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My sister...feeling out of sorts???

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Old 03-04-2011, 08:38 AM
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Originally Posted by betsey
This has been on my mind since yesterday. I am in a similiar situation right now. I offered a family member a bed quilt for her wedding gift as opposed to a monetary gift. She chose the quilt. We met at my home to discuss colors, patterns, style, etc. I had many fabrics and photos and books for her to get ideas and choose from. She brought her finance(?),who offered no input. Basically she chose a classic sampler with blues, white and yellow. Excellent choice, I thought. A short time later she told me she would like some butterflies, flip flops, and the New York Yankees put into the quilt. I told her I could get butterfly fabric, some "beachy" fabric, and put a Yankees patch on the back of the quilt. I started making the blocks and emailed her photos-no reply. After weeks, I emailed again-no reply. After finally calling her she said she got the photos and thought they were "OK." I am so discouraged, and have lost interest in finishing this quilt as I feel my time and effort are not appreciated. That being said, I did offer to make her a quilt and gave her probably too much input. I will finish the quilt and give it to her to do with it what she will. When you give a gift you should give it with no strings. People that don't quilt have no idea of what making a quilt entails. With reagrd to your sisters quilt, your fabric choices are great. Take control of the situation, make it how you want, give it with love and then be done with it. As far as the skulls-no, no, no. The boyfriend probably won't outlast the quilt. Good luck.
I agree. Ignore the boyfriend - he probably won't last. Tell her you don't do skulls and other ghoulish things. As for a quilt for her - I'd do a scrappy with black, white, and red. Make it twin or lap size and if she doesn't like it, you won't have speent a lot of time on it. Would also use a simple pattern like Yellow Brick Road. Good Luck!
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Old 03-04-2011, 09:33 AM
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Some people just really do not like "quilts" If you are making it for her then the boyfriend is not to be considered. If she doesn't appreciate your quilt give it to someone that will love and cherish it.

Let her buy the fabrics. . .
I can't work with ugly fabrics it's just not my "Thing".

You are a better person than I if you make her a quilt of any kind.
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Old 03-04-2011, 11:33 AM
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Disappearing 9 patch would be perfect for this, quick and so easy, if you decide to do anything at all. I'm stuck with regard to this wedding quilt, already invested too much time and money. If I were you I'd hold off with your sister's quilt. If you are like me, it will be a struggle from start to finish.
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Old 03-04-2011, 04:15 PM
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I think your DH put his finger right on the problem. Don't expect gratefulness from her - just make it in love. If she doesn't like it, that is HER problem. Your fabrics are gorgeous. If she doesn't like it, send it to me! :)
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Old 03-04-2011, 04:24 PM
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Can't wait to see the finished quilt.
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Old 03-04-2011, 05:32 PM
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Perhaps think about this?
Make a top in these red black and white colors using a simple pattern you like.
Like a rail fence or ninepatch double irish chain...
The drama in this quilt is the colors!
Then show it to everybody involved. Finish it and give it to the ones who like it best.
Maybe somebody would like it in shades of all browns - or blues.
People who don't quilt do not appreciate the difference between a simple and complicated pattern.
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Old 03-04-2011, 05:55 PM
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Originally Posted by Rachel
Originally Posted by BellaBoo
I would ask her why a boyfriend would care enough about a quilt being made by a sister to a sister, And for her to bring him up for consideration is foolish when it's a lasting gift from you to her not you to him. He could be gone next month with a new girlfriend and then the quilt would just be a reminder of him and not wanted anymore.
That's kinda what I was thinking... you're making the quilt for your sister, not her boyfriend. You offered to make one for him and she said no, so I'd just make it for her.

I agree with both statements!
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Old 03-04-2011, 06:04 PM
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Make a quilt that makes you happy. In the making you will find it's home.
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Old 03-04-2011, 07:21 PM
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Make quilt for sister # 1 first ,then work on sis # 2 quilt and make what you want,cause if you try to please sis as well as boyfriend then it becomes a chore and just know that you are making something from your heart and with lots of love,maybe a pattern with a meaning of sisterly love ,like "SISTERS CHOICE"? But the choice being that of the makers not the one reciving the quilt,I say this becuse I have been where you are and if sis doesn't quilt my quess is that she has little knowledge of time as well as money that goes into making a quilt.Remember that you should enjoy your craft!
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Old 03-04-2011, 08:10 PM
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Those are beautiful fabrics. I think you should make the quilt- from the heart like you planned. Your heart will know what to do with it when you are done.
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