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Thread: Casket cover quilt vs. casket flowers

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    I work at (2) local funeral homes and since working there I see the waste in funeral flowers, especially the casket flowers which cost several hundred dollars..soooo....I decided I would quilt me a quilt to go on my casket and my family can take it home with them. Has anyone else thought about doing this??? I know we don't like to think about death, but it is coming to all of us.

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    I have thought about that actually. I was thinking about making one for my grandma when she passes away. save my parents loads of money on those flowers.

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    I made a lap quilt for a friends mother..they used it on the kneeler rail at her funeral. I really was honored that they would do that. I agree that flowers are so expensive and do not last.

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    I would think some of the bed runner patterns would work good for that.

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    what a wonderful and thoughtful idea

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    Quote Originally Posted by prairiequeen
    I would think some of the bed runner patterns would work good for that.
    Bed runners is a good idea; mine is more lap top size..

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    when my daughter's newborn died, i made two small quilts. one was buried with the infant and one went home with the family. it now has a proud place on the wall with the pics of the other 4 kids.

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    Friends did this for their Mom several years ago.
    And since then, several others have followed with one or several quilts on display!

    At another funeral this past spring, the lady had been working on a quilt, with one block left to finish. They had the quilt at the funeral, and the one last block in her hand in the coffin. Since then her DIL completed the quilt for her. Then her husband (son of) decided it HAD to be shown at the Fair, just as Mom always would have done so. And so it was, winning a ribbon!! What a beautiful story, and perfect ending!! :)

    As a sidestep here ... when my husband died, I didn't have the traditional casket spray, rather chose a milker with a bouquet worked in the top of it. We set it on the floor right next to the casket!! His tombstone is not traditional either ... rather an oversized rock from our farm that I had mounted, and with an engraved cow, and our farm name. The traditional details are on mounted on the base.

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    At my brother's funeral, they did a combination of both...a quilt that I had made him to use while he was getting chemo, and some flowers that picked up the colors in the quilt...but not a large arrangement, just a small one and it looked really nice.

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    Here in So. Jersey, most people choose to send most of the baskets of flowers to area nursing homes (as well as to churches if it'll be close to a Sunday service)...so at least the flowers are given the chance to be enjoyed be others...the spray of flowers across the top and/or the inside from the immediate family are left to blanket the top of the grave...but I also love the idea of a small lap quilt to go on your loved one...Naomi

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    Quote Originally Posted by betty jo
    I work at (2) local funeral homes and since working there I see the waste in funeral flowers, especially the casket flowers which cost several hundred dollars..soooo....I decided I would quilt me a quilt to go on my casket and my family can take it home with them. Has anyone else thought about doing this??? I know we don't like to think about death, but it is coming to all of us.
    My dad insisted that we spend as little as possible on his funeral - he had a strong opinion on the kind of profits funeral directors seemed to want. He even wanted us to find him a cardboard coffin, since he was going to be cremated, but they don't seem to be available in Ireland. In the end, each of us carried a single rose, and we draped his coffin in a quilt I had made him, of the White Ensign ( UK Royal Naval flag). I don't think the crematorium had seen anything like our dad's. He wasn't religious, so we didn't have a priest, we did our own thing, reminiscing on various aspects of his life, including landing on one of the D Day beaches in France. I noticed that all of the staff who had carried dad into the chapel for us stayed at the back to listen, and afterwards, one who gave me back his quilt, was kind enough to say that if it weren't for people like my dad, Ireland might have not been able to stay neutral during WW2.

    It was a very kind thing to say, and I really appreciated it.

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    I like the idea -

    Sort of like a civilian "flag" to put over the casket

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    I've told my kids that I want to be cremated, after the doctors have used whatever parts of my body I'm through with, then I want my kids to hurl my ashes at whatever neighbor I'm mad at at that time. The rest I want put in the mountains in Yosemite where my late DH and I back packed on our honeymoon. Or else in my dear Milton, WV hills where I spent my childhood, wondering over those green, green hills.

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    Actually, this is weird. I was just thinking about this last week. I am highly allergic to most flowers although plants are ok. I think the quilt would be perfect and I'm going to add that to my "requests". As they say, I hardly ever get flowers/plants now so I certainly can't enjoy them when I'm gone!

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    that thought has crossed my mind a time or two. I'm not into flowers myself and would prefer something a little longer lasting.

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    I've also told my family not to spend a lot of money on a casket for my body (not that I'm particularly concerned that they will :? )

    My feeling is that - if I can't afford decent furniture now - what's the point in spending a lot of money on something that's just going to get put in the ground - after only a couple of days of ownership?

    Unless it's a tree or something like that, of course.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bearisgray
    I've also told my family not to spend a lot of money on a casket for my body (not that I'm particularly concerned that they will :? )

    My feeling is that - if I can't afford decent furniture now - what's the point in spending a lot of money on something that's just going to get put in the ground - after only a couple of days of ownership?

    Unless it's a tree or something like that, of course.
    Pre-arrange your funeral ... then no one can mess with your wishes in a sudden moment of stoic guilty grief!!!!!

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    I would rather have a colorful bouquet (s) of fat quarters , and those that attend can take from the bouquet .... I would rather have that than funeral cards.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lori S
    I would rather have a colorful bouquet (s) of fat quarters , and those that attend can take from the bouquet .... I would rather have that than funeral cards.
    Now there's a way for us to distribute our stashes!!! :)

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    They have been doing funeral quilts for several years now. I intened on making mine and one for mom as well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by QuiltE
    Quote Originally Posted by bearisgray
    I've also told my family not to spend a lot of money on a casket for my body (not that I'm particularly concerned that they will :? )

    My feeling is that - if I can't afford decent furniture now - what's the point in spending a lot of money on something that's just going to get put in the ground - after only a couple of days of ownership?

    Unless it's a tree or something like that, of course.
    Pre-arrange your funeral ... then no one can mess with your wishes in a sudden moment of stoic guilty grief!!!!!
    I'm not very concerned about that!

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    Quote Originally Posted by prairiequeen
    I would think some of the bed runner patterns would work good for that.
    I was thinking the same thing.

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    I want everyone who I have ever given a quilt to bring it to my funeral for a "show and tell"! I have given away hundreds and I think it would be cool to "see" them all together in one place. And of course I want lots of pictures!!!

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    I had made my Mom a lap quilt which she really liked. When she was cremated, I had the quilt go with her. So it is mixed in with her ashes that we will spread on the creek that's on my sister's property. I have my quilt that I cover with when I nap in my easy chair. It will cover my casket when I die. That's not going to be anytime soon though. :-)

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    i have made a number of casket quilts for friends and loved ones- and a couple by request for people i did not know-
    maybe it's a location thing- we've been seeing them draped across caskets here for as long as i can remember- in lieu of flowers on the casket.

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