TanyaL

My GD had this problem and the issue was Celiac Disease. She is SUPER sensitive to gluten. We had her on a usual gluten free diet, but had to go to a picky, picky diet where nothing at all touched her if it might have gluten, including school paste, crayons, toothpaste, etc. We called companies to check on their processing procedures, etc. One tiny exposure such as using soap for a bath that has gluten in it - think bubble bath liquid- would take up to 2 weeks to get out of her system. Because of the Celiac Disease her body gave her no warning she was about to poop. She was so embarrassed when it happened, and before the problem was solved the public schools had told us they couldn't admit her the next year! That would have been her first grade. The doctors didn't tell her father to get extra vigilant, he did it on his own. In fact the doctors had never seen a child that sensitive to gluten.

damaquilts

This is abuse and it will get worse. Support your daughter. When a child is constantly critcized about anything it causes problems later in life. I am not saying not to disipline or to spoil a child . I think the chiropracter is a good idea. Find one who is experienced with children. Ask around, get references in person not what it says on their website. Being cruel is NEVER a teaching experience.

QuiltnNan

I agree with this. Additionally, though, if you learn of a treatment that they have not used, you should share that and allow them the choice to use that treatment or not. I know, it is very hard to see and not help.

dolobelcher

Yes, Our young son, (now 40) had a hard time, I was a stay at home mom,so I had time to work w/him. WHEN he did go to the bath room praise works wonders, they need to get together on this. It will help your G child & Mom & Dad. Hope this helps. Dot

jitkaau

Dad is possibly overly anxious because he doesn't want the kid to suffer the same emotional hurt that he did over the issue. They could both possibly benefit from speaking with an expert in the field who can give them some sensible advice as to how to cope with the situations as they arise.

romanojg

I wasn't going to weigh into this subject since it's such a hot topic until I saw your post. My grandson had a problem from the time he was born where any BM caused him extreme pain; we tried everything, the doctors, diet, laxatives nothing worked. It got so bad that he'd hold his legs together to try and make it not happen because he knew the paint that was coming. At that same time I was going to a chiropractor for my back. Not one that caused you lots of pain but one that used one of those machines that ran down your back to get it back into alignment. He taught me about how the spine works with all of your nervous system and the different parts that we never think about it affecting. My grandson was around 1 1/2 then and I had him to do a scan on him and I had never told him the problems that my grandson had. The scan showed that my GS had issues with his sinuses and his intestinal track. These were the only two problems my GS only had. He did an adjustment and that afternoon my GS had two BM while running around playing and I didn't even know it. I had him adjusted a couple of more times but he's now almost 6 and all is right with the world. Potty training is a tough thing in my family of mostly boys but this little boy did really well. I learned all children need to be checked. Think about what their bodies go thru just going thru the birthing process. What have you go to lose. Maybe this other boy can't feel the sensation of when he's got to go. In most children the BM is normally the easiest thing to get them to train from.

Wanabee Quiltin

I have no experience with this problem. However, I do remember a nephew and a grandson telling me about a girl in kindergarten who went in her pants and how they did not want to play with her. Their parents and teachers did not say anything negative about the little girl, however the children themselves ignored her. Is this an ingrained thing ? I don't kinow but I do know that punishment is not going to work, it will make it much worse. I would try a chiropractor is no one else can help the child, they have helped me a few times too. Good Luck and turn this over to God.

scrapbeagle

My son was slow to train as well. Number 1 was very easy once I stopped using the pullups and used the old fashion cloth training pants. I used pullups at night, but he woke up dry from the very start. Number 2 was a little harder to do. He would use the potty for Number 1 and then poop in the pants. He eventually got it right, but it wasn't until he was about 4 1/2 years old. He trained himself just in time to enter PreK4 school. Your SIL may need some parenting classes. Your grandson sounds like he just needs maturity time. Good luck.

yngldy

How much milk does he drink? He might have an intolerance to it. Has he been tested? You can cut out milk for a day or two and see if it still happens. I can only drink about 3 or 4 oz at one time. Anymore and within a few hours I have to make a mad dash.

Peckish

My youngest son had this problem. The doctor kept blowing me off, saying it was just a stage, this wasn't unusual, etc. I finally got cranky and insistent, and the doc relented and did an xray which showed my poor lil guy had about 6 pounds of extra stuff that shouldn't be there - he was chronically constipated. This will cause a loss of sensation, which means they can't feel when they need to eliminate, and then have lots of accidents.

I'm hoping that since your daughter has taken the boy to see a physician, this has been ruled out, but as I said, it took THREE visits to my pediatrician to find out the cause of my son's problem.