Has quilting made you more or less of a loner?
03-01-2011, 10:38 AM
#71
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But to this day my heart aches, no more close friends for me thank you!
So with that said, I guess I am a loner and just trying to find something to do to fill the void... :-(
Oh dear Lady.... I know we are all different. I don't have many friends, but I treasure the few I have. Try again. Join a group. It's too easy to seperate yourself and start becoming
"weirder". Tis better to love and lose than to never love.
Try only asking questions and listening to the other person, relating to what is important to them. After a meeting or two you can slowly introduce something about yourself (but keep it short and simple!). Do you think maybe I've been there???
Live is too short to waste any of it.
So with that said, I guess I am a loner and just trying to find something to do to fill the void... :-(
Oh dear Lady.... I know we are all different. I don't have many friends, but I treasure the few I have. Try again. Join a group. It's too easy to seperate yourself and start becoming
"weirder". Tis better to love and lose than to never love.
Try only asking questions and listening to the other person, relating to what is important to them. After a meeting or two you can slowly introduce something about yourself (but keep it short and simple!). Do you think maybe I've been there???
Live is too short to waste any of it.
03-01-2011, 10:50 AM
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so sorry your Sister's journey ended. i too have lost my buddy of 45 years to bone marrow cancer. i think your sister quilted so much to try and forget the pain - and take her mind from the trials she had to go through. its easy to share things through the internet - but quilting is not as easy as it seams - long hours and lots of thread go into our pieces of cloth - but the end result - oh boy, beautiful. - most people want instant gratification and that does not come with quilting. - treasure her gifts and share them with people you love. c.
03-01-2011, 10:57 AM
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I am sorry about your loss.
In a way I think it has. I don't have very many friends that do what I do. Today I had a friend over that sews/quilts and does some other crafting that I do. Sometimes her and her daughter and I will go shopping and make a day of it together. We have fun. I am in a sewing group but most of those ladies live quite a ways away ( an hour or more). I guess I could get involved in a quilt group that meets in the next town over. but they meet at night and really I don't want to go out at night.
In a way I think it has. I don't have very many friends that do what I do. Today I had a friend over that sews/quilts and does some other crafting that I do. Sometimes her and her daughter and I will go shopping and make a day of it together. We have fun. I am in a sewing group but most of those ladies live quite a ways away ( an hour or more). I guess I could get involved in a quilt group that meets in the next town over. but they meet at night and really I don't want to go out at night.
03-01-2011, 11:11 AM
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I was always somewhat of a loner. I am in pain a lot and dont deal well with social situations. I love this board as I can interact and share and visit and all the good social stuff,but at my own pace and in my space.I can be in my pajamas or whatever and not have to worry how I look ,and if I get tired I dont have to sit and try to visit when I just wanna lay down.I truly love people,so being able to have friends and share is a real blessing!!!
03-01-2011, 11:17 AM
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Oh, Donna, I am so sorry you lost your sister. My sisters and I are scattered all over the place, so I don't see them as much as I would like. I am a home body, but I do go into the LQS and do sit and sews at least once a month. I do enjoy this website and chatting with everyone.
03-01-2011, 11:17 AM
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Sorry to hear about your sister. I am sure it has not been easy, even the task of dispursing of her items she cherished.
I am not sure I am a loner, I spend a lot of time alone, but I prefer being in the company of others and thrive on it. I was in the work force until a month ago due to permanent layoff. Missed the conversation and people. But slowly I don't anymore and dont want to get out there and find another job. (Thank goodness I dont have to-we will never be very well off, but DH and I know being happy is more important than having things.) I have all of your posts to read and reply to. I feel like you are sitting across the table from me sipping on coffee in the morning, tea in the afternoon, and margaritas or a glass of wine at night. (Wish that were true.) Nope, I am not a loner.
I am not sure I am a loner, I spend a lot of time alone, but I prefer being in the company of others and thrive on it. I was in the work force until a month ago due to permanent layoff. Missed the conversation and people. But slowly I don't anymore and dont want to get out there and find another job. (Thank goodness I dont have to-we will never be very well off, but DH and I know being happy is more important than having things.) I have all of your posts to read and reply to. I feel like you are sitting across the table from me sipping on coffee in the morning, tea in the afternoon, and margaritas or a glass of wine at night. (Wish that were true.) Nope, I am not a loner.
03-01-2011, 12:15 PM
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I am sorry about your Sister, you and she are in my prayers.
I have been a loner almost all of my life. I was an only child and had to make my own entertainment. (before TV and the internet). I worked outside the home until I had to retire to become a caregiver. I was a caregiver for my dad with Parkinsons, then my Hubby with Alziemers and then my Mom with heart and walking problems, she died at age 92.
After I lost them I was entirely alone and sold my house in Florida and moved back to Pennsylvania to be near my daughter. I had found quilting along the way and love the act of creating new and pretty things with fabric, so I was content to be a loner. My daughter is always trying to get me to go out and "Meet people", but I would rather stay home and sew or spend time on the computer. I am hearing impaired and have trouble walking due to Arthritis, so that precludes many of the things that I could do "out there". I am going to volunteer 1 day a week at the local hospital, doing computer entry, which they really need help with, to satisfy my daughter and I hope make it possible for me to make a few friends. Wish me luck.
I have been a loner almost all of my life. I was an only child and had to make my own entertainment. (before TV and the internet). I worked outside the home until I had to retire to become a caregiver. I was a caregiver for my dad with Parkinsons, then my Hubby with Alziemers and then my Mom with heart and walking problems, she died at age 92.
After I lost them I was entirely alone and sold my house in Florida and moved back to Pennsylvania to be near my daughter. I had found quilting along the way and love the act of creating new and pretty things with fabric, so I was content to be a loner. My daughter is always trying to get me to go out and "Meet people", but I would rather stay home and sew or spend time on the computer. I am hearing impaired and have trouble walking due to Arthritis, so that precludes many of the things that I could do "out there". I am going to volunteer 1 day a week at the local hospital, doing computer entry, which they really need help with, to satisfy my daughter and I hope make it possible for me to make a few friends. Wish me luck.
03-01-2011, 12:23 PM
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Originally Posted by grammy17
Originally Posted by luvstitches
So sorry about your sister.
Yes, I've become a loner more so since becoming a quilter.
It is addicting and lately it is all I want to do besides hang out on the quilting board.
Yes, I've become a loner more so since becoming a quilter.
It is addicting and lately it is all I want to do besides hang out on the quilting board.
03-01-2011, 12:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Lv2sew2011
Well, after a friend of 17 years just stop having anything to do with me, I refused to be hurt like that ever again, so now I keep my distance. I won't let people get close to me. So all I have now is my computer, quilting, and other crafts. My sons hardly ever call me or visit. So I guess Internet friends is all I have in my life at this time.
To this day, I have no ideal why my friend stop having anything to do with me, I ask her if I had offended her and she said no, that I had done nothing, but I must of did something to hurt her and she never gave me a chance to say I'm sorry. After 3 years trying and crying to find out what I did, I just gave up.
At that time I had loss a lot of weight and became much smaller than her, but if she could only see me now, I've just about put it all back on from depression.
I've told people about this and they seem to think the weight loss might be the reason she quit having anything to do with me, I just don't know...
But to this day my heart aches, no more close friends for me thank you!
So with that said, I guess I am a loner and just trying to find something to do to fill the void... :-(
So Sorry for your loss, I know what it's like to loose a sister, I lost my sister to drowning in 2009 she was my only sibling...
To this day, I have no ideal why my friend stop having anything to do with me, I ask her if I had offended her and she said no, that I had done nothing, but I must of did something to hurt her and she never gave me a chance to say I'm sorry. After 3 years trying and crying to find out what I did, I just gave up.
At that time I had loss a lot of weight and became much smaller than her, but if she could only see me now, I've just about put it all back on from depression.
I've told people about this and they seem to think the weight loss might be the reason she quit having anything to do with me, I just don't know...
But to this day my heart aches, no more close friends for me thank you!
So with that said, I guess I am a loner and just trying to find something to do to fill the void... :-(
So Sorry for your loss, I know what it's like to loose a sister, I lost my sister to drowning in 2009 she was my only sibling...
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