Appreciation
#21
Power Poster
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Northern Michigan
Posts: 12,861
you really should not expect anything- are you giving just for personal acknowledgment? you are setting yourself up for big disappointments in life. these days many people have never been taught to send 'thank you' notes. don't even think about it- they are not being *negative* they just don't think about it. the act of giving may bring you joy- but you should not be expecting others to pat your back- I grew up in a family without much- my mom made most of our clothes and we were always 'teased' about our home made clothes when all of our friends had the latest fashions from J.C. Penneys- or where ever- 3 of my siblings pretty much want nothing 'home made' if it doesn't come from a store they really don't want it- I have made them all quilts- which they really do love- but at the same time- they kind of keep them 'hidden away' because they are 'home made' and didn't come from 'Pottery Barn'- my quilts do get used-by all 3 of them- but they just don't show them off....my younger brother said his friends would think he was 'poor' ....oh well.... we are all different, to expect everyone to react, behave, love or dislike the same as we do is just grounds for hurt feelings (self inflicted- and hurts no one but yourself- makes no sense) don't expect KUDO's---enjoy them when they surprisingly happen- be happy with yourself the rest of the time...and don't go to the post office every day wondering where your 'thank you' card is...there are many more pressing things to concern yourself with.
#22
I've been very lucky to receive hand-written thank-you's with photographs of the baby on the quilt from most of the people to whom I gave baby quilts: my real estate agent's daughter, the wife of a former co-worker (who I'd never met) and the son of a good friend. I've made quilts for the babies of co-workers and received a verbal thank-you and I've made quilts for my children who give a verbal thank you as well. I do keep a photograph of each quilt I make and those with babies on them are the best!
#23
I don't make quilts for anyone except my children and grandchildren, reason being I was rejected once when I told a dear friend I was going to make him a quilt. To me it is the utmost of myself I can give so I reserve it for my family. Good for you who can give them and not be hurt by other's rejections. I can't do it though.
#25
Senior Member
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 311
I made a quilt for a neighbours new baby, born beginning of May this year. I never got a thank you, but more than that. I HAVE NEVER EVEN SEEN THE BABY. They are a private couple, so I do not want to knock on the door, even though the Father promised to bring the baby in to see me.
Ouch! That hurts!
#26
Senior Member
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 311
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