Chatty Cathy
#61
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I remember when our Chatty Cathy was talking up a storm at a workshop. She was at a table behind me. I said ____, are you talking to yourself or do you want comments? I said it in a fun way and she laughed and said Oh, I'm running off at the mouth again, I'll be quiet for awhile. You have to speak up and say what's frustrating you but remember the other's feelings too.
#62
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Falcon, Colorado
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Very interesting! Carol34446 - you go girl!! Steady Stitching, margee, Barb in Lousiana, Betty62, Lizzies home, FroggyinTexas, CAS49OR, Nessie - thank you for speaking up. I do not belong to a guild due to the this openion that I have to fit There mold or just get out, there colors, there designs, there area of town, there line of work...the intolerance is intolerable! Isn't the spice of life what makes it more enjoyable?
#63
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She may be trying the group on for size and she may decide that you are not her cup of tea either. I'd give it some time. If she is a drama queen, then not getting the response she needs will make her not come. If she is just suffering from newbee jitters, she may well adapt to the cameraderie in the group and fit in. You just never know. I met my BGF that way. Told DH that I will either have to kill this crazy woman or befriend her and as I didn't want to go to jail.....30 years later we are still friends and she is still crazy. lol
#64
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Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Mission Viejo, CA
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"Chatty Cathy" might be feeling like she needs to talk about herself so someone in your group will feel they have something in common with her and want to be her friend. I can't help but think to myself, how would I feel if I were in her place? If I were talking so much others wanted me to leave the group, I would wish someone would at least let me know what I was doing to offend the others. I would hope someone in the group saw something worthwhile in me to look past my faults, (...we all have faults). I would be devastated if the group started meeting at another location in which I had not been invited!!! You could start the group time in a new way more structured, plan to go around the room giving everyone a chance to say something about...something like the most memorable discussions they can remember in the group, and during that time mention how much you like it when the group is mellow.
#65
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Dallas, TX
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I dropped out of Brownies in second grade because I couldn't understand why girls were so mean to each other. I haven't changed my opinion much.
Seriously, I've been thinking of joining a quilt guild. It also has several small groups that meet at member's houses. I am an introvert & it takes some "courage" for me to join things & try to make new friends. I found this post so disheartening...
Seriously, I've been thinking of joining a quilt guild. It also has several small groups that meet at member's houses. I am an introvert & it takes some "courage" for me to join things & try to make new friends. I found this post so disheartening...
#67
By the title I thought this was about the real "Chatty Cathy" doll. lol I still have mine!! Sorry about the chatty lady at the meeting. Maybe she will wise up and be a little less talkative..but there are some people that just are that way. It can be difficult to sit by them.
#68
I remember when our Chatty Cathy was talking up a storm at a workshop. She was at a table behind me. I said ____, are you talking to yourself or do you want comments? I said it in a fun way and she laughed and said Oh, I'm running off at the mouth again, I'll be quiet for awhile. You have to speak up and say what's frustrating you but remember the other's feelings too.
#69
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Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Texas, USA
Posts: 5,896
I dropped out of Brownies in second grade because I couldn't understand why girls were so mean to each other. I haven't changed my opinion much.
Seriously, I've been thinking of joining a quilt guild. It also has several small groups that meet at member's houses. I am an introvert & it takes some "courage" for me to join things & try to make new friends. I found this post so disheartening...
Seriously, I've been thinking of joining a quilt guild. It also has several small groups that meet at member's houses. I am an introvert & it takes some "courage" for me to join things & try to make new friends. I found this post so disheartening...
I don't think anyone means to be mean, here. It's just that different people have different comfort levels, when relating to others. I don't dislike chatty people but non-stop chatterers eventually make me very tired. It's a sort of sensory overload.
#70
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Saratoga, Arkansas
Posts: 1,909
I think there is a difference between contributing (talkative) and dominating a conversation. When one person hogs the conversation and is constantly talking about themselves and their interests at the expense of other people in the group who would also like to comment, I think it is rude behavior. I've been a mother of three little stair-step boys and I understand how one longs for adult conversation. But the word conversation means everyone who wants to join gets to. If you know you're chatty, try asking leading questions to your friends to include them. Your might learn something interesting about them. We all love to talk about ourselves or to help others, so ask for help with a quilting problem or about a recipe, anything to get others to talk too. Please be thoughtful of all the people in the group and don't dominate. JM2C.
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