

I applaud all of you who say "I have this and I am great". You may never know how much you help those who come after you. You are doing so much to correct the misconceptions surrounding ADHD, LD, autism, etc. Thank you all.

gaigai 06-13-2009 02:49 PM


Originally Posted by quiltncrazy
Hi, there all you lucky people, here I am!!! :D



And we are really happy that you are here!!! Hugs and more hugs!!!

crossginny 06-13-2009 02:55 PM

I, too, am a self diagnosed ADDer......our two sons were both diagnosed as ADHD.
I feel and understand the pain that comes with the looks and judgments that others make when they think they understand what you/your child is experiencing. We too have had many occasions when others would comment on our sons' behaviors.....and they had NO clue what our family was experiencing. At one point, we had those who called our younger son the Devil Child. That son is now serving a mission for our church--he's been out almost one year and has one more year to go. I KNOW there is hope for children with ADHD to flourish and be wonderful--we have two fantastic sons! They are caring and loving AND having had difficulties with behavior growing up, they are sensitive to others who have any number of a variety of "differences". : )
No they are not perfect,they still each struggle with some nuances of it, but the thing is they are able to cope and function in this life. and in the end, that is the important thing--they are happy, loving, caring, and responsible adults.

{climbs down off her soapbox}

Butterfli19 06-13-2009 03:03 PM

QnC - I love your sense of humor, your style, your way with words, and your advice. You are a warm, wonderful person and Lord knows we need more of your kind in the world.

And besides, I probably wouldn't like you so much if you were perfect. :wink:

Ducky 06-13-2009 03:10 PM

QC, I so appreciated your post. I really did. What I really applaud is the fact that you so freely say, "take me the way I am. Love me -- or not". And, Little Mouse, who wouldn't love you, huh?

I do not have ADHD (though, I've been on medication for clinical depression for probably 15 years now -- and that's also kind of a "take me or leave me" sort of deal), but used to work at a school for kids with learning difficulties -- many of them with ADD/ADHD. Some kids were on medication, and I never had a doubt in my mind that that was the reason they were able to function and succeed, because we were able to see the difference between "before" medication was prescribed and "after". I absolutely know that not all people need medication.

I guess I just wanted to say to you, and the others who have spoken about it, that it's great it is being discussed. Isn't this the greatest place to come to be absolutely "yourself"? What a wonderful board.

Rebecca

beachlady 06-13-2009 03:30 PM

Quiltncrazy, thanks for your post. I have a GS with ADD, though he is 14 now and starting to outgrow it, but does struggle with self-confidence and school. They used to let him stand by his desk, because he could not sit in his chair very long.
Appreciate your openness. One thing I learned early in life was to accept people for the way they are and I think I have always followed that.

Thanks again!

mkanderson 06-13-2009 04:42 PM

Don't have ADD but do have anxiety/panic attacks and know all about feeling different. I felt that I was the only one that felt "different".
I look forward to reading your posts. They "pick up" my day! :lol: :wink:

sunnyhope 06-13-2009 05:27 PM

I think your a wonderful person; when i first joined here you were one the first ppl to offer help, maybe some of you remember me asking about some help for my friends who lost everything they owned in a fire; i m happy to report they are doing very well now :)

anyway adhd add etc, seems like many ppl in here have that or some other illness but who cares, everyone here cares so much beyond that and we share a hobby that we all love and we are still ppl even with adhd or artheritus like i have.
well actually i have astma, used to have epilepsi but outgrown that yippi, also have artheritus, wiplash and firbromyalgia, many seem to have fibromyalg in here. i also have p.o.s so what we all love sewing/quilting/ crafts :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

thank you for being my friends :wink:

Mousie 06-13-2009 05:42 PM


Originally Posted by QuiltMania
I applaud all of you who say "I have this and I am great". You may never know how much you help those who come after you. You are doing so much to correct the misconceptions surrounding ADHD, LD, autism, etc. Thank you all.


Growing up, I had five brothers, no sisters. I was so lonely, and believed that if I could just have a sister, I would be everything to her. I think this desire, was rooted in the depression I suffered from, and I was really grieving for the little girl inside of me.
The point I want to make is this: I could not have been everything to a sister, or to anyone. That is unrealistic. What is realistic, is trying to live your life, so that your own light can shine, and maybe it will help someone else see. I won't get it just right every day, but I have another box of matches, for another day. :wink:

Mousie 06-13-2009 05:45 PM


Originally Posted by gaigai

Originally Posted by quiltncrazy
Hi, there all you lucky people, here I am!!! :D



And we are really happy that you are here!!! Hugs and more hugs!!!

:D hey!!! we have been like two sheeps in the night...baaa!!!
actually i have been getting on at different times, to get more sewing done. I am so glad your here too, gai! hugs to you! you've got to be one of the funniest nurses I ever had the pleasure to know :XD:

Mplsgirl 06-13-2009 05:45 PM

QC - I told you a while ago I thought we would be great friends. Now I know it more than ever. What a spectacular, funny, smart, woman you are. I've never met you other than this board, but I love you. Pam Nix

Mousie 06-13-2009 05:48 PM


Originally Posted by crossginny
I, too, am a self diagnosed ADDer......our two sons were both diagnosed as ADHD.
I feel and understand the pain that comes with the looks and judgments that others make when they think they understand what you/your child is experiencing. We too have had many occasions when others would comment on our sons' behaviors.....and they had NO clue what our family was experiencing. At one point, we had those who called our younger son the Devil Child. That son is now serving a mission for our church--he's been out almost one year and has one more year to go. I KNOW there is hope for children with ADHD to flourish and be wonderful--we have two fantastic sons! They are caring and loving AND having had difficulties with behavior growing up, they are sensitive to others who have any number of a variety of "differences". : )
No they are not perfect,they still each struggle with some nuances of it, but the thing is they are able to cope and function in this life. and in the end, that is the important thing--they are happy, loving, caring, and responsible adults.

{climbs down off her soapbox}

What a loving tribute, mom! :XD: I always let my girls know, that although you may not always be right, and i may not support that, I will always love and support you. aw, i'm just mush now, lol! :D

Mousie 06-13-2009 05:51 PM


Originally Posted by Butterfli19
QnC - I love your sense of humor, your style, your way with words, and your advice. You are a warm, wonderful person and Lord knows we need more of your kind in the world.

And besides, I probably wouldn't like you so much if you were perfect. :wink:

well, I am so glad we both ended up here, on this board, bc it seems to be filled with our kind, lol!
...btw, I tried perfect once,...it was too hard to keep up :wink:

Mousie 06-13-2009 05:55 PM


Originally Posted by Ducky
QC, I so appreciated your post. I really did. What I really applaud is the fact that you so freely say, "take me the way I am. Love me -- or not". And, Little Mouse, who wouldn't love you, huh?

I do not have ADHD (though, I've been on medication for clinical depression for probably 15 years now -- and that's also kind of a "take me or leave me" sort of deal), but used to work at a school for kids with learning difficulties -- many of them with ADD/ADHD. Some kids were on medication, and I never had a doubt in my mind that that was the reason they were able to function and succeed, because we were able to see the difference between "before" medication was prescribed and "after". I absolutely know that not all people need medication.

I guess I just wanted to say to you, and the others who have spoken about it, that it's great it is being discussed. Isn't this the greatest place to come to be absolutely "yourself"? What a wonderful board.

Rebecca

awww, Ducky, have loved you from the first time you quacked me up! :lol:
I can honestly say, this board beats any other group or chat I have ever been in, online, or in real life! :XD:

Mousie 06-13-2009 05:59 PM


Originally Posted by beachlady
Quiltncrazy, thanks for your post. I have a GS with ADD, though he is 14 now and starting to outgrow it, but does struggle with self-confidence and school. They used to let him stand by his desk, because he could not sit in his chair very long.
Appreciate your openness. One thing I learned early in life was to accept people for the way they are and I think I have always followed that.

Thanks again!

I am so happy to hear, not only is your gson starting to outgrow the add, but happy to know he has your support. Grandparents are a special breed to a child...like the cherry on top, of life :wink:
I think you do accept all ppl, and your quilt with the fruit ladies* showed that acceptance...all sizes, shapes...etc. LOL!

barnbum 06-13-2009 06:01 PM

We are lucky you're here. :D
I'll get to know you better this summer... I'll be here more often. :wink:

Mousie 06-13-2009 06:12 PM


Originally Posted by mkanderson
Don't have ADD but do have anxiety/panic attacks and know all about feeling different. I felt that I was the only one that felt "different".
I look forward to reading your posts. They "pick up" my day! :lol: :wink:

oh my goodness! mkanderson, you are so sweet! we can't help but wonder when we say things :oops: or :lol: , who may read it. I am so flattered to be told by so many, that they have enjoyed reading stuff I have written.
I too, love reading other ppl's stuff, and seeing their creations. I just love the share and care attitude of the ppl on this board.
I used to have panic attacks, the worst were in my sleep! I would physically struggle to wake myself up...that's a pretty awful thing to live with, right there, so I have nothing but hugs and compassion for anyone who deals with them.
I still have the sleep ones occasionally, but thank goodness they are a lot further apart and fewer now. I think these are due to allergies, mostly. You are not alone, and your not different mk, your unique.
We are all like snowflakes, beautiful and unique, similar but not identical. :D


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