One gift.

My goodness, Give her a gift card to salvation armys store.

You certainly don't have to send a wedding gift to someone you are not close to, especially if you are not attending the wedding. From your description of your relationship with her and her expectations, I would be conveniently "busy" the day of the shower. Tell her you are really sorry you can't make it. Then go buy some fabric, instead of wasting money on a gift for someone like her.

I know this is not help but I thought as I read your post that with the cost of fuel now it is a big sacrifice to just travel to any event. I only buy and send what I can afford no matter how close the bride and groom might be to me in my heart.

If I remember correctly you have up to a year to send a present. And they have 3 months to send a Thank you and both should sign the Thank you.

The only dress information that is ever mentioned is if it is 'Black Tie" otherwise you don't say anything. But no one wears white except the bride.

And if your older children do not answer the invite; you do not bring your younger four children to a formal sit-down dinner and give less than it would cost to take them to McDonalds! (That is the truth of a family wedding.)

Since this isn't a close friend or relative, and you don't know WHY you were invited(probably just for the gift), there's no law that says you HAVE to go, period, just tell her you will not be attending.

sounds like "bridezilla!!!!!!!!!

dar

LMAO now that is sound advice and very funny too.

Why are you going to the shower? She sounds rude to me, oh she sounds like a Bridezilla. I would give her a card and a gift certificate for $25.00 and skip the shower and the wedding both, since you do not socialize with her. Sounds like she is just looking for gifts I also like the going in with someone on a bigger gift too, espceially if you go to the shower. Do not give a wedding gift.

quiltingsavta-you have a great idea, it would have to be Bailey's favorite charity, because it sounds like this gals favorite "charity" would be herself.