Glassquilt

Can you start moving non-sewing stuff into the dining room / living room? Leave TV alone and start setting up your end the way you want it. Paint the walls, hang pictures & curtains. Decorate your portion. Maybe he'll like how nice it looks and help finish the rest.

Years & years ago, when wives stayed at home and didn't work outside, I read an article in one of those woman's magazines about getting hubby to fix the broken back of a chair. The suggestion was to fix it with Scotch tape doing a very crude job. Hubby would be too embarrassed to let anyone else see it and would therefore rush to get it done properly.

mic-pa

I would not have waited 10 yrs. I would have hired someone to finish it long before that. Love him??? maybe. like him I don't think so. I am my own self and usually do what I want.

Karen Powell

Good idea do you know a scotch tape whole saler HUM wonder how curtains out of duct tape would look. LOL I love everyones ideas and you are making me really think about this seriously. I am a deeply devoted woman and pray for everyone and every thing else. Perhaps its not a bad Idea to pray for somthing for my self. Is that selfish ?

QuiltE

Absolutely NOT ... if you don't take care of yourself FIRST and foremost, you can't continue to take care of everyone else.

There's a quote (wish I knew who penned it first?) that I have anchored to for years ...
"Saying NO is saying YES to yourself"

It's about time you said NO to all this other stuff that is happening around you and to you, and start taking care of Number One ... that's YOU!!! :)

bluteddi

yep... whats always worked best to get hubby motivated to get MY projects done.. is for ME to jump in and at least ACT like I am going to finish it..... He is all about" u mighthurt ur self on that ladder" , u dont' need to be trying to paint that ceiling, ur gonna hit ur fingers with that hammer, etc etc etc,,,,, " smile.... works every time....

Candace

Finish your studio yourself. Don't depend on someone else to make you happy. I build and do things on my own all the time. You can do it if you make it a priority.

fabric_fancy

it doesn't matter what you do for a living - its your living.

i would tell DH he's got 30 days to empty that studio and get back to work on it or you're hiring someone else to do it for you.

i also earn my living from this art and my DH would never take that attitude. its my career and helped us buy 4 homes, 3 cars, a boat, and a motorhome - all this with zero consumer debt.

just because its art doesn't mean its not allowing you both to have the finer things in life and he needs to finish this space so you can grow your business and your bank account.

quiltmouse

Move your sewing machine in there.

Every time the big screen comes on, sit down & sew.

peggymunday

Hon, you have to take charge. If it was originally intended for your business you need to claim your space. It doesn't have to have drywall to make it a studio. I ran a custom window treatment business in South Carolina for 10 years with just studwork and concrete floor. It was a lucretive business despite the fact I had a view of black tarp on the ceiling and insulation batting on the walls between the studs. It still suffices. Besides it's easier to find studs to hang shelving.... lol Just a note, after I divorced in 2000 and moved back to TN, a couple of years later he finally finished out the downstairs... go figure. Now I have a Victorian with lots of space to roam, and can put my shop any place I please. Sometimes karma is nice. Good luck to you in your business and decisions.

Kehoeta

Love it..... passive aggressive.


I also agree with everyone that says - get in there and do it yourself... I am married to a non-DIY guy... If I need something, I have no choice but to do it myself.


Karen - God helps those that help themselves. 10 Years is a heck of a long time for you to have put up with this.