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mrspete 12-22-2010 07:25 AM

Good one Coyote, but I always use the first word my mom ever taught me..... and it ain't dada.

GAQS 12-22-2010 07:25 AM

Yes, we all have been there at one time. I had a very good friend that saw my fabric collection and announced to her family that whenever anyone needs anything that they should go to my house and get it. My comment to that was that everything was off limits to all adults. Only children were welcome to come and play with my fabric and notions.
Good luck!

oatw13 12-22-2010 07:36 AM

We have one of those people, too.

Aside from being firm and blunt (this person thinks "rude"), the one thing that worked for me was to tell them I would gladly sell them whatever it is they wanted. So, next time she wants your fabric, offer to sell it to her at a reasonable price. I guarantee you, she won't want it anymore. If you do this several times, she will quit asking and look elsewhere for her "free ride."

Don't let her get you down. Most people aren't like that.

clem55 12-22-2010 07:41 AM

Been there!! Hubby's family. It would almost make me sick the way they took advantage of him" because he had such a good job" , and "Carol doesn't have to work, or Carol has so much ' Well, Carol did without a lot of things, and Carol was pretty good at making something nice from something old. I still find it very hard to say no to anyone, probably always will , and probably will always be taken advantaqge of, but, I'd rather be the way I am, than be the taker!

amandasgramma 12-22-2010 07:46 AM

Okay -- go to a thrift store and pick up some fabrics or to a cheap store and buy about $20.00 worth of fabric. Set it to one side when she comes.....tell her she can pick out anything she wants from that, but the other fabrics are NOT to be touched....that it's for certain quilts and if she takes anything you'll be short. If she stares, stare back....don't let her take advantage of you!

joan_quilts 12-22-2010 07:46 AM

This woman wanted a quilt I made last year. I told her $50 for it and she agreed. She got here, told me I needed to wait for her disability check to come in within a day or say and she would pay. STUPID on my part!

She paid me alright, with 10 pounds of pork sausage from a hog they butchered! She figured that was a good trade! I really do know better than to deal with this woman, but, I am trying so hard to keep the peace!

This woman mooches from everyone. She hates paying full price for anything. When her daughter and my son got married, she thought I should pay for the wedding gown! The gown cost $300 brand new, and this woman wanted to go to Goodwill and by a used one for $20! See what I am dealing with?!

BATIKQLTR 12-22-2010 07:47 AM

I think you should continue to be gracious for the sake of your Son and DIL. If you are moving in a year anyway, you will feel better knowing you were kind with someone that is a little off. As infuriating as it is, she is like unruley children being brought into your home, just put some things away while she is "visiting". She is obviously mentally challenged and your DIL will always remember how kind you were to her Mother.

However, that being said, I think maybe packing away your fabrics that you would like to keep is a good idea. If she asks what happened, just say you have started packing some things for the move. When she starts acting "funny" just change the subject and move her to another room.

My MIL always said "There but for the grace of God go I" when she encounterd someone with "problems" of any kind. She was a nurse, so she met up with a lot of them.

sewgray 12-22-2010 07:48 AM

Just tell her no, you're keeping it. No explanations neccesary

melslove 12-22-2010 07:50 AM

I would taking her to pick out her own fabric, no touchy my stashy!

Sadiemae 12-22-2010 07:58 AM

Does your room have a lock???


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