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Ann Simon 03-30-2011 12:28 PM

Been married 38 years this comming May. We still like to spend time with one another. Best friends.

dgrindey 03-30-2011 02:12 PM

First of all, I would say that in our 50 yrs of marriage, we never even spoke of the word divorce; murder maybe but never divorce. LOL Communication is key--keep the lines open all the time. Trust is important. My husband used to travel a lot when he was working. If we didn't have trust, I don't know what would have happened. Remember, the two of you are always first and when your children grow up, you want to still be compatible and in love. We used to take weekend trips once in a while and leave our kids with my parents. The kids needed to be away from us as much as we needed to be away from them. Our children are extremely important to us, don't get me wrong, but now that we are older and alone, we can talk to each other and we don't have to depend on our kids for companionship. Most importantly, keep God in the center of your home---not God d--- it. I hope this helps. Good luck Donna

ging10ging 03-30-2011 04:54 PM

been married 48 yrs in Dec. always make my DH number 1. Never go to bed mad kiss goodnight even if you still feel upset. It's a big give & take and I think woman can give easier than a man so just love each other. Wound you rather live alone or work at your marriage and stay happy together. My Mom told me that if you have and argument with your husband stay and settle it together and she was right. We've never argued to much but I let a lot go that I isn't worth a big deal. Talk and touch each other daily.

SewExtremeSeams 03-30-2011 05:13 PM

My DH and I put each other first in our lives. We both believe that nothing is more important than our love for the one another, and how important it is to protect it. We let go of being right... who cares if you are right~~~is it worth being so mad you can't speak to the one you love?

We also do not talk down about one another to others. We are each other's best friend. Since we are retired and spend most of each day together we always say 'we have good company'. I would marry him all over again if I was given the choice! :D

PS: I agree with ging10ging... touch each other daily. We hold hands when sitting next to one another, even when we are the only two in the room. His hands are so warm! :-D

dgrindey 03-30-2011 05:35 PM


Originally Posted by ging10ging
been married 48 yrs in Dec. always make my DH number 1. Never go to bed mad kiss goodnight even if you still feel upset. It's a big give & take and I think woman can give easier than a man so just love each other. Wound you rather live alone or work at your marriage and stay happy together. My Mom told me that if you have and argument with your husband stay and settle it together and she was right. We've never argued to much but I let a lot go that I isn't worth a big deal. Talk and touch each other daily.

good advice

Dee 03-30-2011 08:14 PM

47 years and never go to bed angry. Kiss and Hug and each day-I Love You. This has carried us thru many tough times.

Greendragon6889 03-31-2011 12:16 PM

And last but not least..Marraige is hard work..never stop working on it or go down different paths..

PJisChaos 03-31-2011 03:59 PM


Originally Posted by Greendragon6889
And last but not least..Marraige is hard work..never stop working on it or go down different paths..

I tell my kids this all the time! Whether ya are married or just dating or something in-between, you HAVE to commit to it everyday and follow through, every single day. Anything worth doing IS hard, if it was easy everyone would be doing it and then there'd be no point.

dljennings 03-31-2011 04:28 PM


Originally Posted by Ditter43
Remember the golden rule, agree to disagree, hug a lot, laugh with each other often, say "I love you" and show it. Little things DO mean a lot, put each other first and marry your best friend or make the person you marry your best friend.......... :D

that 'agree to disagree" is key for us.. and never give one of the kids an answer unless you check with each other....kids sure will try to get around you!

BluegrassGurl 03-31-2011 05:37 PM

Don't forget to laugh. Many times we take EVERYTHING SOOOOOOOOO seriously and are so ready to point the finger of blame.... we forget to laugh at ourself.. and together.


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