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Old 04-26-2013, 09:40 PM
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I started a Marine-corp themed quilt for my brother who left for Marine Corp boot camp a couple months ago. He just received a medical discharge and he is devastated.

I don't know whether to give him the quilt or have it "dissapear". It was going to be a surprise for his graduation.
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Old 04-26-2013, 10:00 PM
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I would tell him my dilema and let him decide if he wants to have the quilt or not.
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Old 04-26-2013, 10:20 PM
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I would make it disappear. It would be a constant reminder of a dream that didn't happen.
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Old 04-26-2013, 10:22 PM
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I would personally wait to give it/mention it. I would let him recover from his loss and settle in before I reminded him of what could have been. The military is a pride thing. Maybe for Christmas, you know your brother better then anyone so you'll know the right time.
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Old 04-26-2013, 10:25 PM
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The same thing happened to my brother in the Navy. I would not give it to him if it is Marine Corp themed. Maybe you can rework it enough to change the theme if it isn't already quilted.
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Old 04-26-2013, 11:41 PM
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I would have a chat with him he probably needs comfort at this time. He may want the quilt for a memory, using what ever he has at home of uniform badges etc. or turn it into a wall hanging.
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Old 04-27-2013, 02:11 AM
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I would make it disappear. It would be a constant reminder of a dream that didn't happen.
I agree. I think I'd make him one with a totally different theme.
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Old 04-27-2013, 03:14 AM
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I'd finish it and pass it on to Quilts of Valor.

But first... I'd ask your brother how he feels about it all.
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Old 04-27-2013, 03:34 AM
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I agree with the "don't mention", and "pass on to Quilts of Valor." Smart people on this board!!
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Old 04-27-2013, 03:44 AM
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I'd donate it to someone else. If he's devastated, then it would be a constant reminder of what he isn't, wasn't and never will be. No one wants/needs to be reminded of what they didn't become.
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