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    Unappreciated

    Guess people who don't sew can't appreciate hand made things. Made a set of satin pillow cases for a client for her birthday last year. Another client came into the beauty shop today while she was getting her hair done and announced to everyone that she had bought a satin pillow case and how well her hair was staying. last year birthday girl said I must get me one. Oh well.... Wanted to tell her that she had two somewhere. Ha

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    Ouch! Maybe she doesn't know what satin is? Know you gave her a nice gift.

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    The client probably gave them away or put them up and forgot she had them. Her loss. Next time just send a fruit basket. LOL
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    Ouch, that hurts! Maybe she'll go home and look for her set now that she has heard how nice they are.

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    Sadly that is often the case. Older daughter wanted to make younger daughter a quilt for her wedding. In a sneaky way older previewed pattern & fabrics before younger. Younger was totally unenthusiastic about project. She got $$ for wedding gift which she probably appreciated more. Older hand quilted one for sister-in-law's wedding. Dogs were sleeping on it. Word to the wise and mother-in-law rescued it so it now resides on their spare bed. Glad I don't hand quilt. I least when I longarm quilt it will stand up to some dog love. But I try to be careful to whom I gift Batiks and $15 a yard fabric, usually ME.
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    pillow cases forgotten

    Ouch....no, people don't know. They see quilts at walmart all finished...whaaa laaah. Ok only christmas card next time!
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    Not worth the stress only give to people who appreciate..

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    Eons ago I made my ex-MIL a wool bargello pillow, backed in velvet. Not to be petty but it wasn't exactly cheap to make (wool yarn is pricey!). But I'd made one from my Mom (which she kept on display on her couch) so I didn't want to look like I was playing favorites. What did MIL do with the pillow? Used it in her fishing boat. Some people just don't know anything... LOL!
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    Yeah, been there.
    I sell (and give away) baby quilts and other things and my "best friend" just went and bought baby things from a store for a friend!
    Oh, well.

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    A friend saw a quilt I'd made at a Carol Doak class - $10 a yard fabric - cost of the book plus cost of the class too - it easily came to a couple of hundred dollars -and she said "It's my 25th wedding anniversary soon - I'd love that quilt; I'd put it on the wall". So, what do you do? It was my first very complicated star pp quilt in my favorite colors but I gave it to her. Fast forward a few months and I'm visiting and the quilt is face up the pool table "to keep the cats off it". So now I'm very choosy about who I give my quilts to.
    And my ddl doesn't seem to want anything making for the new, first, grandchild - maybe she doesn't share my taste - but I've made him a play mat anyway....


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    You never know. I just made a quilt for my husband's cousin, an older single man. I want him to use it so I made sure the colors where darker so dirt and wear would not show up to bad if used well. He loved it! No one had ever taken the time to make him anything. He is always making something and shares with all. We have a mobile he made with metal. I am so glad I took the time and gave him a quilt. (Right now we are vacationing with the family and he is enjoying his quilt, nightly!)

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    I have a friend who is...not gifted in the crafty area shall we say. She always compliments me on things I make and buy and how I decorate. She now lives across the country from me and I have helped her find things for her home online and she buys them. I kid her and say her house would be empty if it weren't for me! Well a few years ago I made her a lovely quilted wall hanging. It was her colors and not huge. She lived in two homes since then and she still has not hung it up anywhere.

    Recently I showed her a quilt I made and she said how much she'd love to have one. I reminded her that I gave her a wall hanging and what room is it hung up in now? She said she couldn't find the right spot but that she "will always treasure it". I said well good because that is your quilt. I'm sorry but I am not making her a quilt if she won't even take out and SEE the one I did give her.
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    Maybe the woman was just being polite and didn't want the more recent client to know that you had given her a gift for her birthday, that way the newer client wouldn't be expecting a set of pillowcases also.
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    Wow.....you are right. Those who do not sew or do any crafting have no idea the "true" value/pricelessness of a home made gift. Not on you; it's all on her. I am sure the next individual will truly see the love, kindness, and heart you created just for them. Remember their are others out the who can and will appreciate such a wonderful gift YOU

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    I think most of it is jealousy, because not all women want/can make quilts, etc. I find men love quilts and will use them. Once I give a quilt away I forget it as mine. Have to just let it go.
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    Yea, you have to be choosy who you gift homemade stuff to! I've learned my lesson too!
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    Not quilt related, but amusing anyway: Years ago, as a Christmas present, I gave a friend a tool which would assist them with their home renovations that they were doing at the time.(An extremely 'thoughtful' gift I thought).A while later, they were complaining how expensive a new tool that they had bought was....of course, their surprise when I pointed out that they already had one, from me.lol Perhaps people don't realise the 'worth' of something until there is a need for it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phannie1 View Post
    You never know. I just made a quilt for my husband's cousin, an older single man. I want him to use it so I made sure the colors where darker so dirt and wear would not show up to bad if used well. He loved it! No one had ever taken the time to make him anything. He is always making something and shares with all. We have a mobile he made with metal. I am so glad I took the time and gave him a quilt. (Right now we are vacationing with the family and he is enjoying his quilt, nightly!)
    I was surprised by my nephew's reaction: I made him a quilt when he was around 9. He watched me make it and his mother, my sister, said that he always remade the bed if she didn't put it on top. It has lasted long enough that he is 41 years of age and still using it.Perhaps I ought to contemplate a 'new' one?

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    Last year I gave my GD a quilt made with horse fabric. She's going to a camp tomoorow and when I talked on the phone with her the other day she said she was taking a quilt with her and did I know which one? I guessed one I had made several years ago but she said no, she was taking the horse quilt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phannie1 View Post
    You never know. I just made a quilt for my husband's cousin, an older single man. I want him to use it so I made sure the colors where darker so dirt and wear would not show up to bad if used well. He loved it! No one had ever taken the time to make him anything. He is always making something and shares with all. We have a mobile he made with metal. I am so glad I took the time and gave him a quilt. (Right now we are vacationing with the family and he is enjoying his quilt, nightly!)
    When my son (now 32) was about 3, his sister made him a quilt - just big squares sewn together, very little quilting and plain backing. He's still got it, it has disintegrated almost totally - a lot of it looks like the knees on kid's jeans nowadays with all the slashing.

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    It is hard when our gifts are forgotten, misused or unused. It is really hard when we have spent many hours/days/weeks and considerable money making the gift. I have made gifts that were loved and used while other gifts, I have never seen again. Sigh.

    It is hard living in a society that places so much importance in things and not in actions. I have tried to teach my kids to appreciate the act of giving and/or making by valuing each gift they receive. This is my revenge!

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    My little MIL used to hand make quilts for everyone in the family. Just ask for one and its a done deal. My SIL asked for one and of course Mom made it for her. A king size . Everything was hand stitched . My hubby and I went to visit her and guess where we found it? Under the van to catch the oil so it wouldn't stain the concret. Made me so dang mad I had to leave for a while. Now how's that for gratitude???
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    Quote Originally Posted by Noiseynana View Post
    My little MIL used to hand make quilts for everyone in the family. Just ask for one and its a done deal. My SIL asked for one and of course Mom made it for her. A king size . Everything was hand stitched . My hubby and I went to visit her and guess where we found it? Under the van to catch the oil so it wouldn't stain the concret. Made me so dang mad I had to leave for a while. Now how's that for gratitude???
    I would have snatched that quilt up and dang the concrete!
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    Maybe labels should include the number of hours a quilt took to make. something like "Made in 120 hours of love for my DIL Susie from Nancy."

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    I know the feeling also! I cross-stitched a pillow and stuffed it and all, spent many hours on the friendship saying and gave to a girl friend. The shock value in finding it at a "thrift store" being sold on consignment hurt my feelings deeply. Needless to say, I purchased it back and then confronted the friend with it. She said it had gotten sent by mistake and put the blame on her husband. Trust me, after a 30 year friendship, I know when someone is telling me a lie.
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