I must admit, I'm a Libran and very true to form, so I find it very easy to see both sides of things. And I simply choose to believe the positive in most things. I give the benefit of doubt all the time.

My grandma used to say: Who cares if it is half empty or half full? If there is something in it, you won't be thirsty.

I agree it's hard to unsee things. I usually avoid opening them if they look like they will be yucky. And today, opened a new topic because the old one was getting defensive. ( I admit, I was getting defensive, about something I thought mean.) So- switch gears and talk about the topic in a way not fraught with emotion and finger-pointing.

(It was about being mean to fat people, which got a bit heated. My topic is about food rules and how we can all eat better- the book and idea of eating better food as a society. Not so many emotional buttons.)

I like the sound of your grandma hazeljane ;)

Hubby and I were having a discussion one day about someone we know who is constantly negative. He blurted out "her glass isn't just half empty, it has a hole in it, and it's leaking out, and it's red wine leaking onto white carpet!" Talk about laugh!

You have to feel pity for those people. What must it be like to live your life like that? I'm generally not a whiny person, but on my rare cranky days, I just shut up. My husband teases me about it. When I know I am totally irrational, I just don't speak. (I'm pretty sure it's hormonal)

My husband's ex-wife is a professional victim type. I keep hoping for her sake that she finds some joy in something. Anything! For me, it can be as easy as looking at some of the quilts folks make here, or a good cup of coffee in the morning and a kiss from a shy dog. I think the less than rosy times in my life have given me opportunities to find the blessings in the small sweet things in life.

It's funny you should say that. Some of the happiest people I know are the ones who have been to absolute hell... and come back from it. They're inspirational, and like you say, if you look hard enough you can find blessings in the smallest things.

Thank you Blue!!!

:D :thumbup:

Imagine what it's like to have one of those kind of negative people for your mother. She's been doing everything in her power to suck the joy out of life for everybody around her. And my sister is a whole lot like her.

It's really tough on a perpetual optimist!! I'm pretty much a silver lining kind of person.

I am a thankful my glass has anything in it person. I try to see the lighter side of life - my job is certainly working with the less cheerful stuff of life. We all have hardships in our lives. I come here to have a laugh, and I am grateful to the people who provide that. If you see a post of mine that is negative, don't hesitate to PM me and tell me to lighten up!
I love your avatar Blue Chicken.

I'm just going to answer the question. Half full.