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Thread: They wouldn't go home!

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    Ok, last night my youngest son, Rob, who is 17, had 3 friends over. It was getting close to 11 and I asked them if they were going home. They all looked at me and asked "didn't I want them to stay?" HUH?!

    It is Christmas Eve and I thought for sure they would go home to be with their families. Nope! I said they could stay, but HAD to go home this moring by 10.

    Am I odd, or would you be sad that your teenaged or early 20's aged kids would rather not come home and stay some place else? These kids don't have bad home lives, they just don't have the kind of mom I am.

    Even our granddaughter stayed last night and she is almost 4 months old! NOBODY would have ever kept me from having my kids with me on Christmas day! My son and his wife figured since she was sleeping last night, they would just come get her this morning.

    Don't get me wrong, I love having her, but I just can't understand how they could leave her!

    Oh, the strange things that go on! I devoted my life to my kids. I have given all their friends a safe place to come to. The only problem is, they don't want to leave! LOL I really don't mind, I gave them all their stockings last night, but still find it sad they don't want to go home.

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    I think they are home at your place. :)

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    You are right! The even said that! Plenty of food, lots of fun and they know, NO DRINKING OR DRUGS are ever allowed here. They follow those rules to a t! Not that they would do those things, but the first time kids come here, I tell them the house rules.

    Isn't is sad though? These kids love me and dh and stay on week-ends. Heck, we even put a twin sized mattress in ds room for his best friend so he had his own bed! LOL

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    Home is where the heart is and guess what! Your heart is biggest of thier families. Love them and live with them they show you much love by wanting to be with you and your son

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    Well...the 4 month old...she does not know the difference..just that she is in a loving home...the others...its sorta nice that they all love being there, you most be an amazing, loving person!!! But that being said....I think I would want them to go home so I could enjoy the quiet...; )

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    You are blessed. Isn't it nice knowing that those kids know they are always welcomed in your home? You are sure doing something right.
    Merry Christmas.

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    There are times I just want everyone to leave, but, that is when I hide out in my sewing room and get my quiet! LOL I just know they are all safe here and I don't have to worry about them.

    Our motto here is FOOD IS LOVE! Well, you say that loud enough and you will get teenagers coming over alot! But, dh and I don't mind spending a bit extra on groceries because they are good kids and do help out around here.

    Last Saturday, I told them the had to go home so I could clean. The 2 extras I have that were here, begged for me to give the housework so they could stay! ROFL Hey, they did help!

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    What a loving home you must have for the kids to want to stay there. I miss having kids around now that mine are grown. I always felt better when the kids and their friends were at my house and welcome. My parents were alcoholics so we would never bring friends home, not knowing what shape the parents were in. I made sure my children and grandchildren knew their friends were welcome

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    Its so nice that you Welcome everyone, I would have rather had my kids and thier friends at my housetoo!

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    Our house was the 'place' to be also, there were plenty of times I got frustrated by it but looking back now I am happy we could do it. I always knew what was going on and what my kids were up too....we used to spend ALOT of money on food back then ...

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    When my sons were in high school a friend of theirs stopped by on Christmas morning. I wasn't going home for Christmas that year on Christmas day and was having another family who were alone to join us for Christmas dinner. Well, the boys friend stayed and stayed, and finally I sat another place at the table and cooked some extra food (he was a teenager after all and you know how they eat). I said something to my sons in private several times about him going home to be with his family but he had told them he wanted to stay with us. I would have been so hurt if that had been my sons not wanting to be home on Christmas.

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    What a wonderful GIFT they all gave you!!!!!! It could be the opposite -- they could say they don't want to be at your house!

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    When I was a kid there was no way that I was gonna' stay at any body else's house--family or friend on Christmas Eve!!

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    I think that says a lot aobut u and your home. Say a prayer for each once and they leave this morning. As for your grandaughte.....you probably gave the parents a great give of a night of sleep.

    Blessings, I'm sitting alone as my family is all over the place. Be thank fulf you have someone to hug and be with this special day.

    Blessings. lovequilts

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    When my boys were in school they had friends that came over to eat....every meal....all the time. At first I was upset because one boy ONLY came over to eat and then would leave...until I found out his mother had money for partying, drinking, cigs, etc, but never bought food. Another boy actually got whipped if he ate any food other than what was bought for him and stored in his cabinet (tons of Ramen noodles)...it sounded untrue until it came out of his mother's own mouth as she bragged that she allowed herself steaks but her kids were only allowed to eat what she bought and labeled for them! I never knew there were such skrewed up adults in this world! That same mother took a belt to her son (age 10 at the time) for taking some of "her" cheese and putting it on his Ramen noodles! I called DHS and asked them to investigate the situation and the horrible welts on the boy's back. I never turned a child away from my kitchen and they felt like it was paradise because I always baked cookies, cakes, pies, etc and kept them in the kitchen for "the boys". As adults, the first thing "the boys" ask is if I still bake. I think it's sad, but also, as a person in public education, I know that the small bit of heaven children receive during the day or from kind strangers are often the only kind acts and words in their lives. I think you are a wonderful person for allowing this child to share in your warm, safe, holiday home environment.

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    Be thankful!! This is the worst Christmas I can ever remember. My husband and I are alone for the first time. All the children are married and have their own families. Last night and this morning have been depressing. We will be with all of them later today but it is not the same as having them home. I miss the days of a house full of children or bigger children home for Christmas.

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    As someone who is alone also, you brought back sweet memories with your posts. My Mom was like this with anyone who wanted/needed somewhere to go. She would invite everyone she knew that was alone or in difficult situations. There would alway be friends of the kids that were still at home there as well. The house was always overflowing with people. And there was always tons of food. She was an awesome cook! Seems that people are too busy now a days to have these kinds of holidays. It seems really sad to me. Oh, well... I think I will sew and keep myself busy today.

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    What a lucky bunch they are to have found such a welcoming home. Sounds like they come from homes that have something wrong with them and they have found a safe place to find comfort. So treat them like your own and put them to work, I used to do that when I got tired of all the kids visiting. Surprised me how much they did and with great enthusiasm they preformed jobs that I didn't like to do myself. They were nice kids and even now, 30 or so years later, I still meet them and they tell me how much it meant to them at that bad time of their lives. Only now do they tell what was really happening to them at home then!!!

    Enjoy your guests, looks like you're already treating them like family and know that you'll be blessed in showing them what a real family is like.

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    when I was 17 I would have rather been at a friends on Christmas than my house she had the home life you dream about and mine stunk so I can see where the kids are coming from.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweet
    I think they are home at your place. :)
    Ditto!!

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    To me that is the BEST Present and compliment someone could give you........
    I still on the other hand can't understand why their families didn't want them home???????????

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    Quote Originally Posted by luv-e
    To me that is the BEST Present and compliment someone could give you........
    I still on the other hand can't understand why their families didn't want them home???????????
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    Sweetie, you're very innocent on the ways of the world. As a family member with a LOT of cops in it, we hear way more than the regular public about the way humans abuse the innocent and weak in their families. No wonder a lot of cops suffer from depression. And we're always being asked to donate to this or that family or person by our badge wearers, and this does not get into the news at all.

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    Grrrr, my son started staying away from home at 17 and i do wish some parents had sent him home. it would have relieved me of so much worry.

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    Joan how blessed you are. we have the some thing here. Our last daughter come in at 10:30 last night. We thought she was going to Tampa with her new BF.Instead she said that it would not be Christmas without Dad and I. BUT in return she called all of her friends and guess what. We have six girls in their 20's here. We have been cooking breakfast for 2 hours. We did the same as you did. Ask when they were going home. what a look we got. they all said at once "We are HOME".What a surprise.so we are having 6 girls.MY bathrooms are a mess. But who cares.I will clean after they leave.
    Have a wonderful Christmas to you and all your family.

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    You must have a very loving home!

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