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Thread: And then it's winter

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    And then it's winter

    You know. . . Time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.

    But, here it is... The winter of my life and it catches me by surprise...How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.

    But, here it is...my friends are retired and getting gray...they move slower and I see that I am an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me...but, I see the great change...Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant...but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we'd be. Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore... it's mandatory! Cause if I don't on my own free will... I just fall asleep where I sit!

    And so...now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!! But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I'm not sure how long it will last...this I know, that when it's over on this earth...its over. A new adventure will begin!

    Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn't done...things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I'm happy to have done. It's all in a lifetime.

    So, if you're not in your winter yet...let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don't put things off too long!! Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life...so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember...and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!

    "Life" is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.

    LIVE IT WELL! ENJOY TODAY! DO SOMETHING FUN! BE HAPPY ! HAVE A GREAT DAY
    Remember "It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver "
    LIVE HAPPY IN 2013! LASTLY, CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING: TODAY IS THE OLDEST YOU'VE EVER BEEN, YET THE YOUNGEST YOU'LL EVER BE SO - ENJOY THIS DAY WHILE IT LASTS.


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    Your kids are becoming you......but your grandchildren are perfect!

    ·Going out is good.. Coming home is better!
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    You forget names.... But it's OK because other people forgot they even knew you!!!

    ·You realize you're never going to be really good at anything.... Especially golf.

    ·The things you used to care to do, you no longer care to do, but you really do care that you don't care to do them anymore.
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    You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV blaring than in bed. It's called "pre-sleep".

    ·You miss the days when everything worked with just an "ON" and "OFF" switch
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    You tend to use more 4 letter words ... "what?"..."when?"... ???

    ·Now that you can afford expensive jewelry, it's not safe to wear it anywhere.

    ·You notice everything they sell in stores is "sleeveless"?!!!
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    What used to be freckles are now liver spots.

    ·Everybody whispers.
    ·You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet.... 2 of which you will never wear.

    ·But Old is good in some things: Old Songs, Old movies, and best of all, OLD FRIENDS!!
    I quilt, therefore I am.

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    ....and it stinks!! I finally have the knowledge to do my FMQ and I have to pace myself because my body gets cranky if I do too much.

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    Ditter did you write this or someone else? It is beautiful and so true in any case. I just turned 60 in May, and I don't know where time has gone. I have one son who is grown, and he's my baby yet he is where I was just a few years ago, and thinks he is getting old. My dad is 80, and says I am young. I am the oldest of my parents 4 kids. Mom left last year, and dad can't wait to see her. I can feel the aches and pains, but yes that is life. I have lupus and never ask for it, but it became my unwelcome friend along with a few other unwelcome friends. I have my sense of humor and hope that always stays with me. I have life regrets, and think most do. I did do a few crazy things in my life, and not proud of all of them or even half, but life wasn't dull. lol... I now see myself not caring what people think of how I dress etc, as long as it pleases me, and I am decent. I do feel so rich in the loving people and friends around me. I seem to find my best vacation right out in my own green yard, and front porch in the evenings with a good cup of coffee. I didn't even know the passion of quilting/sewing until I beheld what was really life's riches. I am so glad you posted this. It is such a blessing to me.
    "Sometimes it's OK if the only thing you did today was breathe."
    Good friends are right there with you.

    Susan

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    All of a sudden I feel a chill!! Thanks for reminding me! lol

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    This is poignant, and it sets you back, when you have to have your meds re-evaluated because I am a senior.
    Jo

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    thank you so much for sharing!

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    Thanks Ditter!
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    Ditter, are you in my head? I do have regrets but I just keep going on, I have no choice. What I really hate is not having enough energy or will to do the things I want to do.

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    You have expressed my thoughts so eloquently!

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    Thank you, Ditter. I know now what has been going on! I have become my mother!
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    So very well said Ditter and others ...... I am looking more like my mother every day and acting more like my grandmother ..... and nobody seems to care, sometimes not even me.
    Make it a scrappy happy day!

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    When I was up north for my granddaughters graduation, there was a family conflict going on and wonderment about attending the graduation. I told one of the parties that everyone has some kind of regret but don't let this be one of them because two people who are not related don't get along. Luckily, the most important people the graduate cherished the most were there with their unconditional love. No matter how much one gets upset with a loved one the last comment should always be " I love you and nothing else is more important than that." I don't agree with many things many others say, I have very few grey areas. What's right is right and what's wrong is wrong. I love all my family and I tell them all the time. I end every conversation with "I love you bye." That I will never have to regret saying. I love saying it to them. I also tell my grandchildren's mothers "Thank you and I love you for what you've given me. I may not like some of the things they do but I love them for giving me the grands.

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    Dear Ditter: It is the winter of my life also. I will be 70 on June 20. I have become one of the older people you spoke about! I have few to little regrets and have had a wonderful adult life. Not so much before age 18 however. I am so happy and content with my life and myself now. I, too, have aches and pains that weren't there , it seems just a little while ago. Where did they come from? They just sneaked up on me! I tell my family I love them all the the time and they will never know how much I really love them... Life has been good to me. And my faith has stood the test of time... May God's favor be on you always... Kindly, JoAnn

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    We recently went to a concert of an all-male chorus. Several friends of ours sing with this fun group. We got there and got seated and started looking for our friends. Couldn't find them in the choir. Looked, and looked, and was getting a bit upset - did we come and they weren't even singing? Finally, sheepishly, I realized I was looking for the upright, brown-haired, vigorous men of my memory. Not the stoop-shouldered, white-haired gentlemen who were up there ready to sing! Gave me a slap in the face with reality.

    I have been blessed by the model of the strong women in my family who have led the way for me. The lovely ladies who gracefully and graciously showed me how to weather each season with dignity, to treat everyone with respect, and to love everyone in their worlds unconditionally. Thank you, Dear Ditter, for reminding me to live in the moment and appreciate what is while remembering what was.
    So many quilts, so little time.

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    Thanks Ditter. I'll be 67 in Sept. Am battling cancer, shingles and Candida albicans, a parasitic yeast. I just keep taking all these pills.......

    I appreciate your insight and humor.

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    Where oh where has all the years gone? I sometimes think that. My oldest Daughter is turning 47 and I can remember when I was that age. Seems it wasn't that long ago. I just turned 68 a few days ago. I get burst of energy less often, glad I do still get them.
    I have out lived 4 siblings and often wonder why. Three were younger than I and one was the oldest. Two years older than I. I am so thankful for my years on earth. I have 6 Grands, 1 more I adopted as a Grandson and 2 Great Granddaughters and a Great Grandson born 2 minutes after my birthday. I have been so blessed by living this long and be able to have them all in my life. Most importantly I still have my Husband. We are married 51 years. I remember my blessings real often.
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    This life is the only one you get - enjoy it before you lose it.

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    Ditter... all so true... everyday we have a choice to make... do I smile? (at least as best I can...) or do I complain?
    Some days it is certainly not easy to smile, but my prayer is that everyday, I choose to smile and be thankful for the many, many blessings of life.

    If I live according to the statistics, and my genetics, I'm in the fall of life... but I know that God has a plan for me and I ask Him often to help me be ready for His plan!

    Thanks for sharing!!!
    "... let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us."

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    Thanks Ditter! Oh, so true!
    If a woman's work is never done....why start?

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    I just returned from taking my 83 and 85 yr old parents to the coast. I see the future real clear if I live another 20+ years. They both are in good health for their age. They refuse to use a walker, they both need one. They hold on to each other with one cane. It was like watching a child learning to walk...........................
    Just passing through!

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    Ditter you made me cry ! It is so true that life runs by. We must have been in the same high school class. Last month I attended my 60th reunion. Yes, I have had fun raised 4 children, have one sister, and 4 grandchildren and many friends world wide. I have my faith, an active passport, and a loving husband of almost 2 years. Also have a dog. As long as there is a good cup of coffee and fabric what more could I want???? Hugs

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    So absolutely beautiful and true...have been experiencing the same. A few years ago I wrote this about my own winter...
    "Forever Friends"
    What began in dawning spring, now is winter's night.
    Come walk a ways with me on my journey to the light.
    Take my hand; we'll just walk and talk a while.
    We'll be forever friends, go that extra mile.

    Lots to share and lots to tell... that I am for sure.
    I'll tell of hopes and dreams, memories to endure.
    I've traveled so many paths, with many a hurt and sting.
    Seems like minutes ago, but it was early... in the spring.

    I don't know where the time has gone since way back then.
    Lots of trouble sorting things out .. the where.... the when.

    I remember summer, the warm breeze blowing through my hair,
    Laughing memories, “did this”, “did that”, as my life I share.
    There were hard times, pain beneath a heavy load. I agree!
    Yet there were the times of beauty as far as you could see.

    It was in the fall, as leaves turned from green to rust, gold, red,
    I took a soulful look at the wandering paths I'd tread.

    At times, don't always know the best way I should go.
    I get lost! Lose my way...take paths piled deep in snow.
    Winter is the greatest challenge, if truth be told .
    My head says spring; my body shivers in the cold.

    Now I see a turn ahead, one veering to the right.
    I know that's your way; I must go toward the light.
    Perhaps, beyond that unknown space of where and when,
    Our paths will cross, then merge, and we'll be friends again.

    Until...
    Cecelia

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    Loved your post Ditter! I would have to say that I'm in the autumn of my life, and still very healthy and strong, so I am going to take your heartfelt words very seriously and start doing more and experiencing more. Your post puts me in mind of an Erma Bombeck quote I truly love: "When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, 'I used everything you gave me'."



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    That was a wonderful post, Ditter. I often reflect on how things my mother once told me are now things I have learned to be true for me also. Still learning.....

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    Wow, Ditter, you read my mind. I love what you wrote and have passed it along. You said so perfectly. Thanks.

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    Lovely post, Ditter, thank you for putting into words the things that most of us feel

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