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Thread: how would you handle this?

  1. #176
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    you need to stop her now. if you don't she'll think she can continue to use you. and it sure sounds like using you is what she is doing. you have invested fabric and time and now she wants you to quilt it so she can sell it and get the benefit.
    doesn't sound like a friendship to me. if you lose her as a friend then she wasn't much of a friend to start with. if you clean up behind her and quilt it for free you'll probably quilting for free from now on while she sells what you quilt.

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    Sounds like she is not a friend,send her on way.You have more important things to do than to try to p lease her. I think you are wasting your time

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    as i read this again, i realize it sounds like this will be easy for you to do. i don't think it will. it wouldn't be for me either but i guess you pay on one end or the other. either 'man up' and stop her behavior now or pay by having her trying to get you to do all her quiliting gratis from now on.
    not gonna be easy but i think i'd want to fix it now.

    Quote Originally Posted by laurac
    you need to stop her now. if you don't she'll think she can continue to use you. and it sure sounds like using you is what she is doing. you have invested fabric and time and now she wants you to quilt it so she can sell it and get the benefit.
    doesn't sound like a friendship to me. if you lose her as a friend then she wasn't much of a friend to start with. if you clean up behind her and quilt it for free you'll probably quilting for free from now on while she sells what you quilt.

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    We all agree on one thing: Give it back and explain to your "not a friend" that the quilt top cannot be quilted in its present condition. You have given her enough already. Let her take it to someone else

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    We are all waiting to know what you do or did.

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    One more thought on this subject... I agree this person appears to be taking advantage of this situation, however, it may simply be an issue of lack of education. Since she is a newbie (I can relate), perhaps she isn't aware of the fact that her top isn't truly 'finished'. In terms of the 'rush' issue, she may not be aware of the work involved in quilting the item, but she should have purchased the batting and backing so you wouldn't have to take the time. I would encourage you to be gentle with her but return the top for finishing. Instruct her on what needs to be done (including purchasing the batting and backing) before you can quilt the top. Then let her know what your timeline is for finishing the item and what your expectations are for sharing the profits. If you agreed to quilt the item for her for free before you found out she sold the item I would encourage you to honor your word. She will learn far more from you teaching her what needs to be done and setting out your expectations ahead of time than if you simply throw your hands up at the situation and any relationship even if casual you may have. You can be the bigger person and still not be taken advantage of in this way. Just a thought...

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    Just saw your update. Looks as though you handled it well. Kudos!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scissor Queen
    Are you out of your mind? You put 90% of the fabric in, did the cutting, you have to BUY the backing and batting and pay for the quilting and SHE'S going to get the $400????

    Seriously???
    I was thinking the same thing until I read further. It is not worth the hassle. Don't let someone else take your joy of quilting from you. It's one thing to show someone or help them, it is another thing to allow them to put their work off on you. I am still learning that a lot of people don't care about your time and what's important to you as long as you are doing what they want you to do when they want you to do it.

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    Well, what happened when you gave it back to her to fix???
    I read every page, and do not see what happened. Please tell me what happened.............
    Bev B

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    I think I'd be afraid that after I went to all the work of fixing it and quilting it, she and the receiver wouldn't be satisfied with it and they would decide it was my fault.

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