Okay, okay, I am old enough to be married, but what's the rush?! I'm 21 and today I ran into someone I've known for quite a while (a friends mom) and she proceeded to tell me of all my friends that are married, are getting married and says to me "Well Hailee, when's it YOUR turn?"

I wanted to respond rudely, but merely laughed it off...then called my mom and vented about it.

Seriously. Is it really that bad that I'm 21 and not yet married? grr...

OMG.. No.. good for you for being independent... Life is short, have fun, be responsible and enjoy all that you can married or not...

No - not at all .......I was 27 when I got married and my sister was 30 ! Very expensive year for our parents ! She married in the Feb and me in the Dec same year !

Stay single do everything you want first or until you find the right man! I had a kid at 21 and I would not change things but maybe have waited a little longer!!

Don't rush into anything just because people are 'expecting' you to. If you want to get married, you will know when its the right time.

Only in the deep South! LOL! Waiting until you meet the right person is so important and may not happen until you are 50! I know because my best friend did just that!

OMG absolutely not!!! Hey you're young once, enjoy it!!! I didn't get married until I was 27. Things to do, places to go - you know what I mean. Enjoy yourself hun, explore.

For some their line of thinking is you must have a partner to be happy in life - that is how they were brought up. Not everyone has to have a partner to be happy in life. True happiness is found within one's own self, not another person.
You are young, enjoy life and if you run across someone you feel you want to spend your life with, then consider getting married.
Get married for the right reasons! Not because someone is pushing you, etc.

I had 2 kids by your age but that's what girls did back then. Got married 2 weeks out of high school.
My DDs got married in their mid 20's and are happy as clams.
Live your life your way and enjoy yourself. Just smile at people who rush you.

Not at all....enjoy yourself! Your time will come.

I was 31 when I got married ... so no ... you enjoy your life, wait for the right guy ... the one who holds your hand, opens doors, treats you right and with respect ... listens to you ... and helps you ... and when the time is right you will know it.

Don't rush ...time is precious ... enjoy it!

Your friend's mother should have more sense.

please don't let others influence your decision on this, there is absolutely nothing wrong with not being married at your age. Case in point: Son (now 31) and daughter now 24, both married before 21....one is divorced and the other one is seperated and about to be divorced.

Take your time, there is no rush..live your life, enjoy figuring out who you are and who you want to spend the rest of your life together with.

The lady was probably just trying to make conversation - that's what we old(er) people do sometimes. I really don't think she was trying to be rude. Sometimes people just "don't think" before putting their mouths in gear.

I think "expected marrying age" changes from time to time -

If one wants to be married at 21 - fine. If one does not want to be married at 21 - that is also fine.

We are so fortunate that females now have so many more choices about how to live their lives.

I don't think that anyone should get married before 25. LOL You'll know when the right person shows up, but don't let anyone push you into marriage.

when someone asks you that, just laugh and say "Why would I want to tie myself down when I am having so much FUN!!!"

I agree totally with pocoellie. When the time is right, you will know it.


Just wait until you do get married, then you will get the nosy questions about "When are you going to have a baby?"

Then when you do have one, "When are you going to have another one?"

Let's face it, there is no end of nosy people in the world.

Because being different from the majority of the people you hang out with is always kind of difficult. Your interests and priorities start to differ - and many times you drift apart. It's just part of life. I don't mean friends and friendships are disposable, but sometimes they just don't "fit" well anymore with one's current way of living.

All of the above. You come first. Enjoy your life.

Gosh, 21 was old when my Mom was a girl but certainly not in the 21st century!! In fact, I think 21 is really young to get married. That was the age I got married and let me tell you I didn't even know who I was let alone learning about my husband!
We're still married but we sure had a lot of growing pains lol
My kids are all still single and they are older than you and I'm glad. They have plenty of time!

No, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with not wanting to be married at 21. And, I am a mom of a 21 year old talking. My son was just married last married...he was 28 at the time and married a wonderful young lady who is 31 (and,yes, her first marriage). We have another daughter who will be marrying her high school/ college sweetheart in June. They are both 23 and have dated for years. My youngest (the 21 year old) is having way too much fun as a college junior and looking forward to starting her career to worry much about being in a committed relationship. In fact, she feels sad for her high school friends who are already married, some with children, living in our small town and working at minimum wage jobs. And, no...there is nothing wrong with getting min. wage...her point is that there is a whole world out there and people should see it before they settle down. Don't let anyone make you feel bad.

As the Bible says, to everything there is a season. If and when your season comes for this, you will know.

Honey, you just got a whole lot of good advice!! :D
People ask such dumb questions sometimes too- I guess that doesn't change lol

Just wait until a bunch of them are divorced...does she want you to join that crowd too?

I was married at 20 the first time. Believe me it takes more maturity to remain married than alot of 20 year olds have.

Enjoy YOUR life and if you get married that's okay.

Or, if you're feeling especially peckish that day, you might say, "Why?? Does misery love company?" and give a sugar-wouldn't-melt-in-my-mouth smile! LOL! ;-)

Jan in VA

oh honey, my first husband proposed to me when i was 15 yrs old. i waited till i was 23 to marry him. I've been married 30 yrs now- to my 3rd husband!!
don't rush!!!

What everyone else said...I think it's just a topic some people naturally go to without thinking. I've heard it for years. I don't even think most people are being particularly nosy (maybe some!), it just follows "how are you? how are your parents?..." It doesn't bother me until they start matchmaking!

I have a 21 yo son and 22 yo dd and I dont think either one is ready for marrige yet, lol!

There's a difference between *rudely* and *matter of factly*.

I hope you find the difference sooner than I did (after the age of 50).

Something polite like...
"No - I'm not getting married anytime soon - but if you promise not to ask such a stupid question like that to me again - when I'm engaged you'll be the 5th person to know...how's that sound to you?"
:)

Not at all I have an adult daughter that is 22 and not married and another one 20 and she is not planning to get married next year. My son is getting married and his Hailee, yes same name, will be 25 when she gets married. Know too many young people that are already divorced. I really like that my kids take some time to work on their education and figure out who they are before taking that step.

Hahaha Love it!! :thumbup:

Marriage should not have an age associated with it - get married when you find the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. That can happen at age 21 or at age 60! Better to remain single until you find your "soul mate" than to marry because someone suggests you are the right age and end up divorced.

I probably would have told her that I hadn't kiss the right frog yet....

100 years ago you were an Old Maid if you were not married by 14. When it's time you will know. Till then enjoy every day.

Stay single for crying out loud! Do what you want, when you want to, and how you want to! You still have to discover who YOU are, before you can discover who someone else is. Enjoy your life, you have plenty of time honey!

Ditto! I was 30 and my husband was 40. I'm so glad I waited until I found the right person. And my friend just married for the first time at age 41. She's as happy as a clam.

I married the first time at age 18 and had 2 kids by age 20. The third baby was born when I was 24, divorced at age 27. I was too young the first time. I married again at age 30 to a wonderful man who loves me and my kids and we had 3 more kids together. He went from bachelor to instant family. We just celebrated 25 years of marriage and I can't imagine my life without him. Take your time...you will know when the time is right to settle down.

Sorry, I had to laugh. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for 6 years-we are not married yet. I have a twin sister, a 21 year old sister, and BF has a sister (32 I think). My boyfriend and I have been together longer than any of them and they are all married and have kids now. My sisters constantly ask when we are going to get married. I just tell them, when I finish school and have a job.

Don't worry about being single. I'm 40 and not married. I still have friends and acquaintances who mean well by trying to match me to someone. I just figure that I can't put up with someone long enough.... :P

Enjoy living your life the way YOU see fit. Marriage isn't for everyone (look at all the divorces). Do whatever makes you happy. My daughter got married at 35. I was proud of her for not "settling" just because most of her friends were married but rather waiting for the right man.